Ever felt stuck, shut down, or unable to take action—even when you want to? That’s the freeze response, and in this episode, trauma-informed somatic marriage coach Becky Aste joins me to break it all down.

We explore how freeze is different from fight, flight, or fawn, why some people default to it, and the surprising ways it can show up in your life and relationships. We also talk about the hidden connection between freeze and self-sabotage, the biggest mistake people make when trying to “snap out of it,” and how to tell if you’re truly resting or just shut down.

Most importantly, Becky shares powerful, practical ways to start thawing out of freeze—including somatic practices to reconnect with your body, a compassionate reframe to release shame, and small steps to help you trust yourself again. If you’ve ever felt paralyzed by stress or stuck in cycles of self-abandonment, this episode is a must-listen.

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