Welcome back to Breakup to Blessing! In today’s episode, we dive into one of the most difficult and confusing experiences in relationships: when your partner says they don’t love you anymore. Whether they say they’ve “fallen out of love,” are “no longer in love,” or just “don’t love you anymore,” it can feel like a sudden and painful blow. This episode explores how to make sense of this news and how to handle the aftermath.

We discuss:

• Why this news often feels like it came out of nowhere.
• The key questions to ask yourself to heal, grow, and let go—without falling into the trap of self-blame or spiraling into negativity.
• How to reflect on the reality of your relationship beyond your idealized version of it.
• Why it’s important to look at patterns in your relationships and how you show up in them.
• The importance of self-forgiveness and releasing feelings of shame and regret that keep you stuck.
• A powerful question to ask yourself: What does it look like to choose myself now?

This episode is for anyone struggling with a breakup or a partner’s sudden shift in love. Tune in to gain clarity, insight, and a sense of empowerment as you navigate the next steps of your healing journey.

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Hey everyone, welcome to another episode of Breakup to Blessing!

Last week, we talked about second chances in relationships—what it takes to make things work the second time around. But what if getting back together isn’t an option or isn’t what you want? That’s exactly what we’re diving into today.

This episode is all about the inner work you can do now, while you're single, to grow into the person you want to be in your future relationships. Because even if there’s no hope for a second chance with your ex, the work you do on yourself today is what sets the foundation for a healthier, more fulfilling relationship down the road.

We'll cover: ✅ How to reflect on past mistakes without getting stuck in regret ✅ Why insight alone isn’t enough—and what real growth requires ✅ How to practice new relationship skills before you're in a relationship ✅ The power of letting go of your past identity so you can create a better future

If you’ve ever felt frustrated that you’re repeating old patterns despite all the growth you’ve done, this episode is for you. True change happens when you integrate what you've learned into your everyday life—not just in theory, but in practice.

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In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we dive deep into the topic of second chances in relationships. Whether you’re the one asking for a second chance or you're on the receiving end, there’s an important truth to remember: a second chance only works if something actually changes.

Insight alone won’t change behavior. Real change happens when you become someone who can show up differently, especially when it comes to handling conflict and emotional regulation.

We explore how emotional reactivity can escalate situations and why learning to pause, regulate, and communicate effectively can transform your relationships. You’ll also hear about the importance of self-awareness, choosing your battles wisely, and understanding when an argument is about connection vs. control.

If you’re hoping for a second chance or thinking about giving one, this episode is full of tools and insights to help you make sure it leads to real transformation, not just repeating old patterns.

Key Takeaways:

• Why insight alone isn't enough to create change in a relationship.
• How emotional regulation and self-awareness play a key role in avoiding conflicts.
• The importance of pausing and reflecting before reacting in moments of tension.
• Choosing your battles wisely: how to assess whether an argument is worth having.
• The essential relationship skills of self-regulation, accountability, and emotional intelligence.

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In today’s episode of Breakup to Blessing, I’m addressing a question submitted by someone who recently ended a 3-year relationship and is feeling lost and lonely. I also want to extend this conversation to anyone currently in a relationship and feeling disconnected from themselves. It’s common to prioritise others—partners, families, children—and forget what makes us come alive. If that resonates with you, this episode is for you.

We’ll explore how to reconnect with yourself after a breakup or in the midst of a relationship where you’ve lost touch with your individual needs and desires. This episode will help you rediscover what makes you feel truly alive, so that you can reestablish a strong connection with yourself and start living authentically again.

In this episode, we dive into:

• Reframing the question from “finding yourself” to “reconnecting with yourself.”
• Why it's important to revisit your past to rediscover what brought you joy before the relationship.
• How to identify the things that made you feel most connected to yourself, and how to bring those feelings back into your life today.
• Practical examples of how to reconnect with activities and passions that made you feel alive.
• Overcoming the challenge of putting yourself first when you’ve spent years prioritizing others.

If you’re navigating a breakup or simply realising it’s time to focus on yourself again, this episode will offer insights and actionable steps to help you on your journey. You don’t need permission to prioritise your own happiness—you’re worthy of it!

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Are you too quick to disqualify people when dating? Or do you stay in relationships longer than you should? In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we’re diving into the real questions behind “Is this worth it?”—and how shifting your focus can change your dating experience entirely.

We’ll talk about: ✅ The fear of wasting time and how it holds you back ✅ Why focusing on checklists instead of connection can sabotage potential relationships ✅ How detaching from the outcome can actually bring you closer to what you want ✅ Practical ways to engage in the dating process with curiosity, not pressure

Plus, I’ll guide you through some key reflections to help you reassess your approach to dating and relationships. If you’ve ever felt frustrated by the dating process or worried about running out of time, this episode is for you.

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Hey everyone! Welcome back to Breakup to Blessing. In this episode, I dive into a powerful idea: "You are one decision away from a completely different life."

I share two defining moments that shifted my perspective after my divorce and how I realized that I had the power to shape my future. We often live on autopilot, following the path we think we're supposed to take—until something disrupts it. But what if, instead of seeking comfort in the familiar, we embraced the unknown and created a future we actually want?

I challenge you: What’s one decision you can make today that could change everything? Let’s break free from limiting beliefs and step into the life we truly desire.

In this episode, we explore: ✨ How to stop living on autopilot ✨ The trap of seeking comfort instead of growth ✨ The power of a single decision to reshape your life ✨ A thought-provoking question that changed my entire outlook

I'd love to hear from you! What’s the one decision you're making today? DM me on Instagram @sylviasuwan or email me [email protected]

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Breakups are tough—whether you’re the one ending things or the one being broken up with. But why do so many people struggle to do it clearly and respectfully? In this episode, we’re taking a different perspective: what it’s like for the person initiating the breakup and why communication missteps can leave both people confused and hurt. I’ll explore: ✔️ Why breaking up is hard—even for the person initiating it ✔️ The rise of ghosting and why people avoid difficult conversations ✔️ How to end things with clarity, kindness, and integrity ✔️ What to do after a breakup to heal and move forward ✔️ Insights for those on the receiving end of a breakup If you’ve ever struggled with ending a relationship or been left with unanswered questions after a breakup, this episode is for you. 🔗 Join the conversation: Share your thoughts, experiences, or questions for a future episode! 💬 If you found this helpful, leave a review! Your feedback helps others find the show. 🎧 Listen now and learn how to break up the right way!

💔 Feeling down about Valentine’s Day? You’re not alone. Whether you're single, healing from a breakup, or in an unfulfilling relationship, this special bonus episode is here to offer comfort, encouragement, and a fresh perspective. ✨ In this episode, we’ll explore: ✔ How to reframe your thoughts and emotions around Valentine’s Day ✔ Why social media might be making today harder (and what to do instead) ✔ The real foundation of fulfilling relationships—beyond grand gestures ✔ Five powerful self-reflection questions to help you build the love and life you truly deserve ✔ Fun and unexpected hobbies to try (including Neurographic Art and handwriting analysis!) 💡 Remember, your happiness isn’t dependent on a relationship—it’s about creating a life that feels full and meaningful on your own terms.

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In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we’re diving into one of the biggest missing pieces in relationship and conflict resolution—emotional regulation. We’ve all been taught communication techniques like “I” statements, active listening, and mirroring, but if you’ve ever tried these strategies and still felt stuck, frustrated, or unheard, you’re not alone. The truth is, no communication skill will work if you’re emotionally dysregulated. In this episode, you’ll learn: ✅ Why emotional regulation is the foundation of healthy communication ✅ Signs that you may be emotionally dysregulated (and what to do about it) ✅ How to stay present and grounded during conflict—without relying on your partner to change ✅ The mindset shifts that turn conflict from a power struggle into an opportunity for deeper connection By the end of this episode, you’ll have practical tools to navigate disagreements with more clarity, confidence, and emotional control. 🎧 Listen now and take the first step toward transforming the way you handle conflict. ✨ Breakup to Blessing is now available as a self-paced course! ✨ If you’re ready to heal, let go, and step into your next chapter with confidence, you can now access my signature program at a lower price—with lifetime access and one private coaching session included. Get started today at sylviasuwan.com/program or find the link in the show notes. Episode Mentions: What Attachment Style Are You? Pt.1 Listen on Apple Podcasts Listen on Spotify

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In this episode, Sylvia brings it back to basics and reminds us of the essential foundations for healing, especially when life feels overwhelming. Whether you're deep into your healing journey or just starting out, sometimes we need a reminder of the most important things to focus on. Sylvia discusses Maslow’s hierarchy of needs and how our basic needs—like food, water, shelter, and emotional safety—must be met before we can progress to higher goals, such as self-actualisation and personal growth. She explains why it's crucial to check in with ourselves to ensure we're addressing these fundamental needs, especially during times of hardship like breakups or major life changes. Along the way, Sylvia touches on how an unhealthy lifestyle—poor diet, lack of exercise, and nutrient deficiencies—can contribute to mental health struggles like anxiety, depression, and stress. She shares practical insights on how simple adjustments to your physical health can have a significant impact on your mental well-being. If you're feeling stuck or overwhelmed, this episode is a reminder to return to the basics. By prioritising your health, security, and emotional well-being, you’ll be in a stronger position to face life’s challenges and continue your healing journey. Show Links:

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