Are you stuck in a loop of anger and hurt months or even years after your breakup? In this powerful episode, Sylvia explores the crucial difference between resistance and acceptance—and why one keeps you trapped while the other sets you free.

If you've been replaying what happened, wishing things could go back to how they were, or feeling like life is happening TO you instead of FOR you, this episode will show you the path forward.

What You'll Learn:

The Two Paths After Heartbreak:

• What resistance really looks like (and why it keeps you powerless)
• How acceptance differs from giving up or condoning what happened
• Why acceptance is the key to reclaiming your choices and your future

The Science Behind Staying Stuck:

• Why negative emotions can become addictive (featuring insights from Dr. Joe Dispenza)
• How your brain gets wired for familiar pain
• The chemical patterns that keep you craving stress and drama

Breaking Free from the Victim Mindset:

• The real reason we resist taking responsibility (it's not what you think)
• How to move from "life is happening to me" to "I'm happening to life"
• Why feeling "ready" is a myth that keeps you waiting forever

Practical Steps Forward:

• The confronting question that changes everything
• How to use your breakup as fuel for creating the life you actually want
• Why arguing with reality always makes you lose

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This episode contains references to the work of Dr. Joe Dispenza on emotional addiction and neuroplasticity.

Welcome back to Breakup to Blessing.

In today’s episode, we’re diving into two of the most common – and most challenging – emotions that come up after a breakup: loneliness and anxiety.

If you’ve ever felt isolated after the end of a relationship or found yourself spiralling into “what ifs” about the future, you’re not alone. We talk about why these feelings show up, what they’re really trying to tell us, and how we can begin to respond with compassion and connection rather than fear.

We explore:

• Why loneliness and anxiety are normal, not a sign of failure

• The loss of identity that often follows a breakup

• The pressure to “find yourself” again – and why that’s not always the right question

• How friendships can become your most powerful form of healing

• Why we often feel like a burden when we’re vulnerable – and how that belief keeps us stuck

• The gendered challenges around reaching out (especially for men)

• What it means to reconnect – with yourself, with others, and with your life

This episode is a gentle reminder that you don’t have to do this alone. Whether you're newly single or deep in the healing process, this is your invitation to soften, reach out, and rebuild your sense of connection — not just romantically, but through meaningful friendships and community too.

• Why anxiety ramps up after a breakup and what your brain is really trying to do

• How modern relationships can leave us emotionally isolated

• What Simon Sinek and Esther Perel can teach us about friendship, purpose, and healing

• Practical ways to begin reconnecting — even if it feels awkward or scary

• A message of hope for anyone feeling unseen, unloved, or unsure where to go next

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Do you find yourself constantly trying to earn love? Staying in relationships where you're always proving your worth? In this episode, we dive deep into one of the most painful beliefs that keeps us stuck in the wrong relationships: "I am not enough."

This isn't about blaming your parents—it's about understanding how childhood experiences shaped your sense of self and how those early messages still run the show in your adult relationships. From conditional love to emotional invalidation, we'll explore the common patterns that create this deep-seated belief of unworthiness.

But more importantly, you'll learn practical tools to break free from these patterns, including a deep dive into reparenting yourself and working with your nervous system when you're triggered.

What You'll Learn

• Why "I'm not enough" shows up in almost every difficult breakup
• 6 common childhood patterns that create feelings of unworthiness
• The difference between emotional validation and healthy socialisation
• How your nervous system gets activated in relationships
• Practical reparenting techniques that actually work
• Why you can't think your way out of triggered states
• How to practice emotional abundance instead of scarcity
• Concrete homework to start shifting these patterns this week

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In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we’re diving into one of the most common (and haunting) post-breakup questions: “Will my ex come back?”

If you’ve found yourself obsessing over their social media, reading into every detail, or feeling stuck in the in-between, this episode is for you.

We explore:

✨ Why letting go is not the same as giving up ✨ The two roads you can take after a breakup — and how to know which one you’re on ✨ How holding on keeps you stuck (and how to break that cycle) ✨ What actually helps people move on in a healthy, empowered way ✨ How choosing yourself creates momentum, confidence, and even attraction ✨ And why your worth has nothing to do with whether they come back or not

This episode isn’t just about whether they’ll return — it’s about who you become while you’re waiting for the answer. Spoiler: that version of you? She’s magnetic. And she’s who you’ve been waiting for all along.

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In the final episode of my 3-part attachment series, we’re diving into what secure attachment actually looks and feels like — and why, if you’ve experienced insecure relationships, it might feel unfamiliar or even “boring” at first.

We explore the key traits of securely attached people — how they communicate, navigate intimacy, handle conflict, and show up in emotionally grounded ways. I also talk about how secure partners can feel confronting to those who are anxiously or avoidantly attached, and why calm, consistent love can feel like a red flag when your nervous system is used to chaos.

Whether you’re trying to understand secure love for the first time, or you’re working on becoming more securely attached yourself, this episode will help you reflect on what real emotional safety looks like in relationships — and how you can begin to create it.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why secure can feel “boring” to the anxious or avoidant
• The key behaviours and mindsets of securely attached people
• What secure communication really looks like (hint: no games, no chasing)
• How secure people respond to conflict, space, and vulnerability
• What it feels like to be in a relationship with someone secure
• How to move toward secure attachment — even if it’s not your starting point

Want more support? Breakthrough Sessions are open for just one more week! These free one-on-one calls are designed to help you get clear on where you are, what’s keeping you stuck, and how to start moving forward with intention.

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Are you constantly worried your partner might leave? Do you replay texts, second-guess your worth, or feel like you love harder than others? If so, this episode is for you.

This week on Breakup to Blessing, we’re diving deep into anxious attachment — what it looks like, where it comes from, and how it quietly shapes the way you connect with others. I unpack the core fears that drive anxious patterns, including the fear of abandonment, overthinking, people-pleasing, and the need for constant reassurance.

I also explore:

• How anxious attachment develops from early relationship experiences
• The anxious/avoidant dynamic — and why it feels so magnetic yet painful
• What an anxious/anxious cycle can look like
• The subtle but powerful ways anxious attachment shows up in dating and long-term relationships
• And most importantly: how to start healing from the inside out

I’m not giving you cookie-cutter advice — I’m sharing deeper, longer-lasting strategies to build emotional safety within yourself, stop over-functioning in relationships, and move toward secure, grounded love.

Whether you’re single, dating, or in a relationship — understanding your attachment style is one of the most transformational things you can do for yourself and your future connections.

💬 Book your free breakthrough session If you’re ready to take the next step and want clarity, guidance, or support for the next 6 months of your personal growth or relationship journey, you can book a free one-hour breakthrough session with me by booking here, or just DM me the word “breakthrough” on Instagram https://instagram.com/sylviasuwan

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In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we’re diving deep into avoidant attachment—what it really looks like, where it comes from, and how it shows up in relationships. If you've ever experienced “the ick,” felt overwhelmed by emotional closeness, or found yourself pushing people away without really knowing why, this one is for you.

We explore:

• The connection between avoidant attachment and the “ick”
• Why avoidants may idealise partners early and then suddenly devalue them
• The push-pull cycle of anxious-avoidant relationships (and why it’s so common)
• How avoidant/avoidant couples often mistake emotional distance for compatibility
• Practical steps you can take to move toward secure attachment and deeper intimacy

Whether you're single, dating, or in a relationship, this episode offers self-reflection tools and healing strategies to support your journey toward healthier, more fulfilling connections.

📌 Mentioned Episode: [Episode 37 – What Attachment Style Are You?] (DM me "37" on Instagram @sylviasuwan if you want the direct link!)

Episode 37:

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• Emotional labeling practice
• How to plan vulnerability in conversations
• Challenging black-and-white thinking
• Micro-commitments that build emotional safety

Have you ever found yourself stuck in the same relationship patterns, even when you know better? Or wondered why certain triggers in love feel so intense—like you’re reliving something old?

In this episode, I explore how unresolved past experiences—especially from childhood and previous relationships—can quietly shape the way we show up in love. From emotional triggers to attachment styles, I unpack the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways our past can get in the way of building safe, fulfilling connections.

We’ll talk about:

• The hidden patterns that often go unnoticed
• Why your nervous system reacts the way it does in relationships
• Common signs your past might be running the show
• How to begin breaking free from protective behaviours that no longer serve you

This is a reflective, gentle, and honest conversation that invites you to look inward with compassion—not criticism. Whether you’re single, dating, in a relationship, or navigating healing after a breakup, this episode offers insight and hope.

🗝 Key Takeaways:

• Our earliest relationships shape how we relate, connect, and protect ourselves
• Emotional triggers in relationships often point to old wounds—not just current problems
• People-pleasing, avoidance, or hyper-independence are often protective responses
• Healing is possible through awareness, self-compassion, and safer relationships

💬 Journal Prompts or Reflection Questions:

• What relationship patterns do I keep repeating?
• When do I feel most emotionally reactive in love—and what might that be connected to?
• What would it look like to show up as my authentic self in a relationship?

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In this heartfelt episode, I explore one of the most powerful, yet often overlooked foundations of a meaningful life: emotional health. Whether you're navigating a breakup, parenting, building a business, or simply trying to stay grounded in a chaotic world — this episode is for you.

I share my personal journey of learning (sometimes the hard way) that emotional health isn’t just “nice to have” — it’s everything. It's what determines the quality of your relationships, your capacity to grow, and your ability to truly enjoy life.

We’ll talk about:

• What emotional health really means
• Why it’s the key to showing up as your best self
• How to start investing in your emotional wellbeing today
• What happens when we ignore our inner world
• Practical steps for building emotional resilience and inner peace

If you're in a season of change, heartbreak, or simply feeling overwhelmed — this episode will speak directly to your soul. You’ll walk away with insights and tools to start tending to the part of you that truly matters: your emotional self.

Take a breath, slow down, and tune in. Your healing begins here.

📝 Mentioned in this episode:

• Start With Why by Simon Sinek
• The power of nervous system regulation
• Signs your emotional health needs attention
• Tools like therapy, journalling, meditation, boundaries & self-awareness

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What happens when the life you planned doesn't unfold the way you imagined? Maybe you're not where you thought you'd be by now. Maybe a breakup, job change, or unexpected twist has thrown your story off track.

In this episode, we explore the pressure of sticking to life "scripts"—the timelines and plans we think we should follow—and what happens when reality doesn’t match the plan. I share a personal story about how letting go of a rigid idea opened the door to something even better. You'll also hear why clinging to old plans can keep you stuck, and how making space for change can actually lead to more alignment, freedom, and joy.

Whether you're grieving a path that didn’t unfold or you're feeling stuck because your life looks different than you imagined, this episode is here to remind you that your worth isn’t tied to a timeline—and that sometimes, the best stories come from the plot twists we never saw coming.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why we cling to life plans—and how that can hold us back
• What to do when your path changes unexpectedly
• The importance of checking in with old dreams and seeing if they still fit
• A reframe for those moments when you feel like you're "behind"
• How the “wrong” turn can lead you exactly where you need to be

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