What happens when the life you planned doesn't unfold the way you imagined? Maybe you're not where you thought you'd be by now. Maybe a breakup, job change, or unexpected twist has thrown your story off track.

In this episode, we explore the pressure of sticking to life "scripts"—the timelines and plans we think we should follow—and what happens when reality doesn’t match the plan. I share a personal story about how letting go of a rigid idea opened the door to something even better. You'll also hear why clinging to old plans can keep you stuck, and how making space for change can actually lead to more alignment, freedom, and joy.

Whether you're grieving a path that didn’t unfold or you're feeling stuck because your life looks different than you imagined, this episode is here to remind you that your worth isn’t tied to a timeline—and that sometimes, the best stories come from the plot twists we never saw coming.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why we cling to life plans—and how that can hold us back
• What to do when your path changes unexpectedly
• The importance of checking in with old dreams and seeing if they still fit
• A reframe for those moments when you feel like you're "behind"
• How the “wrong” turn can lead you exactly where you need to be

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Heartbreak can feel like an endless cycle – even when you think you’re doing everything right, you still feel stuck. Why does it feel so hard to move on? In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, I’m diving deep into the one thing that quietly keeps you trapped in heartache without you even realising – resistance.

Join me as I unpack: 🌿 What resistance really is and the many ways it can show up in your healing journey. 🌿 Why your thoughts, beliefs, and even your well-meaning attempts to heal can actually keep you stuck. 🌿 How to recognise the subtle ways resistance holds you back from peace and acceptance. 🌿 Practical steps to finally release resistance and find true healing.

Whether you’re freshly heartbroken or have been struggling for a while, this episode will help you understand why you feel stuck and show you a path toward genuine peace.

🎧 Listen now and take your first step towards letting go and embracing true healing.

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In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, Sylvia dives deep into the patterns behind how we make decisions in our relationships — whether it’s choosing who to date, who to commit to, or even why we stay in relationships longer than we should. Are we being led by logic, or are our emotions quietly in control? Sylvia explains how we often create logical stories to justify emotional decisions, and she helps listeners uncover the hidden patterns that may be guiding them.

Key Topics Covered:

• Logical Stories vs. Emotional Truths: How we convince ourselves our choices are logical when they’re actually driven by fear, insecurity, or unmet needs.

• Identifying Hidden Patterns: Understanding why you may be drawn to similar types of partners, even when they seem different on the surface.

• Attachment and Early Influences: How the emotional patterns formed in childhood with caregivers can impact your relationship choices in adulthood, as explained by Andrew Huberman.

• Recognising Your Own Patterns: A reflective exercise to help you identify your decision-making triggers — is it logic, emotion, or fear?

• Real-Life Example: The story of a woman who thought she was dating different types of men but realized they all had one thing in common — an inability to provide emotional connection.

• Making Healthier Decisions: How to challenge the stories you tell yourself and start making relationship choices that are genuinely aligned with your goals and values.

Want to Connect with Sylvia? If you’d like to discuss your own situation and get personal insights, you can book a free consultation with Sylvia at sylviasuwan.com/consultation.

Letting go can be one of the most painful and confusing parts of a breakup—especially when your heart isn’t ready, even if your head knows it's time. In this replay of one of our most-loved episodes, we explore why letting go is so hard and guide you through practical steps to help you move forward.

Whether you're in the middle of heartbreak or still struggling to let go of someone from your past, this episode offers compassionate insight and actionable tools to support your healing.

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

• Why letting go feels so difficult (even when it's necessary)

• How the no-contact rule works like addiction recovery

• Powerful tools for emotional regulation and self-reflection

• How to reframe obsessive thoughts and reclaim your sense of self

• Ways to build self-worth and cultivate emotional independence

• How staying present can support long-term healing

Key Takeaways:

• Letting go is an emotional process, not just a logical decision.

• Acceptance and emotional regulation are essential for healing.

• Building independence and practicing mindfulness can move you toward peace.

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In this episode, we’re talking about how to grieve your heartbreak in a way that actually helps you heal—not keeps you stuck.

So many of us unknowingly make heartbreak harder by spiraling into painful thoughts and self-blame. We wonder if our ex still thinks about us, obsess over what went wrong, and tell ourselves stories that deepen our pain. But healing doesn't happen in the “what ifs” and “if onlys”—it happens when we come back to us.

We’ll explore:

• Why your brain becomes addicted to the emotional intensity of heartbreak
• The sneaky ways your thoughts keep you stuck in suffering
• How to interrupt negative thought loops and rewire your brain for peace
• Why choosing yourself—again and again—is the most powerful decision you can make
• Practical steps to let go with self-respect and intention
• How to create a healing container for your own growth and self-love

And if you’re ready for deeper guidance, my Breakup to Blessing program takes you step-by-step through this process with tools, support, and heart-centered coaching to help you move from heartbreak to healing—and into a life you love again.

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In today’s episode, we’re diving deeper into a question I shared with you in last week’s episode: “What parts of me are asking to be healed?” If you’ve ever found yourself repeating the same patterns in relationships—over-giving, avoiding conflict, falling too fast, trying to fix others, or keeping people at a distance—this episode is for you. I’ll walk you through five common ways our unhealed parts can show up in love, and I’ll invite you to reflect with some powerful questions to help you get closer to the root of these behaviours.

This one’s tender, honest, and deeply validating. It’s not about blame—it’s about self-understanding, self-compassion, and slowly rewriting the stories that no longer serve us.

💬 In This Episode We Explore:

• The Over-Giver: Why you might feel like you always have to earn love
• The Conflict Avoider: How silence became your way of staying safe
• The One Who Falls Fast: The deeper need underneath the intensity
• The Fixer: When love becomes entangled with responsibility
• The Distant One: How emotional self-protection can quietly sabotage intimacy
• Reflective questions to help you meet these parts of yourself with curiosity, not judgment
• What healing looks like in each of these patterns

📝 Reflective Journal Prompts:

• What role do I most identify with in relationships—and why?
• What part of me is trying to feel seen, safe, or worthy through this role?
• What would it look like to offer myself the love I’m trying to earn from others?

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Welcome back to Breakup to Blessing! In today’s episode, we dive into one of the most difficult and confusing experiences in relationships: when your partner says they don’t love you anymore. Whether they say they’ve “fallen out of love,” are “no longer in love,” or just “don’t love you anymore,” it can feel like a sudden and painful blow. This episode explores how to make sense of this news and how to handle the aftermath.

We discuss:

• Why this news often feels like it came out of nowhere.
• The key questions to ask yourself to heal, grow, and let go—without falling into the trap of self-blame or spiraling into negativity.
• How to reflect on the reality of your relationship beyond your idealized version of it.
• Why it’s important to look at patterns in your relationships and how you show up in them.
• The importance of self-forgiveness and releasing feelings of shame and regret that keep you stuck.
• A powerful question to ask yourself: What does it look like to choose myself now?

This episode is for anyone struggling with a breakup or a partner’s sudden shift in love. Tune in to gain clarity, insight, and a sense of empowerment as you navigate the next steps of your healing journey.

Resources:

• Episode #83: How to Let Go When You Don’t Want to Let Go –

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Hey everyone, welcome to another episode of Breakup to Blessing!

Last week, we talked about second chances in relationships—what it takes to make things work the second time around. But what if getting back together isn’t an option or isn’t what you want? That’s exactly what we’re diving into today.

This episode is all about the inner work you can do now, while you're single, to grow into the person you want to be in your future relationships. Because even if there’s no hope for a second chance with your ex, the work you do on yourself today is what sets the foundation for a healthier, more fulfilling relationship down the road.

We'll cover: ✅ How to reflect on past mistakes without getting stuck in regret ✅ Why insight alone isn’t enough—and what real growth requires ✅ How to practice new relationship skills before you're in a relationship ✅ The power of letting go of your past identity so you can create a better future

If you’ve ever felt frustrated that you’re repeating old patterns despite all the growth you’ve done, this episode is for you. True change happens when you integrate what you've learned into your everyday life—not just in theory, but in practice.

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In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we dive deep into the topic of second chances in relationships. Whether you’re the one asking for a second chance or you're on the receiving end, there’s an important truth to remember: a second chance only works if something actually changes.

Insight alone won’t change behavior. Real change happens when you become someone who can show up differently, especially when it comes to handling conflict and emotional regulation.

We explore how emotional reactivity can escalate situations and why learning to pause, regulate, and communicate effectively can transform your relationships. You’ll also hear about the importance of self-awareness, choosing your battles wisely, and understanding when an argument is about connection vs. control.

If you’re hoping for a second chance or thinking about giving one, this episode is full of tools and insights to help you make sure it leads to real transformation, not just repeating old patterns.

Key Takeaways:

• Why insight alone isn't enough to create change in a relationship.
• How emotional regulation and self-awareness play a key role in avoiding conflicts.
• The importance of pausing and reflecting before reacting in moments of tension.
• Choosing your battles wisely: how to assess whether an argument is worth having.
• The essential relationship skills of self-regulation, accountability, and emotional intelligence.

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In today’s episode of Breakup to Blessing, I’m addressing a question submitted by someone who recently ended a 3-year relationship and is feeling lost and lonely. I also want to extend this conversation to anyone currently in a relationship and feeling disconnected from themselves. It’s common to prioritise others—partners, families, children—and forget what makes us come alive. If that resonates with you, this episode is for you.

We’ll explore how to reconnect with yourself after a breakup or in the midst of a relationship where you’ve lost touch with your individual needs and desires. This episode will help you rediscover what makes you feel truly alive, so that you can reestablish a strong connection with yourself and start living authentically again.

In this episode, we dive into:

• Reframing the question from “finding yourself” to “reconnecting with yourself.”
• Why it's important to revisit your past to rediscover what brought you joy before the relationship.
• How to identify the things that made you feel most connected to yourself, and how to bring those feelings back into your life today.
• Practical examples of how to reconnect with activities and passions that made you feel alive.
• Overcoming the challenge of putting yourself first when you’ve spent years prioritizing others.

If you’re navigating a breakup or simply realising it’s time to focus on yourself again, this episode will offer insights and actionable steps to help you on your journey. You don’t need permission to prioritise your own happiness—you’re worthy of it!

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