Fxck Fear

If you scroll social media, failure is not something you see happening often but failure is something all humans face and not anything to be ashamed of. Yet, failure is real, existing in everyday life, but the fear of failure can sometimes keep people from reaching an attainable goal or even trying in the first place.

On this episode, Marika McHenry, sister of the show's host Catenya, joins the conversation to talk about her fear of failure as an entrepreneur and business owner. The two reminisce about their childhood where they recall failure not being an option in their household and how that upbringing affected them in both positive and negative ways as adults.

Marika also discusses how the fear of failure forces her to constantly perform under pressure- in extreme circumstances, and in a toxic work environment. She talks through how she kills the fear but how she's also learning to create boundaries and protect her peace.

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Power and control are two aspects of sexual assault that create fear, causing victims to stay silent about what’s happened to them. In light of the recent USA Gymnastics Nassar abuse settlement, the #MeToo movement, and so many cases that are underreported, this episode is extremely important!!

Host Catenya McHenry speaks with Yulanda McCarty-Harris, J.D., sexual assault researcher at the Institute for Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault in the Steve Hicks School of Social Work at the University of Texas at Austin. The two talk about the fears victims face before they decide to report, including fear of retaliation, and why some sexual assault victims believe a crime never happened and what to do if you have been sexually assaulted.

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The 3-part series continues with the final episode, 'how fear of losing yourself in a relationship negatively affects children' with guest Pam Benson Owens. Because we know how observant children are, Pam and podcast host Catenya McHenry talk about the importance of demonstrating healthy relationships and teaching their children how to choose a partner, how to create boundaries, and how to be brave enough to choose better for themselves in future relationships.

In part 1, Fear of Losing Yourself in Marriage, Pam revealed she keeps a 'getaway box' in the back of her closet that holds $1,000 cash and a Target uniform, in the event it's time to call her marriage quits. "losing yourself starts with giving up your last name," says Pam.

Part 2, Fear of Losing Yourself in a Relationship, looks at the detrimental affects of co-dependency in personal and professional relationships, and how those things contribute to a loss of self that's hard to regain.

Be sure to catch all three episodes

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Our three-part series continues with episode two, 'fear of losing yourself in a relationship' with guest Pam Benson Owens. On the Part 1 episode, Fear of Losing Yourself in Marriage, Pam revealed she keeps a 'getaway box' in the back of her closet that holds $1,000 and a change of clothes in the event it's time to call her marriage quits. "Losing yourself starts with giving up your last name," says Pam.

In this part-two episode, Pam and podcast host Catenya McHenry candidly and very honestly talk about whether or not there is value in relationships, the detrimental affects of co-dependency, and how those things contribute to a loss of self that's hard to regain. Today's topic is applicable to any relationship, whether personal or professional.

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"Fear is a slow gangster and let’s be clear, many of us came into the relationship, loving the idea of loving that person but in reality not really loving that person," says Pam Benson Owens, CEO and corporate leadership consultant.

A two-hour conversation between friends, Pam and host Catenya, turned into a three-part episode about fear of losing yourself in marriage, fear of losing yourself in a relationship, and how losing yourself negatively affects and impacts your children.

This episode is raw, emotional, full of vulnerabilities and hard truths about the constructs around modern day marriage and relationships. The women speak honestly about how they each lost themselves in their respective marriages and how many women start their relationship journey losing -- starting with giving up their last name and why Pam says every woman should have a "getaway box" in the back of her closet.

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Protecting your peace is about a lot of things but most importantly, it's about deciding what to let go of that no longer serves you. Whether it's at work or in a relationship, protecting your peace and peace of mind, heart, and soul is also about harnessing your personal power to create a safe space that's free of stress, toxicity, anxiety, chaos, conflict, and confusion.

As host Catenya McHenry talks about in this new episode, fear can sometimes plays a huge part in why we allow our boundaries to break. We fear the expectations of others, their reaction to our boundaries, and even their demands on our time and our life. All of it is a peace disrupter. Catenya taps into her vulnerability and shares ways she's let fear steal her peace but she also talks through how to get back to a place of solace and tranquility.

"Survival and death is a core fear that’s not really spoken, it’s like, hey I’m not afraid of death but we’re talking about these core anxieties that mask it," says April Hannah, spiritual coach and mental health therapist. "If you lose the fear of death, you begin to live life even more and experience life even more. 

The Fear of Death kicks off Season 3 and although it's a topic that may be uncomfortable to talk about, we tackle it anyway in hopes it helps you live more freely, with less fear.

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Relationships, whether romantic or professional, can be difficult to maintain. And there are the unhealthy, toxic relationships that your friends would say need a well-planned exit strategy. While there may be many of you who know for sure you need to leave, there could be doubt and fear associated with the impending separation.

"There is a fear, most of the time, of leaving relationships because usually at that point when you want to leave a relationship it is because you don’t feel good about yourself and your ego and self-esteem isn’t high," says Bonnie Winston, relationship expert and celebrity matchmaker.

If you're being disrespected, mistreated, abused, belittled, de-humanized, existing in a toxic environment, and you know you need to call it quits or you know someone who needs to make that decision, this episode will speak to your heart and your core. Bonnie joins this last episode of season 2 to talk about how co-dependency develops, what keeps people in a relationship longer than they should, and why people are afraid to leave. She also offers strategies and steps for not only how to be more courageous to leave but also how to say fuck you to fear and find happiness and joy on the other side of that unfulfilling relationship.

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"What else combats fear is knowledge," says DJ and reality show contestant Nicole Rosé Stillings. "A lot of times we’re scared, of the unknown, so something like reality tv, it’s not exactly The Apprentice, it’s not exactly The Real Housewives, it’s The Big shot with Bethenny Frankel, she’s got a reputation for being a loose cannon right so kind of an unknown and unchartered territory there.”

Nicole is a world class DJ, entrepreneur, and reality show contestant joining this episode to talk about the fears she faced as a contestant on The Big Shot with Bethenny Frankel. She also talks about how she worked through those fears using a beautiful mindfulness manifest mindset. You may be surprised about what else she talks about, as she shares some of the behind of scenes on the show.

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