What if you're not actually getting in your own way? What if the parts of you that seem to hold you back are actually trying to protect you? In this episode, I talk with licensed marriage and family therapist Amber Masselot to explore Internal Family Systems (IFS), a powerful approach to self-awareness and healing. Amber shares how recognizing and working with our different “parts” can help us navigate self-doubt, perfectionism, and emotional struggles with more compassion.
We discuss how our protective parts develop, why they sometimes create self-sabotage, and how reconnecting with our true “Self” can help us move through challenges with clarity and confidence. If you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns of people-pleasing, self-criticism, or emotional overwhelm, this conversation will give you new insights into why—and how to move forward with kindness toward yourself.
 
Questions to consider:

• What’s one area of your life where you feel “stuck”? Could a protective part be at play?
• How might self-compassion shift the way you approach your challenges?
• What would it look like to reconnect with your true Self and create inner alignment?

Watch April and Amber: https://youtu.be/LPkd9gtVuR4 
 
Connect with Amber:
https://www.thewisemindinstitute.com/berkeleyhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/1257822  

Does perfectionism keep you stuck, second-guessing yourself, or afraid to take action? In this episode, I talk with life coach Terri Hayes to explore how perfectionism shows up in our lives—through fear, an overactive inner critic, and suppressing emotions—and how we can break free. Terri shares her journey of shifting from self-judgment to self-acceptance, learning to process emotions instead of avoiding them, and embracing imperfect action to create real momentum.
 
We also discuss the surprising truth about belonging, why trying to “fit in” actually keeps us disconnected, and how small mindset shifts can lead to major breakthroughs. If you’ve ever struggled with self-doubt or felt like you’re never doing enough, this conversation will help you reframe your inner dialogue and step into a more compassionate, empowered version of yourself.
 
Some questions to consider:

• Where is perfectionism holding you back from taking action in your life?
• What’s one way you can show yourself more self-acceptance this week?
• How would your life change if you became your own best friend instead of your own biggest critic?

Connect with Terri:
https://www.outofsmallthings.com/
Feeling like you’re not enough? This short video, referenced in the podcast, reveals why that belief isn’t yours to keep—and how to shift toward self-acceptance while quieting your inner critic. Watch now: https://www.outofsmallthings.com/lpbornidentity
 
Watch April and Terri: https://youtu.be/OeSqmKIOKrI 

In this episode of Get Out of Your Own Way, I’m joined by Dr. Sweta Chawla, a Leadership Coach and Vocal Empowerment Facilitator, who shares her journey of breaking free from people-pleasing and discovering her authentic voice.
Dr. Sweta opens up about how she followed a career path in pharmacy to fulfill her mother’s dream, only to realize later that it wasn’t aligned with her true passions. Through deep self-reflection and coaching, she learned to identify her values, recognize her patterns of people-pleasing and perfectionism, and find the courage to speak her truth.
Now, as a speaker and coach, she empowers others to step into their authenticity, embrace discomfort as part of growth, and design lives that align with their values and desires. This conversation is an inspiring reminder that reclaiming your voice starts with small steps and a commitment to self-awareness.
Questions for you to consider:

• Am I living according to my own desires or someone else’s expectations?
  
• What small step can I take today to honor my truth?
  
• How can I build the courage to express what I truly want?
  

Tune in to hear Dr. Sweta’s powerful story and gain insights into how you, too, can activate your authentic voice and create a life that feels true to you.
 
Watch April and Dr. Sweta: https://youtu.be/JA_QOMUsYy0 
 
Connect with Dr. Sweta:
Website: https://www.drswetachawla.com
Decision matrix: https://www.drswetachawla.com/matrix

In this episode of Get Out of Your Own Way, we’re joined by realtor and entrepreneur Jordan Golani, who shares how taking responsibility for our choices is the foundation for creating the life we truly want. Drawing on his experience in real estate, Jordan explains how self-discipline, delayed gratification, and daily commitment can lead to monumental personal growth.
 
From embracing the question, “What can I create today?” to confronting avoidance and building sustainable habits, Jordan reveals how stepping into our power means taking ownership of our lives, moment by moment. If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure how to move forward, this conversation will inspire you to take charge and design a life aligned with your intentions and values.
 
Questions to consider:

• What choices am I making today to shape my life?
  
• How can I build more discipline in pursuit of my goals?
  
• What am I avoiding that’s holding me back?
  

Tune in for practical wisdom and powerful insights that will help you get out of your own way and take the next step toward your intentional life.
 
Watch April and Jordan: https://youtu.be/pG6E0h3sN2Y 
 
Connect with Jordan:
IG - @jordangolanisf FB - /jordangolanisf Website - www.jordangolanisf.com Calendly - https://calendly.com/jordangolanirealestate/consultation

Have you ever felt like perfectionism is both your superpower and your biggest obstacle? Sometimes our lives look “perfect” from the outside–we have a level of success in our career, we have the home, car, clothes, luxurious vacations, and we can buy what we want. But at what cost to us on the inside? In this episode, Ming Chen (Executive Leadership and Career Pivot Coach), shares how she got out of her own way by learning how to break free from the limiting beliefs of perfectionism. We explore how perfectionism showed up for her in her leadership roles, how her experience as an immigrant fueled a relentless pursuit of excellence, and the hidden costs of striving for perfection: burnout, resentment, and ultimately, living a life that felt smaller than it should.
We discuss what overcoming perfectionism looks like and the freedom it creates—freedom to take risks, embrace mistakes, and live with self-compassion, authenticity, and purpose. If perfectionism has ever left you feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or like you’re chasing a never-ending goalpost, this episode is for you.
 
Watch April and Ming livestream here
 
Connect with Ming Chen:
https://www.nebulacoach.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/moonces/

We all want deeper, more authentic connections - but how do we create them? What if we viewed connection not as a matter of luck or circumstance, but an art that we can practice? In this episode, leadership coach and facilitator Dalglish Chew shares how he got out of his own way by embracing self-awareness, challenging the limiting beliefs he held about himself, and working with the mental and emotional patterns blocking him from connecting more deeply with others. By engaging in this inner work, he's changed the way he engages with others and with the world. Listen on to find out how he took more ownership of how he shows up for himself and others, and what that could look like for you. Where in your life could practicing the art of connection open the door to richer and more fulfilling relationships? 

Watch April and Dalglish livestream here

 
To find out more about Dalgish and how he supports others in strengthenin connections in the workplace for effective communication and leadership, visit his website:
https://www.dalglish.coach/

Do you think your life is out of control? Are other people’s opinions more important than your own? Do you feel powerless and that everything is happening TO you? In this episode, Jennifer Bulbrook shares how she got out of her own way by recognizing that she has power and agency in her life - just by choosing a different thought about her circumstances. In the past, she used to blame everyone and everything else for why her life wasn’t the way she wanted it to be. She used addictions to feel better, even as they made her life worse and she suffered from depression and anxiety. When she discovered The Model, it helped her change her life and feel more empowered and healthy. Listen on to find out how she took more ownership in her life and is stronger than ever. Where in your life could changing your thoughts and beliefs create the powerful change you want? 
 
Watch April and Jennifer livestream here
 
https://www.iamsomebody2.ca/
https://www.instagram.com/iam_somebody_2/
https://www.facebook.com/jennifer.bulbrook/
https://www.tiktok.com/@iam_somebody_2

Are you tired of second-guessing yourself? Do you feel “imposter syndrome” sometimes? Does it feel easier to stay where you are, even if it doesn’t feel great, than to do the hard work of changing your life from the inside out? In this episode, Chris Johnson shares how he got out of his own way by recognizing that he is responsible for creating his life the way he wants. In the past, he used to look for an external savior, someone or something to make his life better, which led him to make misaligned decisions and landed him in prison with a sentence of 65 years to life. Until he recognized that his life was his responsibility. Listen on to find out how he transformed himself and his life. Where in your life could taking more responsibility create the transformative change you want? 
 
Watch April and Chris livestream here.

Have you ever overstayed your time in a job, relationship, at an apartment, in an organization, or anywhere else? In this episode, Claire Baker shares how she got out of her own way by recognizing that she was gaslighting herself into staying in untenable work situations. She talks about how she decided on purpose to think about her circumstances in ways that motivated her and benefited her instead of discouraging and defeating her ahead of time so she could make an aligned decision for herself. How might you do the same for yourself if you’ve been thinking of leaving, but making excuses for why you “should” stay instead?
 
Watch April and Claire livestream here. 

How do you learn to be your authentic self? In this chat with Coach Lee Hopkins, he talks about how he got in his own way in the past by contorting himself to fit into relationships so that people would like him. But he never asked himself if he liked those people in his life that he was trying so hard to please. He talks about being your authentic self in relationships and how to actually do that. 
 
How might learning to be your authentic self in relationships change the way you show up and the caliber of your relationships? 
 
Watch April and Coach Lee livestream here.