Get Schooled Podcast with Marcela Alonso

**Derek Kage** — muscle-bound, tattooed Southern gentleman with piercing grey eyes. Born and raised in Huntsville, Alabama; did undergrad and grad school, then spent about a decade in Washington DC working a steady government job with full benefits — and walked away because he wasn't happy.

He's now one of the most decorated performers in the industry in under four years: **3x XMAs Gay Performer of the Year**, GayVN Best Newcomer and Best Leading Actor (2024, for the Raging Stallion thriller *Overdrive*), Grabbys Performer of the Year, Pornhub's Favorite Daddy, and the Free Speech Coalition's Advocacy Award — 80+ nominations total. Hundreds of scenes and 20+ features across gay, trans, and straight studios: Brazzers, Adult Time, Men.com, Falcon, Kink.com, Dorcel, TransAngels, and more. ASN Magazine and GQ Africa both profiled him this year.

The hook for your episode: he identifies as gay, but he's crossed into straight scenes — a transition that's basically unheard of and exactly why you flagged his viral potential. He's also open about the business side: consent on set, testing, advocacy work.

His IG is [@wholesome_derek](https://www.instagram.com/wholesome_derek), TikTok @derek.kage, site derekkage.com. His publicist is Erika Icon at The Rub PR.

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Marla Renee Stewart, MA, CSE (she/her) is an award-winning sexologist, author, and sexual strategist who runs her own sexuality education company, Velvet Lips, and is also a Co-Founder of the Sex Down South Conference. She has studied human sexuality for more than 22 years and has given over 1000 workshops all over the world. She also has been featured on a variety of media outlets, including Netflix's Trigger Warning with Killer Mike and Love & HipHop Atlanta. She co-wrote her first book, The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay with Dr. Jessica O'Reilly, which debuted in April 2020 and co-edited An Intersectional Approach to Sex Therapy in 2021.

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MARNI KINRYS is the founder of The Wing Girl Method, host of the Ask Women Podcast, designer of the F-Formula, and an award-winning female dating coach for men ages 25-85 at every stage of dating and relationships, who’s spent the last decade helping hundreds of thousands of men stop being Mr. Nice Guy and start being Mr. Holy Sh*t, I Want Him!

With more than 50 digital programs, monthly online masterclasses, 150 million YouTube views and 1,300,000 subscribers to her channel, Marni Your Personal Wing Girl, Marni is known for her blunt, no “fluff” approach and honest insider tips, tools and advice on what women really want vs. what they say they want.

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After 17 years of marriage, Courtney Boyer asked her husband a terrifying question: what if we opened the marriage? She discovered she was polyamorous — he wasn't. He's still monogamous. And they're still together.

Courtney joins Marcela to talk about what really happens when one partner opens a marriage the other didn't ask for. How do you tell your husband of 17 years you need something he doesn't? What does a mono-poly marriage actually look like day to day? And where does purity culture fit into all of it?

Raw, honest, and full of the conversations most couples are too scared to have.

**About Courtney:**

Courtney Boyer, M.Ed., M.S., is a relationship and sexuality expert, former therapist, and the author of *Not Tonight, Honey* and her memoir *Opened*. She helps people question the relationship rules they inherited, reconnect with their desire, and build lives that actually feel like their own. A polyamorous mother of three in a mono-poly marriage, she has been featured in The New York Post, Cosmopolitan, Huffington Post, and CNBC.

Connect with Courtney: courtneyboyercoaching.com | Instagram: @courtneyboyercoaching

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## Mums Candy | Sweet Deliveries

And a sweet one — Mums Candy delivers fun candy and treats directly to your door. Because grown-ups deserve candy too. Link in the show notes.

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Marie Thouin, PhD is a Mindful Dating & Relationship Coach and the author of "What is Compersion? Understanding Positive Empathy in Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships," the first-ever comprehensive scholarly book on compersion. She has been featured in several publications and podcasts, including The New York Times, ELLE, The Times of London, and HuffPost. In her coaching practice, she supports individuals and couples of all backgrounds and orientations to create intentional, authentic, and vibrant love lives.Learn more at www.MarieThouin.com.

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Tripp Terrier is a 40-year-old lifestyle BDSM dominant, kink theorist, and D/s advisor who works with couples and individuals to help foster healthy, committed, long-term power exchange dynamics. Tripp's viral popularity developed through sharing his personal experience with power exchange relationships on social media and extrapolating fundamental concepts that both honor and challenge the BDSM status quo. His work asks essential questions in regards to the interplay of sexuality, gender constructs, agency and consent. It is work that is always incomplete but accessible to all who are up for the journey. Tripp is also a co-founder of Buzzkeepr, a safety app that provides affordable criminal and sex offender background checks for individuals navigating the dating scene. Buzzkeepr is launching soon on Google Play and in the Apple App Store. 

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AMANDA DAMES, aka The Kink Consultant, is a sexologist, Somatica® Certified Sex and Relationship Coach, podcast host, and former NYC Dominatrix specializing in kink, intimacy, and communication. Through coaching, education, media appearances, and her podcast The Kink Consultant, Amanda helps people explore desire without shame while making kink feel approachable, empowering, and rooted in consent, confidence, and connection. Known for her honest, playful, and accessible teaching style, Amanda has built an online audience of more than 300,000 followers across social media and has been featured in Cosmopolitan, HuffPost, Women’s Health, POPSUGAR, and Court TVfor her expertise in kink and modern relationships. Her work focuses on helping individuals and couples communicate openly about fantasies, power dynamics, and emotional intimacy so they can create relationships that feel more authentic, exciting, and fulfilling both inside and outside the bedroom.

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SUSAN BRATTON, “Intimacy Expert to Millions," is a champion and advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. Susan is co-founder and CEO of two companies: Personal Life Media, Inc., a publisher of the Better Lover brand of heart-connected lovemaking techniques and bedroom communication skills. She is a best-selling author and publisher of 44 books and programs, including Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, Ravish Him, The Passion Patch, Hormone Balancing, and Hot To Trot. Susan speaks eloquently from the stage and frequently appears on ABC, CBS and NBC as well as being the #1 downloaded episode guest on myriad podcasts.

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Class is in session! On this episode of *Get Schooled*, we’re diving deep into the realities of sex work, policy reform, and community action with Miss Meiauthor, advocate, and co-founder of Decrim 305. Drawing on over 14 years of personal experience, Miss Mei breaks down the urgent push to decriminalize, destigmatize, and decarcerate sex work right here in Miami. From mutual aid and policy organizing to using cosplay as a tool to challenge stereotypes and humanize sex workers through an intersectional lens, Miss Mei shares what it takes to build a future where sex work is respected, protected, and fully understood.

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ELLIOT JUSTIN, MD, FACEP, is the CEO and Founder of FirmTech, the first sex tech company dedicated to improving men’s erectile fitness. He has a background in Emergency Medicine and healthcare technology consulting. Dr. Justin is also a serial healthcare entrepreneur, having founded and sold Pegasus Emergency Group and Swift MD. He has provided guidance to various services, telemedicine, and tech startups. Dr. Justin pursued Slavic Studies at Harvard University and studied medicine at Boston University. Happily married for 35 years, and father of three children, Elliot and Ann live in Montana with three energetic mares and a flock of chickens. He is a passionate trail rider who sometimes imagines, to his wife’s chagrin, that he’s a centaur. 

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