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The People I Chose and What They Taught Me: I spent decades being the person everyone called when their world fell apart. I was always there. Always available. Always had something to give. People got better, rebuilt their lives and moved on.

Every single time it hit me with a force that made no sense at all. It took me years to understand why. In this episode I am sharing the story of how a calling and a wound can operate as one programme for decades without you ever realising it, and what happened when I finally saw the difference.

If you have ever been the strong one, the capable one, the one everyone leans on while quietly wondering whether anyone would do the same for you, this episode is for you.

In this episode: The pattern that forms in childhood when love feels conditional and how it quietly organises every adult relationship that follows.

Why I kept selecting for people who needed me and why that system reliably produced the very experience I most dreaded. The difference between a calling and a wound, and what it cost me not to know the difference for so long.

What the research tells us about giving without receiving and why it is not a virtue but a trauma response with a real physiological cost. The practical shifts I made once I finally saw the pattern clearly.

The full story, including the complete Get Up and Grow four-step process applied in detail, the Resilience Puzzle breakdown and the full research, is in this week's Friday Deep Dive newsletter, exclusively for Get Up and Grow members.

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WATCH THE VIDEO CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction

01:18 The Pattern

03:31 The Calling

04:42 The Research

06:18 My Newsletter

06:33 The Shift

08:18 Next Week

08:57 The Masterclass

10:25 Conclusion

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When Keeping Yourself Safe Means Keeping Everyone Out: My nervous system made the call before my mind had caught up, deciding whether you are safe or not. Childhood trauma had trained it to scan first and ask questions later.In this episode I share two of the most significant ways that early childhood trauma shaped every adult relationship I have ever had. The patterns I could not see while I was inside them. The science behind why they are so common. How I finally shifted them using the GET UP AND GROW process.The full story, four-step process and Resilience Puzzle breakdown are in the Friday Deep Dive newsletter, exclusively for Get Up and Grow members. Join for $13 a month at www.getupandgrow.co.zaThe next GET UP AND GROW Masterclass runs on 29 April. Members only.Subscribe so you never miss an episode and leave a comment telling me what resonated. I read everything personally.#childhoodtrauma #hypervigilance #relationships #nervoussystem #getupandgrow #sintaebersohn ========== ========== ==========Chapters:00:00 Introduction01:23 My Story02:20 Survival Strategies07:20 The Science10:49 The Second Patterns13:00 Is this Familiar?14:58 What's Next16:40 The Masterclass17:23 Conclusion========== ========== ==========

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A Mother Parenting through the Wreckage of her own Childhood Trauma: What My Sons Witnessed and What I Did Next.You can be a devoted, informed, present parent and still be passing your pain on to your children. This episode is about the gap between what we know and what we are actually giving our children when our own wounds have not yet been healed.I share what my sons grew up in the middle of, what the research tells us about how unresolved parental trauma moves through a family, and what changed when I finally saw it clearly.The complete story, the full process breakdown and the detailed research analysis are in this week's Friday Deep Dive newsletter, exclusively for Get Up and Grow members. Join for $13 a month: www.getupandgrow.co.zaWhat did this episode bring up for you? Leave a comment below.#SintaEbersohn #GetUpAndGrow #GenerationalTrauma #ParentingAndTrauma #BreakTheCycle #cyclebreaker ========== ========== ==========Chapters:00:04 Introduction00:54 My Story05:56 How this applies to Divorce06:58 The Science09:27 This week's Newsletter10:04 Gradual Revelation13:49 The Pattern15:13 Conclusion========== ========== ==========Watch the Video at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BfPvoaCO48Q

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My Best Lifestyle Secrets for Consciously Cultivating Resilience Despite Adversity: Healing is not only about processing what happened to you. It is also about the life you consciously and deliberately build while you are doing that work. The daily practices, non-negotiable commitments and choices you make in the ordinary moments that most people overlook entirely. This video gives you a glimpse into how I do that.#lifestyle #lifestylechange #dailyhabits #dailypractice #resilience #getupandgrow #sintaebersohn========== ========== ==========Watch the Video at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ReQrkl8Tq6I

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The Covenant that Kept Me Prisoner for Years: Have you ever worked incredibly hard, given absolutely everything you had, rebuilt from nothing, and then watched it fall apart again? And told yourself it was bad luck, or difficult people, or just the way things were for you?What if it was none of those things? What if the thing keeping you stuck was something you put there yourself, in the worst moment of your life, and then completely forgot you ever did it?That is what happened to me. For years, I carried a belief so deep and so total that I did not even know it was there. I could not fight it because I could not see it. I could not name it because I had no idea I had made it. All I could see were the consequences, playing out again and again, no matter how hard I tried.I call it a covenant. This is the story of how it nearly cost us everything, and what it finally took to break free.

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Chapters:

0:04 Introduction

2:15 My Story

9:15 The Covenant

11:22 The Science behind it

18:17 The Path Forward

22:18 Conclusion

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When My Deepest Pain became My Greatest Purpose: This week's podcast episode is one of the hardest stories I have ever shared publicly. It is about financial abuse during divorce, four years of vexatious litigation and how I survived when the legal system became a weapon against me.Research shows that financial abuse is increasingly used as a divorce tactic to gain the upper hand in asset division disputes. For four years, him and his attorney proceeded with vexatious litigation. Court applications. Allegations. Counter claims. Delays. Every single step designed to exhaust my finances and force me to my knees.I lost. It ruined me financially and broke my spirit. I walked away with nothing.In that devastating loss, a vision began to form. What if there was a platform where people going through divorce could find everything they needed to know, all in one place? That vision became Fair Divorce.#highconflictdivorce #vexatiouslitigation #divorce #financialabuse #economicabuse #fairdivorce #sintaebersohn #getupandgrow ========== ========== ==========Chapters:0:04 Introduction1:24 My Story4:34 Why my story is not unique6:37 More of my story9:14 Lessons I learned11:52 My Strategic Decision12:33 My Vision13:56 Later this week for members16:22 Conclusion========== ========== ==========Watch the Video at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m9SGEkk7kHQ

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I Kept Choosing the Wrong Partner Every Time: For 13 years, I sacrificed myself in my marriage. I walked away from healthy relationships that could have nurtured me, then committed myself to someone who would not honour his vows.This wasn't stupidity or weakness. It was my brain doing exactly what it had been programmed to do since I was four years old.In this podcast episode, I reveal why childhood trauma programmes your brain to pursue relationships that harm you whilst rejecting the ones that could heal you.#relationships #traumaresponse #traumahealing #marriage #getupandgrow #sintaebersohn ========== ========== ==========Chapters:0:04 Introduction2:10 Childhood Trauma6:18 My Programmed Pattern8:25 Research12:10 My Breakthrough14:01 More Research17:23 My Therapeutic Work21:40 You Can Do the Work Too24:32 Next Week25:06 Conclusion========== ========== ==========Watch the Video at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GNPiYn7zcD4

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50+ Years of Secrets made me so Sick it Nearly Killed Me: For over 50 years, I kept secrets that were killing me. In February 2019, I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer. The tumour grew exactly where my voice should have been.This was not coincidence. My body was screaming what my voice could not say. In this episode, I share how silence nearly killed me, the devastating response when I finally spoke my truth to my family, and how finding my voice saved my life.TIMESTAMPS:0:00 - How Silence Nearly Killed Me1:28 - The Story: Childhood Trauma and Decades of Silence4:11 - The Research: How Trauma Changes the Brain6:26 - The 4-Step Process: From Silence to Voice10:44 - Your Path Forward11:35 - Inside my Community13:19 Next week's episode14:16 Conclusion#TraumaHealing #PostTraumaticGrowth #BodyKeepsTheScore #FindingYourVoice #GetUpAndGrow #SintaEbersohn========== ========== ==========Watch the Video at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LRelKHVIY6M

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My Body was Telling Me How Trauma Made Me Sick!Three medical diagnoses within eight months. Heart block. Thyroid cancer. Celiac disease.In this episode, I share the specific connections between each illness and the trauma my body was storing. How my heart carried grief accumulated through my entire life. How my throat held unspoken truths. How my digestive system couldn't process the weight of everything I'd been carrying.I explore the groundbreaking research linking unresolved trauma to physical illness:• The Adverse Childhood Experiences Study and its staggering findings• Dr. Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory• Why our nervous systems get stuck in defensive states• What happens when trauma activation never gets completedYour body isn't betraying you when illness shows up. It might be communicating in the only language it has left.This isn't about blame. It's about understanding that sometimes our bodies are wiser than we give them credit for.TIMESTAMPS:0:00 Introduction0:58 The Diagnosis Season8:40 The Research Emerges15:40 My Body's Wisdom22:18 The Path Forward33:44 Your Invitation35:52 Closing

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Called not Qualified (How to Recognise and Own Your Calling): Have you ever felt called to do something but thought you weren't qualified? In this episode, I dive deep into the November 2023 moment that changed everything for me when I realised I'd been living my calling all along, but doubting it every step of the way.I share:• Why imposter syndrome affects 70% of people (and what it really means)• My story of earning 9 diplomas and 42 certifications while being told "it means nothing without a degree"• The physical moment when everything shifted: "God does not call the qualified. He qualifies the called"• How to recognise YOUR calling (even when you doubt yourself)• 5 signs you're already living your purpose but haven't claimed it• Why your lived experience IS your qualificationIf you've ever thought "Who am I to do this?" then this episode is for you.Timestamps:• 0:00 - Intro• 1:51 - The universal struggle with imposter syndrome• 4:43 - My story: A lifetime of "not enough"• 8:19 - November 2023: The breakthrough moment• 12:07 - How to recognise your calling• 14:26 - You are qualified========== ========== ==========Watch the Video at https://youtu.be/5HOyr1Zl_rk

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