Getting Through the Week Podcast

You’re angry.

But what if there’s something underneath all of that?

In this episode of Getting Through the Week, Dr. KellyRae explores what happens when we stop rushing to fix what we’re experiencing and get curious about what’s actually underneath it.

Because sometimes:

“I’m angry” is really “I’m hurt.”

“I don’t want to do this anymore” is really “This doesn’t fit who I’m becoming.”

“I don’t know what I want” is really “I know what I want, but I don’t know if I’m allowed to want it.”

And sometimes “I’m fine” is simply the place we stop looking.

This isn't about digging for something wrong with you.

It isn't another five-step plan.

It’s about slowing down long enough to ask a better question:

What’s underneath this?

Because the first answer isn't always the whole answer.

And sometimes, the question itself becomes the intervention.

🎧 In this episode, we explore:

Why knowing something intellectually doesn't always create change

The difference between the thing you're experiencing and what's underneath it

How anger, exhaustion, uncertainty, and “I'm fine” can point to something deeper

Why “I don't know” doesn't always mean you don't know

What happens when you stop asking, “How do I fix this?” and start asking, “What's underneath this?”

Why seeing something differently can be more powerful than learning another tool

If you've ever thought, “I know what I'm supposed to do… so why am I still here?”—

this one is for you.

If something in this episode made you pause and think, “Okay… there's something underneath this for me,” that's exactly the kind of work I love doing.

You can learn more about working with me, explore my resources, or reach out directly at:

drkellyrae.com

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Thanks for being here.

And remember:

You don't always need another answer.

Sometimes you just need to see the question underneath the question.

With love & strength,

Have you ever said, “I don’t know what to do,” when maybe the truth is that you actually know what you want—you just don’t know what happens next?

Those are two very different things.

In this episode, we’re going underneath the sentence.

Because sometimes “I don’t know” isn’t a lack of information. Sometimes it’s where we stop ourselves from hearing something we already know.

What if the question isn’t “What should I do?”

What if it’s:

“What do I already know that I’m not letting myself say?”

We talk about desire, uncertainty, gratitude, recognition, and that incredibly uncomfortable space between knowing what you want and having absolutely no idea whether you’re going to get it.

Because knowing what you want doesn’t mean you have to have a plan.

It doesn’t mean you have to act today.

It doesn’t mean you know how it will turn out.

And it certainly doesn’t mean you’re entitled to the outcome.

It may simply mean you’ve finally stopped lying to yourself about the wanting.

We’ll also talk about the question underneath the question, why we sometimes put everyone else’s considerations in the room before we’ve even admitted what we want, and what can happen when we get curious about what’s actually underneath the thing we keep calling “the problem.”

And maybe the most uncomfortable question of all:

What if desire isn’t dissatisfaction?

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In this episode, Dr. KellyRae explores what happens when you stop forcing yourself to know what comes next.

Because sometimes the hardest thing isn't making a decision.

It's admitting:

I don't know yet.

And for those of us who have spent a lifetime figuring things out, making a plan, keeping everyone comfortable, and doing what needs to be done...that can feel surprisingly dangerous.

We'll talk about the difference between uncertainty and avoidance, why feelings are information but not always instruction, and what happens when the part of you that learned to keep you safe isn't necessarily the part that needs to make the decision now.

Because sometimes what feels like intuition is an old protector recognizing something that resembles danger.

And sometimes...

it's the woman you've become making a decision the woman you used to be never would have allowed herself to make.

So who gets to decide?

Fear?

Or the woman you are now?

Maybe self-leadership isn't knowing exactly what to do.

Maybe it's knowing who gets to decide while you're figuring it out.

And maybe “I don't know yet” isn't a cop-out.

Maybe it's what you say when you're finally honest enough to stop making shit up just so you can feel safe.

Because you don't have to know what happens next to know what's happening now.

And you don't have to make something wrong simply because you don't yet know how to make it right.

If you've been feeling something shift inside you—wanting something you can't quite explain, questioning something you thought you knew, or simply realizing that the old answers don't fit anymore—this conversation is an invitation to get curious before you decide.

☕ In this episode, we'll discuss:

• Why “I don't know yet” can actually be a powerful form of self-leadership

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If this episode resonated with you, please consider subscribing, leaving a review, and sharing it with someone who may need this message today.

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Until next time, be gentle with yourself.

Sometimes “I don't know yet” isn't a lack of clarity.

Sometimes it's the first honest answer you've given yourself in a long time.

In this episode, Dr. KellyRae explores what happens when you start noticing that you're simply done—with a relationship, a role you've carried for years, always being the strong one, saying yes when you mean no, waiting for something to change, or even a version of yourself you no longer recognize.

But being done doesn't always mean you need to walk away.

Sometimes it means you need a conversation.

We'll talk about why being done can be information rather than instruction, how to listen to what that feeling is trying to tell you, and why you don't always need to know exactly what's next before you trust yourself enough to take the next step.

Because you can be grateful for the life you've built...

and still want more life.

You can love the people in your life...

and still want something to change.

And you can be scared of what comes next...

without letting fear make the decision for you.

If you've found yourself quietly thinking I'm done lately—without knowing exactly what that means yet—this conversation may give you permission to stop judging the feeling long enough to listen to it.

☕ In this episode, we'll discuss:

• What “I'm done” can actually be trying to tell you

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Until next time, be gentle with yourself.

Sometimes “I'm done” isn't the end of something.

Growth is often celebrated as exciting, empowering, and transformational.

But what happens when growth feels unfamiliar?

What happens when you look at your life and realize you're changing—not dramatically, but enough that you no longer quite recognize the person you've always been?

In this episode, Dr. KellyRae explores one of the most overlooked parts of personal growth: the discomfort of becoming.

Together, we'll talk about why change can sometimes feel like loss, why our inner critic often mistakes growth for danger, and how learning to understand our fears may be the key to trusting ourselves again.

If you've ever found yourself wondering who you're becoming, questioning old identities, or feeling caught between who you've been and who you're meant to be, this conversation is for you.

Because growth isn't always about becoming someone new.

Sometimes it's about becoming more fully yourself.

☕ In this episode, we'll discuss:

• Why positive change can sometimes create grief

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Until next time, be gentle with yourself.

Growth doesn't always look like moving forward.

Sometimes it looks like releasing the version of yourself you've outgrown.

We spend a lot of time talking about what happens when life doesn't go according to plan.

But what about when it does?

What happens when the thing you've been working toward, healing for, praying for, or dreaming about finally starts becoming real?

In this episode, Dr. KellyRae explores a side of personal growth that doesn't get talked about nearly enough—the emotional discomfort that often accompanies expansion.

From vision boards and big dreams to unexpected opportunities, meaningful connections, healing, travel, and personal growth, sometimes receiving what we've been asking for can feel just as unsettling as not getting it at all.

You'll learn:

• Why expansion often feels uncomfortable

And of course, Trudy makes an appearance to help translate what many of us experience during seasons of growth:

"What if this doesn't work?"

"What if we're moving too fast?"

"What if this falls apart?"

If you've ever found yourself excited, grateful, terrified, hopeful, emotional, and confused all at the same time, this episode is for you.

Because sometimes the dream becoming real isn't a sign that something is wrong.

Sometimes it's a sign that your life is expanding.

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For many of us, survival mode becomes so familiar that we stop asking ourselves one important question:

What do I actually want?

Not what everyone else needs.

What do you want?

In this episode, Dr. KellyRae explores why so many people struggle to answer that question after years of caretaking, people-pleasing, surviving, and carrying responsibilities. Through personal stories, client insights, and a visit from everyone's favorite head of emergency preparedness, Trudy, you'll discover why wanting something more isn't selfish—it's human.

We'll talk about:

🌻 Why survival mode leaves little room for desire

If you've been doing the work, healing, growing, and wondering what comes next, this conversation is for you.

Because maybe healing isn't only about growing roots.

Maybe it's also about allowing yourself to grow toward the light.

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In this episode of Getting Through the Week, Dr. KellyRae explores a challenge many people never expect to face:

What happens when life stops being about survival?

For years, many of us become experts at managing responsibilities, solving problems, carrying burdens, and getting through difficult seasons. We learn how to be strong. We learn how to endure. We learn how to survive.

But eventually life begins asking a different question:

Can you learn how to live?

Drawing from her own experiences, client work, and a few entertaining updates from Trudy and her trusty Rottweiler head of security, Dr. KellyRae explores why peace can feel unfamiliar, why some people unconsciously look for new problems to solve, and why thriving requires a different set of skills than surviving.

In this episode, you'll discover:

🌻 Why peace can feel uncomfortable after years of stress

🌻 How survival mode can become part of your identity

🌻 Why some people struggle when life becomes quieter

🌻 The difference between surviving and truly living

🌻 How to stop looking for emergencies that no longer exist

🌻 Why learning to receive joy, rest, and ease can feel surprisingly vulnerable

One of the things Dr. KellyRae often helps clients navigate is the transition from survival mode to a healthier season of life. Because while most people understand how to fight through difficult times, very few people are taught how to trust the good ones.

And sometimes healing isn't about overcoming another obstacle.

Sometimes healing is learning how to enjoy the life you've worked so hard to create.

Questions, comments, or interested in working together?

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In this episode of Getting Through the Week, Dr. KellyRae explores something many people struggle with but rarely talk about openly: self-trust.

Have you ever asked multiple people for advice while quietly suspecting you already knew the answer?

Have you ever ignored your exhaustion, dismissed your intuition, overridden your boundaries, or second-guessed yourself into confusion?

If so, you're not alone.

Many of us learned to stop trusting ourselves long before we ever realized we were doing it. Life experiences, responsibilities, difficult relationships, old wounds, and survival strategies can teach us to look outside ourselves for answers while disconnecting from the wisdom we already carry within.

Drawing from both her personal experiences and the work she does with clients, Dr. KellyRae explores why self-trust often feels difficult, how we learn to override our own signals, and why rebuilding trust with ourselves happens one small decision at a time.

Along the way, you'll hear more from Trudy—the overly cautious inner protector who remains unconvinced that every decision doesn't require a committee meeting—and discover why healing isn't about silencing these protective parts but learning to understand what they've been trying to communicate all along.

In this episode, you'll learn:

🌻 Why many people lose trust in themselves

🌻 The difference between intuition and fear

🌻 How survival strategies can disconnect us from our own wisdom

🌻 Why self-trust is built through evidence, not perfection

🌻 Small ways to begin rebuilding your relationship with yourself

Because maybe self-trust isn't something you suddenly find.

Maybe it's something you slowly build—one boundary, one choice, and one honest moment at a time.

Questions, comments, or interested in working together?

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☕ Support the Podcast

If these conversations have helped you navigate life, healing, growth, or change, and you'd like to support the show, you can do so here:

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Thank you for listening, sharing, and being part of this community.

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In this episode of Getting Through the Week, Dr. KellyRae explores a side of personal growth that doesn't get talked about nearly enough: grief.

Not grief after loss, but grief during transformation.

As we heal, grow, and become more self-aware, we often outgrow old identities, coping mechanisms, and survival strategies that once helped us make it through difficult seasons of life. While growth is often celebrated, the emotional experience of leaving behind familiar versions of ourselves can feel surprisingly sad.

Through personal reflections, practical insights, and a few appearances from Trudy—the overly cautious inner protector who remains convinced every life change requires a full security review—Dr. KellyRae explores why healing can sometimes feel like loss, why we miss versions of ourselves we've outgrown, and how honoring our past can help us move forward with greater compassion.

Drawing from both her own experiences and the work she does with clients, she shares why healing isn't about getting rid of parts of ourselves, but helping them step into new roles that better serve the life we're creating.

If you've ever felt emotional after making positive changes, questioned why growth feels harder than expected, or found yourself grieving a version of yourself you no longer want to be, this conversation is for you.

Because sometimes the sadness you're feeling isn't a sign you're moving backward.

It's a sign you've grown beyond the life you once needed to survive.

Questions, comments, or interested in working together?

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☕ Support the Podcast

If these conversations have helped you navigate life, healing, growth, or change, and you'd like to support the show, you can do so here:

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Your support helps keep Getting Through the Week free and available for listeners around the world.

Thank you for listening, sharing, and being part of this community.

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