Girl... You Good?® | Boundaries, Burnout & Personal Growth

First guest episode and we're diving straight into it.

I'm joined by Roxanne Engstrom of Hawa Images to talk about what it really looks like to be yourself while your business is still evolving. This is the messy middle. The "this doesn't fit anymore but I'm not fully sure what does" phase.

We get into showing up authentically, letting go of what you think you should be doing, and trusting your voice while you're still figuring it out.

If you've been outgrowing old versions of yourself in business, this one will hit.

Connect with Roxanne: Hawa Images https://hawaimages.com

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A question every zesty queen asks eventually: Am I petty or peaceful?

In this episode, Cassandra explores how "keeping the peace" often turns into quiet resentment, why honesty without regulation can turn petty fast, and how reactions are data, not flaws.

The work isn't judging the reaction. It's getting curious about what's underneath.

Take the just for fun quiz below. 👉 Petty or Peaceful Quiz

No labels. No fixing. Just curiosity.

Comparison isn't the problem. How you use it is.

In this episode, Cassandra breaks down why telling yourself to "stop comparing" rarely works and how comparison can actually be used as a tool for growth. Drawing from a recent Girl You Good live coaching call, she explores how choosing the wrong pace setters keeps you stuck and how more intentional comparison can help you move forward instead of spinning. Join us :) Membership Link

In this episode, Cassandra shares a vulnerable story about a parenting moment she wishes she could undo and the unexpected way she disarmed the shame that followed.

If you've ever replayed a moment on loop and convinced yourself you caused permanent damage, this conversation offers a different path. One rooted in honesty, repair, and letting shame lose its grip.

If this episode resonated and you want support navigating moments like these without drowning in guilt, check out the Girl You Good Membership.

It's a space for real conversations, live group coaching, and tools that help you break patterns without turning on yourself.

Learn more at cassandrapickett.com/girlyougood

There's a kind of optimism we don't talk about enough.

The kind where you feel clear, capable, and mentally ready for anything — and then suddenly, you're not.

In this episode, I talk about fickle optimism. That fast internal crash from "I've got this" to "what if this never ends?" Whether it shows up through injury, anxiety, grief, or exhaustion, that drop can feel destabilizing and scary.

But here's the reframe that matters:

It's not weakness. It's wiring. And it's something we can rewire.

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Whether that's working one-on-one with me or joining the Girl You Good Membership, I've got you covered here:

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There was a moment where I had a choice.

I could keep things smooth. Stay likable. Trust authority over my own knowing.

Or I could tell the truth and feel myself again.

In this episode, I share a story from early in my career when I found myself sitting across from people with power over my job, my reputation, and my future—being asked to soften what I knew was true.

I pause the story at the exact moment it mattered and ask you the same question I had to answer:

What would you do—when you're sandwiched in hierarchy, you need a paycheck, and the people above you can shape your career?

This isn't about judging yourself. It's not about being brave for the sake of bravery.

It's about awareness.

Noticing when you self-abandon to keep the peace. And noticing what it costs you when you do.

If this episode stirred something in you—especially patterns of overfunctioning, staying agreeable, or managing other people's comfort at the expense of your own—this is the exact work I do with clients.

If you're curious whether coaching with me is the right fit, you can learn more at 👉 www.cassandrapickett.com

What if the thing you're most embarrassed about actually taught you something important?

Inside this episode, we talk about: • why insecurity often looks reasonable in the moment • how control feeds anxiety instead of calming it • the difference between access and intimacy • why growth usually comes after repetition, not perfection • how to recognize when fear is asking for reassurance

If you've ever reread texts for tone, monitored someone's mood, or told yourself "I just need to know more," this episode will feel painfully familiar and deeply relieving.

Work with Cassandra If you found yourself thinking "why do I keep doing this?" or "I know better but I still get stuck," Cassandra is currently opening a limited number of Blind Spot Reads.

You can learn more or book yours here: https://www.cassandrapickett.com/blindspotread

Season 2 Finale | When the air turns crisp and the light disappears before dinner, something shifts. You crave soup, quiet, and candles—but your brain's shouting, "Keep going!" This week, Cassandra unpacks why our bodies ask for hibernation long before our calendars do, and how to rest intentionally instead of crashing into it.

You'll hear how a "grizzly bear season" taught her that rest isn't passive—it's participation. Because you can't just slap a "restored" tag on your chest and power through the holidays. You have to actually lie down in your own cave.

If you've ever entered January feeling like a raccoon after a rave, this one's for you.

Listen in to learn:

• Why rest won't stick if you don't participate in it

• How to notice your body's seasonal shifts before burnout does

• Why "permission to hibernate" might be your most productive move yet

🖤 Rooting for your rest, your soup and bread, and your quiet season.

Mentioned in this episode:

• Girl You Good? Membership — group coaching + private community for ambitious women who want sustainable growth and grounded connection. → cassandrapickett.com/girlyougood

Turning 40 brought a kind of healing I didn't expect. My closest friends threw me a birthday party that felt more like a soul reset than a celebration. In the middle of the laughter, tears, and gifts, I had this vivid moment of feeling little — not small, but safe.

I saw my cousin's teary eyes, tissue paper everywhere, and realized… this is what it feels like to be loved without performance. To be messy and still adored. To receive like a little girl again — openly, fully, and without apology.

In this episode, I'm unpacking how powerful it can be when grown women let themselves receive like little girls — when we stop deflecting love, stop minimizing our needs, and allow ourselves to be cared for.

Because women spend so much of life giving, but real connection starts when we learn to let love in.

You don't actually feel guilty—you feel uncomfortable.

In this episode, Cassandra breaks down one of the most common emotional mix-ups: guilt versus discomfort. We use "guilty" as a catch-all for every twinge of anxiety, people-pleasing, or fear of disappointing someone—but true guilt only applies when a repair is needed.

If you didn't do something wrong, you don't owe a repair. What you owe yourself is honesty about what's underneath the feeling.

Cassandra walks through real-life examples (including the "forgot to invite the guests" birthday scenario) to help you tell the difference between false guilt and real accountability—and explains why mislabeling every hard emotion as guilt cheats you out of clarity and growth.

You'll learn: • What guilt is actually designed to do • Why false guilt keeps you stuck in people-pleasing • How to reframe discomfort as growth • Why "she's not that helpless and I'm not that powerful" might become your new mantra

By the end, you'll stop apologizing for having limits and start recognizing that discomfort doesn't mean you've done something wrong—it means you're evolving.

🖤 Rooting for you, Cassandra Pickett, LMFT Certified Clini-Coach®