Go Bucket Yourself

It's a wrap! Season 2 is in the books and we are so grateful for the amazing folks who we were so blessed to speak with this season. We give a quick recap of the season and share stories from folks in the tribe who are out there trying to Stop the Drift in their lives and moving closer and closer to their bucket-list life. Listen in for honest-to-goodness inspiration from ordinary people out there doing the extraordinary and maybe some bonus music?!?!

Guest clips in this episode:

• Pick up a copy of or review Deb's book.
• Diania Merriam - Chief Economeist and founder of  EconoMe Conference & host of the Optimal Finance Daily podcast
• Emma Mild - find her debut EP release and songs (it's so good!!!)
• Angenette - check out her Facebook group Functional Nutrition Talk and Tips
• Carrie Doan - Clarity coach at carriedoan.com
• David Baughier - Chief Curator at Fiology.com
• You can find Deb on Instagram - @imperfectprogress.me
• Chris - @bucketyourself
• Our website - https://gobucketyourself.com
• Email us - [email protected]

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• Chris @bucketyourself on Insta
• Deb @imperfectprogress.me on Insta
• Get Deb’s book HERE

In this week's episode, we chat about the loneliness of leaving a job, isolating during a pandemic, and living in a modern world where we've traded deep connections with a few people for shallow connections with many. We discuss how the feeling of belonging is one of the most vital drivers in living a meaningful life. As social creatures, we're not only contented by connections where we can feel seen, understood, and acknowledged but it's baked into our survival.

Listen in as Deb and Chris share their stories of working through these difficult emotions and some of the tips and tactics we've used to work through them.

Much love and wishes for you to find the belonging that you seek in your life!

Quotes about belonging from this episode:
"True belonging is the spiritual practice of believing in and belonging to yourself so deeply that you can share your most authentic self with the world and find sacredness in both being a part of something and standing alone in the wilderness. True belonging doesn't require you to change who you are; it requires you to be who you are...because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance." -- Brene Brown

"You are only free when you realize you belong no place--you belong every place--no place at all. The price is high. The reward is great." -- Maya Angelou

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• The Power of Meaning - Finding Fulfillment in a World Obsessed With Happiness

Stay in touch!

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• Chris @bucketyourself on Insta
• Deb @imperfectprogress.me on Insta
• Get Deb’s book HERE

In this episode Chris and Debbie,

• answer this question from a community member:

"Hey there! I happened to see your post on a chronic illness IG page that spotlighted MCTD. I've been searching for some sort of support group as I was diagnosed almost 3 years ago now with MCTD, Sjogrens & most recently, Raynauds. I noticed your posts about traveling, food, etc & can relate SO much. My biggest struggle has been to balance rest, work & time with family & friends. I'm a single 33-year-old woman trying to maintain my career as well as possible in order to support myself, & while I love my job, it can be such high stress at times. Do you mind if I ask how you found the balance to self-care but still maintain a social life, travel, etc? Thanks again for your openness to sharing your struggles--it's so refreshing & I'm sure has helped many! :) Blessings to you."

• talk about their upcoming and past, quarterly father/daughter and mother/daughter dates and their reasons for doing so (Be sure to let one of them know if you'd like a copy of the book they mentioned, through one of the contact links below!)
• read (Deb) a chapter of her soon to be released (Feb. 1, 2021) book, The Other Side of Perfect: Discovering the Mind-Body Connection to Healing Chronic Illness

Listen all the way to the end for some out-takes Chris snuck in without Deb's permission. Eeeek!

Resources mentioned in this episode:
When the Body Says No by Gabor Mate
Family Board Meetings by Jim Sheils
The Stress Nanny with Lindsay Miller (podcast)
Get Deb's book and the companion journal
Get your free Stop the Drift Workbook
Connect with Chris on Instagram
Connect with Deb on Instagram
Email Chris: [email protected]

Stay in touch!

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• Chris @bucketyourself on Insta
• Deb @imperfectprogress.me on Insta
• Get Deb’s book HERE

In this episode, Deb and Chris walk through the free Stop the Drift workbook (which you can get by going to gobucketyourself.com/drift). The workbook is compromised of a handful of prompts and exercises that can help you to identify an area of life that you've drifted a bit, and make a clear course correction to sail into your dream life--your Bucket-List life!

We'll share some of the areas that we've identified as an opportunity to grow and the ways we're going to make them happen.

Tune in to this episode and don't forget to share your wins with us.

You can find Deb on Instagram - @imperfectprogress.me
Chris - @bucketyourself

Our website - https://gobucketyourself.com

Email us - [email protected]

Stay in touch!

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• Chris @bucketyourself on Insta
• Deb @imperfectprogress.me on Insta
• Get Deb’s book HERE

In this episode, Chris and Debbie touch on the basics of real estate investing, financial independence, and broad market index fund investing.

They answer the following questions:

1. "What is financial independence?"
2. "What is the best way to get started in real estate investing?"
3. "How do you decide what properties are worth investing in?"
4. "Is my personal residence an asset?"
5. "Is real estate investing the only way to reach financial independence?"
6. "How do I know when I have enough cash-flow or enough invested to retire?"

In answer, they talk briefly discuss the following:

• Their first rental properties, why they bought them, and what the numbers were like
• Appreciation, cash-flow, and buy-and-hold investments
• The 1% rule in real estate investing
• Assets versus liabilities
• High risk and lower risk investments
• Real estate mind-set
• Low fee broad market index funds
• The 4% rule in stock market investing and retirement
• Tracking monthly spending
• The anti-budget

Resources from this episode:

• Books mentioned in this episode:
  • The Simple Path to Wealth by JL Collins
  • Your Money or Your Life by Vicki Robin and Joe Dominguez
  • The Lifestyle Investor by Justin Donald
• Learn a lot more about the 1% rule of real estate in this very thorough blog post on coachcarson.com.
• Read more about tracking your spending in this article from ChooseFI and/or just use this spending tracker they created.
• Read more about the "anti-budget" in this blog post from Paula Pant on affordanything.com, or listen to this podcast episode by the same author.
• Read more about Dave Ramsey's envelope budgeting method in this blog post.
• If you want to know more about investing and/or have more questions
  • email us here
  • DM Chris on Instagram
  • DM Debbie on Instagram
• Get Debbie's book The Other Side of Perfect: Discovering the Mind-Body Connection to Healing Chronic Illness
• Get on our mailing list by hitting "subscribe"!

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• Chris @bucketyourself on Insta
• Deb @imperfectprogress.me on Insta
• Get Deb’s book HERE

We wish you a Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays from the GoBucketYourself family to yours. May you find stillness, love, and abundance in this 2020 holiday season!

You can find out more about the book by going to https://gobucketyourself.com/books

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• Chris @bucketyourself on Insta
• Deb @imperfectprogress.me on Insta
• Get Deb’s book HERE

Imagine hiking 2000 miles, in a row, with everything you need to survive on your back. Now imagine doing it with six children, one of which also required being carried on your back. What a big story! Ben Crawford shares his experience with his family through-hike in this episode with Chris and Debbie.

That's all very interesting, but what's even more interesting is what doing this hike taught Ben and his wife Kami about being better humans and parents. Listen along, as they dig into:

• what "Fight for Together" is all about
• rethinking the idea that an adventurous life must be lived before marriage and children
• hiking your own hike
• how the trail provides
• learning to ask for and accept help
• the internet hate machine
• redefining traditional parent and child roles
• what Ben means by safety second
• learning to find alternative ways and paths
• living their lives from the perspective of telling the best story possible
• what lessons they've applied from the trail to their lives at home moving forward

They share some laughs along the way, in this deeply honest and vulnerable conversation about what it means to be a parent and a child experiencing life together. You'll want to hear it all!

Quote from this episode:

• "After all, we thought, when the world sees walking into the woods with your kids as controversial, something's wrong somewhere in the culture." - Ben Crawford

Resources mentioned in today's episode

• FightForTogether YouTube channel
• Get their book and learn more about them on their site fightfortogether.com
• Or get their book on Amazon 2000 Miles Together | The Story of the Largest Family to Hike the Appalachian Trail
• Fight For Together on Instagram
• Our website gobucketyourself.com
• Show notes from today's episode
• Our FREE Stop the Drift workbook

Music used in today's episode

• Intro by the great Charlie Hayden
• Outro - Thinking Free by Ketsa

Stay in touch!

• 🌎 gobucketyourself.com
• Chris @bucketyourself on Insta
• Deb @imperfectprogress.me on Insta
• Get Deb’s book HERE

After the traumatic birth of their first child, Kelly and Eli found themselves in a struggling marriage and a life their former, adventurous selves wouldn't have recognized. Their attempt at revival was to hit the road for 11 months in a 1995 32' Fleetwood Bounder, after scrounging together the money to buy it and renting out their home.

Listen in as they talk with Chris and Deb about:

• where the typical, fear-driven American mentality led them--"Get a good education. Get a good job."
• what led up to their decision to dramatically change their daily life
• how they were able to make it happen
• their goals/hopes/dreams for the trip
• how reality compared with their aspirations
• the bests and worst  of extended travel, with three people, in a confined space through all seasons
• how the trip allowed them to "dive into the darkness"
• what this decision did for their marriage and roles as parents
• why they decided to share it all in a documentary on Amazon
• what's happened in their lives since
• what we can expect from their new documentary, The Far Green Country 2: Diving Into the Darkness

Quotes from this episode:

• "Life has a way of putting bumps in the road, just when you least expect them. It's through these trials that we grow, so long as we can push through them." - Kelly Pyke
• "Don't ask what the world needs, ask what makes you come alive and go do it." - John Eldredge
• "What can I say? I come alive on the road and in beautiful places, and at this point in my journey, I needed to come alive." - Kelly Pyke
• "The only difference between a roadblock and an adventure is my perspective." - Kelly Pyke
• "Beauty and wilderness, remote settings, places separate from the business of daily life...These places allow me to pause; to be present to each moment as it passes; to make room in my life to attend to the vulnerable places inside me. That seems to be the best place to cultivate change." - Kelly Pyke

Resources from this episode:

• Watch The Far Green Country on Amazon (free with Prime)
• Watch Far Green Country 2: At Road's End on Amazon
• Check out their site, thefargreencountry.com to get merch, get updates, and/or get the low-down
• Follow them on Instagram @thefargreencountry
• Learn more about Front Row Dad's on their site frontrowdads.com
• Get our free, Stop the Drift workbook at gobucketyourself.com/drift

Stay in touch!

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• Chris @bucketyourself on Insta
• Deb @imperfectprogress.me on Insta
• Get Deb’s book HERE

Why should we take time out of our day or set aside a special day each year for gratitude. Chris and Debbie discuss the power of gratitude and it's role and benefit in their lives, including grounding them in the present moment. What are they thankful for and how do they practice gratitude? Listen in to see if you're on the same page!

They go on to acknowledge the difficulty of this holiday season for many, as a time that's already heavy for so many, bears the extra burden of loneliness and isolation this year.

They wrap things up with a new segment, The Mail Bag, where they answer questions from the Go Bucket Yourself community. In this episode, they answer a question from Danielle about meditation. She said,

"...would love to see...what meditation has done for you! I need the motivation."


Resources in today's episode:

• Official show notes - gobucketyourself.com/episode24
• Daily Calm - meditation app we use
  • 30-day free guest pass - gobucketyourself.com/calm
• Guided flow and meditation with Elena Bower playlist on Spotify - https://gobucketyourself.com/deepbreath
• Wild Geese by Mary Oliver
• The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

Stay in touch!

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• Chris @bucketyourself on Insta
• Deb @imperfectprogress.me on Insta
• Get Deb’s book HERE

Listen in to this episode as Chris and Debbie have an entertaining and informative conversation with Juan Fernandez, an immigrant from Maracaibo, Venezuela.

Juan tells us all about:

• growing up in a hardworking, middle-class family that emphasized education and valued responsibility
• his family-centered upbringing in which, "what happens to one family member, happens to every family member."
• his parents' focus on saving for the future ("Money doesn't grow on trees." "Save, save, save because you never know what might happen.")
• the abundant, booming Venezuela of his youth where, "all you could see were opportunities."
• scarcity mindset
• what he learned from seeing his father lose his job of 19 years and how it continues to influence him today
• how he was able to get his undergraduate and graduate degrees in Venezuela and the U.S., debt-free, through scholarships, fellowships, and becoming a research assistant
• why he decided to stay in the U.S. after graduating
• his financial motivations and reasons to work toward financial independence (FI)
• the ways he continues to improve as a husband, father, and employee

You'll want to check out Episode 22 to learn about Juan's marriage performance reviews if you missed it. You'll be glad you did!

Other resources from this episode:

• Learn more about Juan, his path to financial independence, and connect with him through his blog, ajourneytofi.com.
• Check him out on Twitter.
• Connect with others interested in financial independence at a CampFi near you.
• Music used in today's episode courtesy of the artist or Free Music Archive
  Intro - Charlie Hayden
  Outro - Thorn and Shout

Stay in touch!

• 🌎 gobucketyourself.com
• Chris @bucketyourself on Insta
• Deb @imperfectprogress.me on Insta
• Get Deb’s book HERE