The Apostle Paul writes in Romans 8:26,

"And the Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness. For example, we don’t know what God wants us to pray for. But the Holy Spirit prays for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in words. And the Father who knows all hearts knows what the Spirit is saying, for the Spirit pleads for us believers in harmony with God’s own will. And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them."

Today we are talking about God’s purpose for you in and within your sexuality. We all know that God has not put you on Earth by chance. He has included you in the redemption of His Kingdom. But how does this purpose portray itself in sexuality as a single person?

Dr. Juli Slattery is my guest, and we are discussing her new workbook for single women; it’s called “Sex and the Single Girl.”

In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things:

1) How the struggle for sexuality is a good thing.

2) Is it wrong to marry someone who struggles with porn?

3) While men struggle visually, women struggle with the story within sexuality.

King Solomon writes in the Song of Songs 2,

"Ah, I hear my lover coming! He is leaping over the mountains, bounding over the hills. My lover is like a swift gazelle or a young stag.

Look, there he is behind the wall, looking through the window, peering into the room. My lover said to me, “Rise up, my darling! Come away with me, my fair one!"

Now, you may be thinking, is that really in the Bible?! It is. It’s been said that the Song of Songs is so passionate that Jewish Rabbi’s would prevent their students from reading it until they were 30 years old! As Christians, we should not be ashamed of this kind of passion, but we are to celebrate it in context with God’s design for sexuality. Today we continue our conversation with Dr. Juli Slattery. We are discussing her new workbook for single women; it’s called “Sex and the Single Girl.”

On today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things:

1) How and why the consequences of sex outside of marriage impact in a unique way.

2) Why the sexual union between husband and wife is a mysterious metaphor for Jesus’ relationship with us.

The Apostle Peter writes in 1 Peter 1:13,

"So prepare your minds for action and exercise self-control. Put all your hope in the gracious salvation that will come to you when Jesus Christ is revealed to the world. So you must live as God’s obedient children. Don’t slip back into your old ways of living to satisfy your own desires. You didn’t know any better then. But now you must be holy in everything you do, just as God who chose you is holy. For the Scriptures say, “You must be holy because I am holy.”

What exactly does it mean to be holy? Holiness simply means to be different - to be set apart from the rest of the world. You are consecrated - dedicated and devoted to the Lord.

The idea here is that every aspect of our life is holy - including our sexuality. This is our topic today as we continue our conversation with Dr. Juli Slattery. We are discussing her new workbook for single women; it’s called “Sex and the Single Girl.”

In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things:

1) Why accountability is the concept of a team and community.

2) Why a woman’s desperate plea for a pastor’s counsel is not done in isolation.

3) Why it’s impossible to compartmentalize your sexuality.

We live in a sexually chaotic world where the standard is to “be true to yourself”. Young people’s sexuality now includes sexual gender confusion, social app hookups, and the elimination of sexual boundaries.

Girls seem to be more likely now to make sexual decisions based on their culture rather than based on their personal convictions. So Christian singles seeking their true identity in Christ need to be equipped with a bold biblical perspective of sexuality.

That is why I’m excited about our new series that starts today. My guest is Dr. Juli Slattery. Juli is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and the president/co-founder of Authentic Intimacy.

We’ll be discussing her new book this week, titled, “Sex and the Single Girl” which is a six-week study that empowers single women with a comprehensive understanding of what it means to honor God with her sexuality.

In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things:

1) How has the sex conversation changed over the past 20 years?

2) Why women have a hard time reconciling sexuality and their walk with God.

3) Why women are experiencing emotional wounds from today’s sexual liberation movement.

We wrap our conversation with my guest Dave Carder today. Dave is a pastor, author, and counselor and we have been discussing his new book titled,“Anatomy of An Affair: How affairs, attractions, and addictions develop, and how to guard your marriage against them”.

Today we are talking about the truth, reality and the trust that is needed to recover from an affair.

In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things:

1) How to protect ourselves from people we’re attracted to

2) The reasoning behind adultery

3) How the betrayed spouse truly feels about pornography

We continue our conversation with my guest Dave Carder. Dave is a pastor, author, and counselor and we are discussing his new book titled,“Anatomy of An Affair: How affairs, attractions, and addictions develop, and how to guard your marriage against them”.

In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things:

1) Why sex won’t fix the God void in your life.

2) We’ll discuss a recovery exercise for marriages who have gone through an affair

3) What is a “dangerous person” in the marriage? And why does everyone have one?

We are starting the show off today in Genesis 16, and as we look at that story, we can see the humanistic rationalization of both Abram and Sarai, can’t we? It seemed like a good idea at the time, but as you can see things didn’t end well. This is what my guest Dave Carder calls an "Add-On" Affair in his book titled “Anatomy of An Affair: How affairs, attractions, and addictions develop, and how to guard your marriage against them”.

In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things:

1) Finish our discussion on the different types of affairs

2) Discuss what “mate poaching” is

3) Discuss One of the fastest growing types of affairs - the reconnection affair

Today we continue our series in dealing with one of the most serious marital issues there is - and that is to commit adultery. Having an affair is by far the fastest way to ruin your life. How do I know? Well, first we can see from scripture how King David’s life turned out after this affair. Secondly, to my own shame, I’ve been there and done that. And that’s why we are having this conversation today with pastor, counselor, and author Dave Carder. Trying to prevent the same thing from happening to you. We are discussing his new book titled, “Anatomy of An Affair: How affairs, attractions, and addictions develop, and how to guard your marriages against them.

In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things:

The different types of affairs

How children contribute to the stress of having an affair.

How parents can over-do family time rather than marriage time.

As Christians, we know that marriage is a covenant - commitment - made between one man and one woman in the presence of God, family, and friends. This commitment is to remain unbroken until death. But, contemporary culture, doesn’t view marriage this way. Things certainly have changed over the past several years when it comes to defining marriage, and we have unfortunately brought this attitude into the Church.

I have many men come into my office to confess their sexual sin, their porn use specifically, and then proceed to tell me that they never have or will ever cross over into having an affair - committing adultery. Well, I’m excited to have Dave Carder as my guest this week. Dave is an author and pastor along with a particular type of counselor - an “adultery recovery and prevention counselor.”

Dave is the author of five books, and this week we will be discussing his latest, “Anatomy of An Affair: How Affairs, Attractions, and Addictions Develop, and How to Guard Your Marriage Against Them

In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things:

The two factors for first-time affairs

Why stress is a significant contributor to committing adultery

Why adultery is a mood altering experience

King David writes in Psalm 103 - "Let all that I am praise the Lord; with my whole heart, I will praise his holy name. Let all that I am praise the Lord; may I never forget the good things he does for me. He forgives all my sins and heals all my diseases. He redeems me from death and crowns me with love and tender mercies. 5 He fills my life with good things. My youth is renewed like the eagle’s! The Lord gives righteousness and justice to all who are treated unfairly.  He revealed his character to Moses and his deeds to the people of Israel.  The Lord is compassionate and merciful, slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love.  He will not constantly accuse us, nor remain angry forever.  He does not punish us for all our sins; he does not deal harshly with us, as we deserve.  For his unfailing love toward those who fear him is as great as the height of the heavens above the earth.  He has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west.  The Lord is like a father to his children, tender and compassionate to those who fear him.  For he knows how weak we are; he remembers we are only dust."

Today we continue our series on how to raise your boys and turn them into godly men. Dr. Mike Fabarez is my guest, and we are discussing his latest book, "Raising Men, Not Boys: Shepherding Your Sons To Be Men of God."

In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things:

1) How to take your son’s sin seriously and yet provide hope at the same time.

2) Learn how to come with sympathy from our past, but yet at the same time not minimize the sin itself.

3) Final thoughts for parents who think things are to far gone.