If you've ever felt broken by grief or wondered if healing is truly possible, episode 404 of Grief and Happiness is for you. Author Harper A. Bailey shares the two words a hospice nurse whispered at her mother's bedside—"no regrets"—that took nine years in "the wilderness" of grief to understand. Through her lifelong journaling practice, Harper reveals why wholeness isn't something you search for—it's your birthright, waiting to be reclaimed. Her message will shift how you see grief, forgiveness, and healing.
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
(01:15) Harper's mission as a storyteller and her journey to wholeness
(02:36) The four parts of her story: running, falling, sinking, and flying
(03:30) Nine years in "the wilderness" after her mother's death
(07:07) Accessible journaling methods: voice notes, junk journaling, and more
(09:04) Why healing in community matters—isolation versus connection
(12:52) How storytelling gives others permission to come home to themselves
(16:31) Metabolizing grief: why you have to work through it, not around it
(22:12) The boulder we carry: releasing trauma through writing
(25:28) Forgiveness misconceptions—it's not letting others off the hook
(27:41) "No regrets": the hospice nurse's message that changed everything
(30:56) The power of 52 weekly cards: writing as an act of love
(38:04) Small acts of kindness create ripple effects in grief
(39:08) Why smiling and grief can—and should—coexist
Harper A. Bailey is a Chicago native, public health leader, storyteller, and debut author whose raw and inspiring memoir It Was Her (October 2024) chronicles her journey through grief following her mother's death 13 years ago. A lifelong journalist since age nine who still keeps all her journals, Harper's work bridges personal transformation with public health as she helps people reclaim their wholeness. Her book unfolds in four parts—running, falling, sinking, and flying—revealing how she navigated nine years in "the wilderness" of grief before discovering the transformative power of journaling, forgiveness, and healing in community.
In this episode, Harper shares her powerful message that grief comes in many forms—from loss of loved ones to job disappointments and "micro griefs"—and that metabolizing grief through confrontation rather than avoidance is essential to experiencing the present. She advocates for accessible journaling methods including traditional writing, voice notes, and junk journaling, emphasizing that this practice helps move what's inside out and creates space for healing. Central to her philosophy is the belief that wholeness is our birthright: we're not broken, but rather need to reclaim what already belongs to us through storytelling, forgiveness of self and others, and authentic connection in community. Harper reminds us that while we can't always choose our experiences, we can take control today and come home to ourselves.
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