Grillz & Heels

On this episode we discuss a variety of topics that surround being in our feelings.

Suppressed emotions don’t just go away; instead, they become toxic. They will keep showing up in your life, in some form of dysfunction or unhappiness, until you resolve them. Throughout life, feeling your feelings is one of the healthiest and most productive things you can do.

You must feel your feelings; your emotions are helpful companions on the journey of life. You need to make friends with them, learn from them, and interact with them in a loving, not fearful, way.

On this episode Trissy Lyn & Rebecca Sky review pass topics for the new year. Divorce, moving on, having hard conversation, new relationships, and heart break.

In this episode we discuss our last decade. How our lives have change just within the last year. What would you tell yourself 10 years ago?

Why is it that people try to move on to a new relationship before they get themselves together? Before you even attempt to share time with someone else, please make sure you have the time available for them. Also make sure you are together before pouring drama and baggage into someone new.

On this Episode we discuss why do some people have the need to define or label their relationships. And why some people hate labels all together. What makes someone your boyfriend or girlfriend.

Nowadays, it feels as though the terms “boyfriend” and “girlfriend” are thrown about, much like confetti at a kid’s birthday party. Or, we have the starkly contrasting approach of those who have decided it’s better to “play it cool.” The ones who have adapted the mindset, as touted by prevalent popular culture, that developing or worse, showcasing feelings for someone is “weak” or “uncool.”

We either cannot commit, or almost instantaneously slap arbitrary labels on our connection with another person, to my mind, without much depth of thought as to what makes it so.

Many aspects of parenting remain the same after a separation. Keeping communication between parents positive, however, will often require greater attention and care. The emotional turmoil of divorce can make children especially vulnerable. If conflict is a major aspect of co-parenting communication, children’s lives can be further destabilized. Although separation will change how families work, co-parents can still be a source of stability and comfort for their children as long as they commit to positivity in their shared parenting.

Parents want what’s best for their kids, but the best isn’t always possible when a divorce or breakup is necessary. And often, a divorce or breakup is the most responsible decision parents can make to reduce the emotional trauma of remaining in a high-conflict home. It’s possible for parents to put their differences aside to create a co-parenting plan that’s beneficial to their child’s long-term development. Take advantage of community resources, such as a mediator or counselor, to set yourself up for co-parenting success. And remember to create ground rules about mutual respect – neither of you should bad-mouth the other in front of the kids – to create a framework for healthy co-parenting. The pain of a divorce or separation doesn’t have to reverberate in your child’s life if you and your ex can come together to provide a safe, stable, and consistent environment.

Healthy relationships do not start from a standpoint of “scarcity,” “shortage,” or “something missing.” Contrary to popular cliches, they are not about finding our “other half,” or someone to “complete” us. Healthy relationships are built only with people who are already complete going in.

People want their romantic relationships to be stable; they want their profound love to remain constant at its initial profound level. However, people would also like their romantic love to be wild and unstable in the sense of unpredictable. They do not want to take each other for granted, like something inanimate that remains the same all the time; they want love to be wild and exciting. This may be termed "The paradox of stability." So do we want romantic stability or not?

Inspired by the Bonnie and Clyde mythologies, the term “ride or die” was popularized in hip-hop music during the 90s and early 2000s. Ride or die is a term used to describe a person (usually a woman) that is willing to do anything for their partner, friend, or family, even in the face of danger. A ride or die is often praised for their fierce loyalty and commitment to their partner but ride or die relationships are all too often code for unhealthy relationships.

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We all do things that old us back from being better versions of ourselves. On this episode Trissy Lyn & Rebecca Sky discuss 5 thing they feel we all as adults need to stop doing to ourselves that stunt our growth. If you do want to create change in your life, get clear on the definition of what a better life is for YOU. This will help you identify the key things that you need to STOP DOING so that you can have a better life.