I broke up with my girlfriend about a year ago and it didn't end well. She was more in love with me than I was with her and I didn't see it going anywhere so I broke it off. She didn't take it well, trashed me to our mutual friends and we aren't on speaking terms. Well, I recently found out that my mom has still been talking to her on Facebook and liking her statuses. I didn't know any of this because my ex blocked me. When I asked my mom about it, she admitted to it and thought it was no big deal. I think it’s super weird, and told her so, but she disagrees. Can everyone agree that this is weird and unnecessary? Back me up here. Thanks guys

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I want to

preface this by saying I'm not a bad person but I am in a predicament. A few

weeks ago, my boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me and it crushed me. When you

go through a break-up, you do a lot of impulsive things. I started hooking up

with a casual acquaintance who works in a nearby office (not the same

company, but same office building). We were all good with what we were but I

think he's starting to catch some feelings because he's starting to text me

throughout the day instead of just when we are planning a hook-up. He also

mentioned going out to dinner sometime. I'm not ready for a relationship and

I've made that very clear. I’ve had friends say I should just ghost him but is

that too cruel? Do I talk to him and just tell him to pump the breaks on

catching feels or do I break it off altogether? Everyone complains about “ghosting”

but is it just the best thing to do sometimes? 

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So in just two months, my nephew is marrying my ex girlfriend of 2 years. I was invited to the wedding, obviously, because I’m family, but I'm not really sure if I should go. I'm pretty sure that the entire time we dated, they had some kind of hidden relationship. I suspected she was cheating on me with him, but I couldn't prove it. I finally ended things, and within a week they started dating. I really cared about her, so it hurt pretty bad. My question is, do you think I should go to the wedding or say hell no?! Do I have every right not to go?

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I'm getting

married in a few weeks and I couldn't be more excited. The dress is perfect and

so are the dresses that I picked out for the Bridesmaids. The only problem I'm

having is that my maid of honor is super busty. Her boobs are huge and she

isn't afraid to flaunt them. The rest of the Bridesmaids are fairly petite so

their dresses fit nicely but my maid of honor, during her fitting was spilling

out of her top. I really love the dresses that I picked out for them and even

with alterations there is still an uneven dress to breast ratio. I suggested

that maybe she wear a shawl just to cover up a little bit but she said that she

shouldn't have to. She also stated that the photos will look weird if she's the

only one covered up. What do I do? Do I insist she cover up or not be in the

wedding? Is this somehow my fault for picking the dress in the first place? I

just want people to look at me on the wedding day and not her boobs. Thanks for

your help!

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I’ll get to

the point. I want my boyfriend to cover his tattoo of his ex-girlfriend or have

it removed. We've only been dating for six months, but things are serious

between us and it really bugs me. I’ve never not dated a guy over a tattoo, but

if he doesn’t do something, I can’t do this. He said it's a part of his history

and for good or bad he thinks he should keep it. He only has a few tattoos, and

each, according to him, have meaning. This one in particular is on his ribs and

he says it hurt really bad and doesn't want to go through the pain again. I

get that this might sound petty… but does anyone else think this would bother

them too? Am I being unreasonable?

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I work with

my best friend. I got the position a year after her. My boss recently pulled me

into his office and told me that he thinks I would be better at the job than my

friend is. It would be a promotion for me and I would get a considerable raise.

My friend would be offered a lower position and a pay cut with the same

company, or she could leave. I am 33 and we have close friends since college. I

am dying to move up in the company but don’t know if I can actually “take this

job” from her. Do I take the job? Can I give her a heads up so she knows what’s

coming? I don’t know what the right thing to do is.

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I’ve been

dating this guy long-distance for four months. Recently, I noticed some odd

activity of his on Instagram, and this has devolved into a teenager-esque drama

that I loathe. He is on a vacation trip now, for a destination wedding of a

friend of his, somewhere exotic. So I all of a sudden see him adding some girls

on Instagram and liking all these photos of women in bikinis. Some are

apparently random models, others are what he claims are friends of his from

back home, and others are the girls he met over there. I wasn’t “spying” on

him. I was casually looking for something else and spotted that. I had never

noticed his Instagram likes before; apparently, he does this all the time. Many

of these photos are quite graphic—not nudes, but almost, and some are even

vulgar, IMO. He is always saying he is head over heels for me, wants to marry

me, spend his life with me. But I went crazy about him liking all these photos

on Instagram. Because it meant he was meeting people on this

trip—coincidentally, mostly women—and going through their photos, and giving

them “likes” exclusively on the revealing bikini shots. (For some reason, no

likes on the photos without skin.) These women are, of course, all beautiful.

When I confronted him, he said a bunch of stuff that had some inconsistencies

and was hard to believe. He promised to stop liking all these revealing photos,

and then three hours later he did it again, and I just lost it. He claims he

did it by habit without thinking. What am I to think? He insists they’re just

casual acquaintances, that they’ve added him on IG and not the other way

around, that he only has eyes for me … I know I can be jealous, but am I taking

this too far? Am I overreacting? Or should I run for the hills? If he does

stuff like this so early in a relationship, what can I expect down the line?

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Help me

settle this debate between my husband and I. We've been married for 2 years,

together for 4, and my husband has one weird quirk that has always bothered me:

He keeps and uses food and drinks way past the expiration date. Bread, milk,

yogurt, etc; If it has an expiration date, he's gonna keep it for as long as

possible. Um, hello? The expiration date means something right? He insists that

it's "Just a recommendation" and that the smell and taste test is all

that matters. I know this sounds like no big deal and it’s not really, but we

can never settle this, and if I throw them out early he gets pissed and if he

leaves it past the date and I forget and pour expired milk into my cereal I get

pissed. Am I wasteful for throwing out stuff when it says to or is he just

being gross and asking to get sick? Who’s more right?

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I've been

dating this awesome girl for a little over 3 months, It's been so much fun. We

see each other at least 4-5 times a week. She even spends the night every other

weekend. The reason it's only every other weekend is because she has a

6-year-old daughter, and when her ex has her she can spend the weekend with me.

The problem I'm having is after 3 months of dating she's never introduced me to

her. I understand being protective of her daughter, but I feel like we are

ready to take the next step. Last week we told each other we love one another.

I asked her last week that I really want to spend time with her and her

daughter. She told me that although she loves me and knows that I would be

wonderful with her daughter that she still needs more time. I don't want

to pressure her. It really hurts that we love each other and she still feels

uncertain about letting me meet her. I feel like I love her more than she loves

me. Maybe you have a listener going through something like this and can give me

advice.

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My wife has

gotten addicted to lifting weights in the last year and a half. She has become

massive. Her arms are seriously way bigger than mine. I feel like everyone

looks at us when we go out. She's big and muscular and I might actually be a

bit undersized. To accentuate her gains in the gym, she always wears tank tops

and other clothes that show off her muscles. I'm happy that she has found

a healthy hobby, but it feels weird laying next to a linebacker each night. You

can only imagine how awkward sex is becoming. Isn't this something she should

compromise on? Muscle tone is great, but she is straight jacked.

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