with christmas just around the corner, i decided to create my version of a vlogmas, called a podmas (don’t ask), and post christmas-themed episodes for the next four days. today, val and i answer random and juicy questions to decide which one of us is naughty or nice. hope y’all had a good laugh while listening lmao

⚠️caution headphone users⚠️

sometimes the best no, is the best yes you can give yourself. in today’s episode, i discuss reasons as to why we people-please such as; fomo, avoiding conflict, fear of abandonment, crave for (unhealthy) love and affection, or simply due to one’s impulsive nature of saying yes to everything! join me in gaining one’s authentic-self by understanding the power in saying “no.” a pretty short & (hopefully) chill episode for this one; hope everyone had a great listen!

for many of us, love is an emotion reserved for special people in our lives. though sometimes, we forget who deserves it more other than you, yourself! today, i invite you guys to come along on this self-love journey by retrieving back one’s self-worth and esteem, being comfortable in one’s skin, gaining self-awareness, maintaining self-care, putting God first and foremost, and balancing one’s needs and others :) hope this was helpful to some of you still struggling to perceive theirs; and hope y’all enjoyed <3

oftentimes, the validation we seek from various places can develop to a fixation. additionally, creating a profound impact on ourselves by questioning our worth. tune in as i discuss what it means to self-validate, its importance, to what extent, and overall, its aim to achieve healthy validation through self-validation practices! hope y’all had a great listen :D

sometimes, we live in our heads so much that we missed everything worth feeling. we hyper-focus our attention on our inner voices that we get stuck in rumination, worries, and assumptions. today, i discuss different kinds of “overthinking scenarios,” broke down the concept of our negative inner voices and how it fuels our need to overthink, shared ways to conquer them, and many more! quite an information-packed episode for this one, but i hope this can help those going through something similar :)

if there’s anything certain in life, it’s that things will mostly happen outside of our control. sometimes, our excessive need to control can lead us to ruminate and cause unproductive stress. tune in as my IB DP psychology teacher, bu karisa, and i broke down the concept of “mindfulness,” discussed ways and benefits of putting it to practice, finding peace in letting go of things we have no control of, and many more! a very insightful episode i’d say :)

also, go check out @/teraspiknik for more information on educational psychology! (and to watch bu karisa's IG live regarding mindfulness)

when we focus so much on the “what ifs,” we tend to forget about the “what is.” as a result, we’re rarely fully present in our lives. today, i discuss what it means to be present-minded, its struggles, and ways to balance living in the past, present, and future. i hope this is helpful to some of you undergoing something similar, and i hope you guys enjoy!

sometimes, holding on does more damage than letting go. in today’s episode, i discuss different types of “letting go” scenarios, as well as what it means to let go, why it’s so difficult, and even the irony as to why it’s called the “art” of letting go. quite a short and chaotic episode for this one, and you’ll see why -_- but i hope this was helpful for some of you going through a similar season :)

when positioned in an abusive situation, your abusers intentionally manipulate you into feeling less. it makes you question your worth, and silences you from voicing out your inner thoughts and emotions. today, i share what it feels like to be a silent victim, how to disregard people from dictating one’s life, allowing oneself and others to express opinions/believes with no restraint, and many more. definitely closing off this series on a good note, hope you guys enjoy!

TW⚠️: abuse

the ugly truth is that violence and abuse is normalized in our country and mental health is looked down upon. during february of this year, tiara and i openly discussed this reoccurring issue by looking at it through victims’ perspectives, breaking generational trauma, understanding short & long term effects, and emphasizing the importance of empathy. ultimately, hoping to shift our society’s mindsets and stop this stigma.

TAKE ACTION! below are hotlines to help and provide psychological first aid for victims of abuse throughout indonesia:

1. Komisi Nasional Anti-Kekerasan terhadap Perempuan (Komnas Perempuan):

National Commission on Violence Against Women (@/komnasperempuan):

2. Kementerian Pemberdayaan Perempuan dan Perlindungan Anak (KemenPPPA):

Ministry of Women Empowerment and Child Protection (@/kemenpppa)

Hotline tertera berisi enam layanan; yakni pengaduan, pengelolaan kasus, penjangkauan, akses penampungan sementara, mediasi, hingga pendampingan.

3. KPPPA Unit Pelaksanaan Teknik Dinas (UPTD) Provinsi DKI Jakarta:

KPPA of DKI Jakarta Provincial Service Technical Implementation Unit (UPTD):

4. Kementerian Sosial Rakyat Indonesia (Kemensos RI):

Indonesian Ministry of Social Affairs (@/kemensosri):

5. Pusat Panggilan Darurat Lokal:

Local Emergency Call Center:

6. Yayasan Jari (@/yayasanjari):

EDUCATE YOURSELF! expose yourself and broaden your knowledge on the issue:

if you are a bystander to violence/abuse, lend an ear to willingly listen to victims and understand their situation, offer specific help, and continuously be supportive. when someone tells you this is “none of your business,” tell them otherwise. make it your business! take action; it could save a life.