Sometimes when we're in pain, we focus more on controlling the outcome of a conflict than we are on staying true to our values. We forget that we can't control the behaviors, words, feelings, or thoughts of others, and so we really don't have any control over the outcome. In this episode, we talk about how to communicate in a way that stays in line with your values and prevents the stress of worrying about the outcome.

What does it mean about our relationship if we need therapy? What if the therapist tells us our issues are unfixable? Shouldn't we be able to fix this ourselves? What if we start going and our therapist just wants us to come back over and over again for years? How do we know when we don't need therapy anymore? Are they just going to make me talk about my feelings?

How do we even figure out whether or not our struggles are worthy of a therapist?

We have never met a man or woman who didn't have a fantasy. Whether it's having your partner finding a babysitter, planning a date night and whisking you away or trying a new adventure in the bedroom—the spectrum of fantasy is a fun and powerful tool to incorporate into your relationship. You might be surprised at what you learn about the art and power of fantasy in a relationship whether you ever act on one or not.

Setema is not just a Super Bowl Champ. He's an entrepreneur, a high-end coach, a speaker, an author, and most importantly, he's an incredible husband and father.

If you want to get a glimpse into what an extraordinary marriage can look like, this episode is for you.

Here are the questions we tackle today:

"I feel like every since I have had my children my sex drive has gone out the window! Before children it was crazy and now it is mind-boggling to me how it has changed!

What advice do you have to rekindle it?"

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"I had to be on pelvic rest during the last 1/2 of my pregnancy. I often offered to take care of my husband sexually, but he only let me do it once. When I offered again, he said sex is something we do together and not just him receiving the pleasure...