Guy Shrink

In this episode of GuyShrink, host Bill Roman reconnects with Jordan Keefe, an entrepreneur and coach who shares insights from his nomadic RV lifestyle and his work helping men overcome pornography addiction through his program, "Take a Break from Porn." Jordan discusses the challenge of letting go of the need to control unpredictable outcomes in life, drawing parallels to the entrepreneurial experience. It introduces his approach to addressing pornography use as a choice rather than an uncontrollable addiction, rooted in managing anxiety or boredom.

Jordan outlines his coaching strategies, emphasizing mindful breathing to reduce reactivity, tracking urges to identify patterns, and providing a safe space for emotional expression to alleviate underlying pressures. He advocates for embracing boredom and building mental resilience, illustrated by an exercise where clients lie down in a grocery store aisle to confront discomfort. Critiquing reliance on external tools like porn blockers, Jordan encourages internal emotional work and invites listeners to explore resources at takeabreakfromporn.com to start their journey toward change.

Learn more about Jordan Keefe at his website: https://takeabreakfromporn.org/

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In this deeply personal episode of Guy Shrink, host Bill Roman sits down with his friend Matt Kutz, a professor at Florida International University, to discuss a life-altering diagnosis of advanced metastatic prostate cancer. Matt shares his journey from being an active, symptom-free athlete to facing a challenging reality that affects not only him but his family. With candid vulnerability, he opens up about the emotional and physical toll of treatments, the stigma surrounding prostate cancer, and the importance of routine checkups. Matt also introduces his initiative, Battle for the Bulge, aimed at raising awareness and supporting prostate cancer research. This episode is a powerful reminder to prioritize health, embrace a positive attitude, and lean on community in the face of adversity. Tune in for an inspiring conversation about resilience and hope.

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In the season premiere of Guy Shrink, host Bill Roman welcomes back friend Tim Lusch for a deep dive into why every man should embrace philosophy. This episode explores the concept of living intentionally in a distracted world. Tim shares how a personal crisis at 21, sparked by his father's 20-year affair, led him to question his identity and purpose, finding answers through philosophy and mentorship. Drawing on the insights of Stoic thinkers like Epictetus and Marcus Aurelius, as well as the resilience of figures such as Jim Stockdale, they discuss navigating existential crises, from daily routines to life-altering events. The conversation touches on the suicide of Fandango founder Michael Klein, reflecting on what keeps us grounded. Tim emphasizes the importance of staying off "autopilot" to live fully, offering practical insights on morning routines, self-examination, and learning from literature such as *A Man for All Seasons* and *The Moviegoer*. A compelling call to ask big questions and live with purpose.

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Jim Herrington is an inspirational voice of authority in the millions of other voices claiming leadership knowledge. Jim has a significant track record of over four decades of sustained, creative, and engaged transformational leadership in the most precarious of places—the church. His career spans the work of a pastor, author, conference leader, coach, and podcast producer. He teams up with Trish Taylor on the highly successful podcast The Leader's Journey. Jim and Bill talk about how to equip people to grow in their capacity of emotional intelligence, adapt to change, and work for the common good. Most of us suffer from "infobesity"—too much fattening information; Jim and Bill present ways to slim down infobesity into effective practice. Take notes as you listen to this and share it with a friend.

In the middle of the night have you ever wrestled with the thought that the world would be better off without you? Do you ever feel like you have to pretend you're not broken and pray that your struggle doesn't get passed onto your kids as the family legacy? Do those midnight ghosts haunt you with the message that you're so messed up beyond any hope of figuring life out? Bullseye! You're not alone, ever. Joe Reid has been there so many times he's lost count. In this GuyShrink episode, he and Bill talk about how to make that daily struggle of more than barely making it to a rigorous climb up to real mental health. Joe has authored the unique Mental Health Scale that these two guys will explore and make practical use of. Joe is the author of the honest, raw and authentic book, Broken Like Me. This is no self-pity conversation but one that can empower every man. After you listen, you'll have a first-class toolkit to help you thrive.

Find out more about Joe Reid and his resources by visiting https://www.broken-people.org/

To be human is to be in relationships. Ugh. Red flag hoisted! We can't survive without them but at the same time, it's in our relationships that we can so easily get unraveled. This is the stuff that keeps a guy up at night. How to navigate the sticky wicket of significant others: wives, partners, spouses, along with parents, kids, coworkers, and friendships, is tough going. Dr. Jenny Brown, founder and now retired Executive Director of the Family Systems Institute in Sydney, Australia, joins Bill on this GuyShrink episode to talk about how to bring your best into all of life's relationships. Speaking through solid experience Jenny will cause you to take a deep look at the ways you present yourself in all the places where you show up. She offers no quick fixes nor 5 easy tips to win, but her words will speak directly to wherever you might be in your life's journey. Her book Growing Yourself Up is the best guide out there to do just that. We thoroughly enjoyed this interview and know you will, too.

As a successful varsity baseball player Todd learned early on that baseball, alone in sports, considers error as part of the game, part of its rigorous truth. Todd joins Bill in this episode to discuss how this truth gets played out in his own life and in his thriving practice as a life coach. Part of this conversation will take listeners down the road to consider that your personal life vision and mission can move beyond present circumstances and that you can enjoy a life that is more than just OK. Focusing on the three ideas of curiosity about where you are; developing self-regulation; and hanging in there with perseverance, will empower you to do more than just learn from mistakes but how to use misfortune as the platform from which to launch a fulfilling life. Here's another GuyShrink episode worth listening to several times.

As a young man, Tony’s mom told him: “Never lose what makes you YOU.” At age 13 that unique young man began a torturous journey of self-destructive behavior and near hopelessness. For three years Tony was the victim of sexual abuse and the traumatic trail it leaves for all. Ruminating on pain and revenge was a lethal cocktail that led him to drug and alcohol abuse as a way to smother the rage. Today Tony is more than a survivor, he is a resilient warrior for others in pain and sorrow. In this episode, Bill and Tony talk heart to heart, and Tony’s blunt honesty speaks volumes of hope and the personal cost to not just survive, but to thrive and build a life of meaning and purpose. You will want to listen to this whole conversation several times.

Josh Bowen is the principal broker and owner of LaPlante Real Estate in Toledo where he and his team craft an expanded vision of real estate as an ethical arena where the right choices help communities to grow in healthy and functional ways. Duty and Responsibility are Josh's two guiding principles that lead him to view his three clients of owners, renters, and community, as a small town of over 8000 people. Bill and Josh discuss his personal journey through some tough ordeals and the small choices that make a big difference. They also talk about Stoicism as a discipline to help us get that life and recommend Ryan Holiday's podcast The Daily Stoic and Ryan's books. This episode will open your thought world to consider the impact you can make in your own little realm of influence and the daily habits needed to enhance a fulfilling life.