Habits 2 Goals: The Habit Factor® Podcast with Martin Grunburg

This question comes via Quora.com and Martin has a link at the bottom to the entire post/response (partially posted here).

In this episode Martin reads his response and adds a little color along the way shares his experience teaching "Success Skills" for C.L.A.S.S. Corporate Leaders Advocating Success Skills (volunteer instructor for Junior Achievement) at some of San Diego's more impoverished neighborhoods.

Martin changes the definition of "success" as provided by the curriculum and teaches a slightly different definition. Then he shares some thoughts about just what the OPPOSITE of success might be if it isn't failure.

MG's answer on quora.com:

I really like this question. From my experience I've found "success" to be a very enigmatic concept/subject which I'm sure explains why so many of us struggle with it.

The SHORT ANSWER to your question:
It is going to be difficult if not impossible, (as evidenced by your question) to find success without a desireable destination, target or goal.

So, do you have any feel for What your ideal future looks like?

Simply reverse engineer any great "success" and you will notice they know at the very least or, knew what their target was/what they were going after.

That doesn't mean they hit it, it just means they had a direction to aim for (fostering positive action and habits).

Prolonged aimlessness can be very problematic.

Try this: Ask 10 people if they want to be a "success". My guess is all 10 will say "YES".

Then, ask those same 10 people to DEFINE what "success" means to them...

Direct link to the rest of Martin's answer on Quora:

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"At the end of the day, I'm in
the business of helping as many entrepreneurs as I can. So, if I
can reach more people outside of San Diego with the messaging that
I have then it's a win/win all around." ~Henry Evans

As a VP of a software sales
company, Henry Evans found himself,as he describes it, "caught up
in the rat race". When excessive travel finally became too plus the
day he realized he was going to miss his daughter's kindergarten
recital it became too much.

Henry believed that if he could
just dedicate an hour a day to his other passion pursuits / a new
company a new career could evolve.

Since then Henry has gone on to
build a successful career and helps (locally) hundreds of San Diego
entrepreneurs who drive from near and far to attend his
entrepreneur-marketing workshops. 

Recently, Henry started to
"live-feed" these meeting to share the lessons to entrepreneurs
anywhere in the world eager to learn!

Martin and Henry
discuss:

-the birth of Hour a Day
Entrepreneur

-Henry's bestselling book on
Amazon, The Hour A Day Entrepreneur: Escape the Rat Race
and Achieve Entrepreneurial Freedom With Only One Focused Hour
ADay (90% 5 Star reviews!)

- the wise use of time to pave the
way to a new career and freedom.HINT: see the MBM prior episode
"The Great Eight that Separate"

-Review PARR
Methodology

-FREE copy of his Book - Visit:
http://www.houradayentrepreneur.com/

- His last meeting focused on Video
marketing - best steps to get most out of video for your
business

-recommends a couple great examples
videos: Poopourrie and dollar shave club

-A recent success story from Henry's
entrepreneur group.The importance of marketing to a
niche

-More marketing
insights!

-Definition of success

-Some of his best
habits

-importance of an accountability
partner

-THE POWER OF ONE

-the importance of failure and a
great story



"As long as you're on the journey
that to me means you are already a success even if the money and
stuff haven't caught up yet!"

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The Trickto Money Is Having
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Think & Grow Rich



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"I hope, therefore, that
some of my descendants may

follow the example and reap the benefit." ~Benjamin
Franklin

When it comes to personal
development very few know that the great grandfather or the great,
great grandfather of PD is
Benjamin Franklin.

It's hard to find a more
prolific American than Benjamin Franklin yet most people don't know
that at a young age Ben believed himself to be abrasive, brash and
argumentative and wrote about this in his
autobiography.

He outlined thirteen virtues he
hoped to assume as he matured. He was determined to start tracking
each virtue, one per week, and would move to the next virtue
rotating through all thirteen throughout the course of each
year.

1. Temperance.

2. Silence.

3. Order.

4. Resolution.

5. Frugality.

6. INDUSTRY.

7. Sincerity.

8. Justice.

9. Moderation.

10. Cleanliness.

11. Tranquillity.

12. Chastity.

13. Humility.

YES! The path to virtue
is via HABIT and this story got Martin thinking a lot
about the similarity of tracking habits to achieve goals and Ben's
process of tracking habits to develop and refine his
virtues.

Aristotle shared that
Virtue is long-standing habit.

Martin shares this story to prove
to ANYONE (who is committed) that they have within them the
capacity AND a proven process to improve
themselves.

Martin ends the episode with some
of his favorite Ben Franklin quotes:

"Your net worth to the world is
what you get when you subtract your bad habits form your good
ones"

"Early to bed and early to rise
makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise"

"A penny saved is a penny
earned."

"An investment in knowledge pays
the best interest."

"Be at war with your vices, at
peace with your neighbors, and let every new year find you a better
man."

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"How can emotions
(positive or negative) help you develop habits to bring success in
your endeavors?

This episode starts with Martin
addressing the negative relationship first; illustrating how the
emotion of ANGER often triggers all sorts of habitual
behaviors.

In fact, a great Epictetus quote
notes this: "Whenever you are angry, be assured that it is not only
a present evil, but that you have increased a habit."

When you consider how you might
react when you are really angry you may even be able to trace much
of your behavior back to your parents and how they reacted when
they were angry

When it comes to "success" and
our goals the beauty is that the inverse is true as well. Channeled
positively and intentionally our emotions can guide our behaviors
and habits. Martin shares how for example, the REGRET emotion was
the "birthplace" for The Habit Factor (book, app, podcast, etc— all
produced via behaviors/habits guided by emotion.

By asking himself,
"What would I most regret not achieving or experiencing
if I died tomorrow?"

That question conjured all sorts
of emotions that helped to produce clarity of purpose and direction
which led to his first big goal, the Catalina Classic paddle board
race— a 32 mile open ocean paddle from Catalina island to Manhattan
pier.

A key is knowing that we actually
have the power to select, guide and craft our emotions to serve and
drive our most important goals.

In fact, we can even choose our
emotions throughout the day to reinforce the important
behaviors/habits we're trying to forge to improve our
character!

Check out this short episode
now...

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"I was just doing it for myself. I was coming out of a break up
and I had just quit my job and I was in a place of pain... it was a
broken-hearted pain and a lost pain... I didn't know what I was
doing..."



If you know a young man ages 20- 45ish... Andrew Ferebee is the guy
he should know and Knowledge For Men is the blog and podcast he
should subscribe to!



That "pain" was the impetus that launched Knowledge For Men. Andrew
Ferebee was grappling with extreme personal challenges and at the
age of twenty-four began his blog as a way to help him sort out his
issues, vent, pose some big life questions and at the same time
share his journey.



Andrew became an avid personal development student, devouring
hundreds of self help books, going to events and as he wrote about
and shared what he learned his blog grew rapidly in popularity!
Less than a year into his endeavor he had 700,000 views per month
and recognized his struggle was resonating with thousands of young
men around the world.



Today, his podcast, Knowledge For Men has over 2.4 Million
downloads.



In this "in the studio", in-person interview Martin and Andrew's
cover:



-The struggle, pain and confusion that launched the blog and
podcast

-How he felt "lost" without purpose and direction

-How KFM was not about a business but about him sorting through his
challenges

-His constant push and challenge to keep growing and push outside
the comfort zone - example his weekend event that just wrapped
up!

-What success is— how he defines it

- Why action is so important

- The perfect thing to say to the opposite sex and in even in
public environments

- Three powerful and important habits he's developed

- Some of his favorite/transformational books (below)



"I buy books like candy... I go into Amazon and I'm like a kid in a
candy store..."



"If I didn't hit my goal I would still count myself as a success
because I still did it and the next time I do it I will be that
much better."



"I can learn whatever I need to learn to get where ever I want to
get... that is what dating taught me and that is what a lot of
these personal development books taught me."

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Andrew's Books:



The Dating
Playbook A proven 7 Step System to go from single to the woman
of your dreams



The Breakup Manual
For Men:  How to recover from a serious breakup, become
stronger and get back into life



The Porn
Pandemic - A simple guide to understanding and ending
pornography addiction for men



Book's recommended by Andrew



Courage: The Joy
Of Living Dangerously— OSHO



50th Law-
Robert Greene and Fifty — Cent



Awaken The Giant
Within — Tony Robbins





His favorite apps/tech tools



Asana.com + Dropbox.com



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What thoughts are you choosing and
encouraging?

"This little volume (the result of meditation
and experience) is not intended as an exhaustive treatise on the
much-written upon subject of the power of thought. It is suggestive
rather than explanatory, its object being to stimulate men and
women to the discovery and perception of the truth that -
 

They themselves are makers of themselves

by virtue of the thoughts which they choose and encourage; that
mind is the master-weaver, both of the inner garment of character
and the outer garment of circumstance, and that, as they may have
hitherto woven in ignorance and pain they may now weave in
enlightenment and happiness." As a Man
Thinketh, ~James Allen

Martin kicks off this episode with a quick read
of the above foreword by James Allen and then breaks down some of
the main ideas, sharing his experience as it relates to Allen's
opening insights.

"Mind is the master-weaver, both of the
inner garment of character and the outer garment of
circumstance..."

Our habits of thought and behavior direct and
dictate our circumstance, our present condition and then,
ultimately shape and define our character.

Our unique capacity to take mindful control of
THOUGHT— to direct our thinking toward our goals and ambitions is
omnipotent. Or, we can waste the capability and allow it to drift
idle and aimless.

This episode ends with a bit of a challenge —
to be mindful of our thoughts and our speech and ask, "What are
your thoughts weaving today and what form will they assume
tomorrow?"

We all have this unique gift... the powerful
capacity to develop  new habits of thought. And, it can only
begin with awareness and then the intention to apply it
consciously.

You can get to do this any time you
decide!

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Your level of happiness will influence everything from your health to your income and seemingly everything else in between, including relationships and even career success, yet few take the time to learn and understand this important subject.

As a prelude to the Happiness Webinar Martin is hosting on 4/28/16 (6:30pm) PST, Martin discusses many of the influencing factors that contribute to one's level of happiness throughout their lifetime.

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It was Buddha who reportedly said, "There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way." In a similar vein, Abe Lincoln once commented, "People are just about as happy as they make their minds up to be."

It's clear, though, that happiness can often be far more than just a choice — there may be at least a dozen other contributing factors from relationships to control, expectations, and even our ability to accept events and how much "hope" we have in our lives. All of these can influence how we might feel from one moment to the next.

The key is knowing what those factors are, and how to best manage and take control and responsibility over them to improve our own levels of happiness.

Check out this short episode now...

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"Really, what moved me to write this is, what does it take to exist within a well-lived life?"

Eric Kaufmann has coached and counseled executives since 1999. He has identified common themes and patterns that underlie what he's identified as "Leadership as a Hero's Journey." The essential four traits that he's written extensively about include:

1) FOCUS
2) COURAGE
3) GRIT
4) FAITH

"Focus is what am I creating... what I create is somewhat related to my focus and somewhat related to 'stuff'..."

In this engaging interview, Martin and Eric discuss the philosophy that underlies much of Eric's thinking and writing these days—particularly the four virtues as outlined in his book. The two kick things off as they exchange some fun anecdotes about family life with two daughters of the same ages (13 and 15).

Eric's book is being re-released by a new publisher under a slightly different name, "The Four Virtues of a Leader."

In this episode, Eric covers:

• How he defines a HERO


• The three things each hero is called to do


• Who a hero really is and the essential traits


• How he defines each of the FOUR essential virtues


• Where to put your attention and focus


• What co-creation really is


• The essence of responsibility
  


• Why leaving the comfort zone is essential


• The 3 things, according to EK, that everyone fears


• The highest form of maturity and why a leader is always one who relies on allies


• The essence of GRIT and what constitutes GRIT


• The fundamental impermanence of life


• The significance of shedding past traits, habits and identities to make room for new roles and identities


• How he defines "success" (Here's a hint, see Earl Nightengale)


• His most important habits


• How he coaches and cultivates his personal mindset during "tough days"


• The great Hebrew saying, "When you change your spot you change your perspective"


• Why ephemerality could be the theme of the episode


• The ability to shed old habits, skills and identities and why it's critical for growth


• And so much more!

“If I am buying into my boss is a jerk, then I am now participating in that narrative."

“Real leaders work with and through others."

Eric’s diverse and varied life is a commitment to understanding and teaching wisdom. The crucible of Eric’s journey contains 13 years of leadership consulting, management at Fortune 100 firms, degrees in business and psychology, a quarter century of Zen practice, living in Israel and South Africa, teaching as a Master Scuba Diving instructor, and working as a certified hypnotherapist. Connect with Eric Kaufmann on LinkedIn.

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Nobody has more than twenty-four hours, yet some people get far ahead of others.

"If everyone requires eight hours of sleep to be healthy and most of us have jobs that require at least eight hours of work, it's what you do with the 'other' eight that will make all the difference for your future..." 

Martin kicks off this episode sharing an observation Napoleon Hill made decades ago— how you use your "other" eight hours of your 24 hours will be make all the difference in your future results and paves the way for your "success"!

How are you using the "other" eight?

If success is creating your ideal future, then what you study, the skills and habits you develop in those other eight hours become essential to help you craft your ideal future.

Sadly, it appears most people waste those other eight hours on frivolous activities. Certainly, we all need rest and recreation but those other eight hours are the key — the path to a brighter, better future.

What would happen if you devoted just 15 minutes (of the other eight) consistently?

Since you probably plan on living another two or three years, devoting just 15 minutes a day, 5 times a week studying ANY skill or trade will likely make you an expert or put you very close to expertise and far ahead of others. 

Check out this episode and be sure to share this Mind Bullet Monday!

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"It's crazy... so many habit apps allow you to track bad habits. Please, please, do not ever track BAD HABITS you're just putting attention and focus on what you do NOT want!"

"To eliminate a bad habit replace it with a good one."

Martin begins this episode by sharing how the environment is the first line of defense (or maybe even offense) when trying to kill a BAD Habit. Modifying your environment helps you to remove the common triggers and allows you to create impediments to executing the behavior you are trying to avoid.

Next, Martin shares a famous quote by a Dutch Renaissance Theologian, Desiderius Erasmus who said, "A nail is driven out by a nail, habit is replaced by a habit." Replacement is the key to elimination, NOT just removing the bad behavior... "that creates a vacuum!"

Finally, the listener is encouraged to revisit a prior episode "3 Bad Habit Busting Tips" and in that episode— as here, Martin revisits the "3 Ments" when it comes to killing a bad habit; environment, replacement and finally experiment.

Check out this short episode now...

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