Habits 2 Goals: The Habit Factor® Podcast with Martin Grunburg

“To develop foresight, you need to practice hindsight.” ~ J. McGonigal

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.

Arrive at Tomorrow's Goals Faster by Reversing Time

When it comes to nailing your next big goal or New Year resolution, forget the “To-Do List” and “next steps”.

After all, how many “steps” are there going to be?

The answer is a lot.

It often paralyzes the most ambitious and prevents them from starting.

Try this instead: Imagine you’ve already attained the goal. CONGRATULATIONS! 🙌

You nailed it!

Now, look back – assess the path you took and ask one simple question:

“What were the habits, skills, and traits that brought me here?”

A promotion, a published novel, or developing a captivating stage presence?

Rewind the tape.

The promotion…

You notice years of dedication to learning and mastering new skills, including the courage to voice your ideas.

The captivating public speaker…

You hired a coach, devoted yourself to tireless rehearsals and refined your delivery.

Once you’ve identified the core, related habits, skills and traits it’s time to begin tracking them.

This is the beauty of working backward.

It unveils the “how” – the essential habits – that will provide the transformation from dream and “I hope” into "I am.”

It unveils a simpler path.

By following P.A.R.R. anyone can develop habits, skills and traits “on demand.”

* Plan: Identify 3-5 key habits to cultivate – habits that will become the building blocks of your desired traits and skills. Maybe it's writing daily for that novel, practicing presentations for stage prowess, or taking online courses for that promotion.

* Act: Practice the behavior as planned.

* Record: Track your progress and write notes daily about each planned practice session.

* Reassess: Analyze your progress after each 28-day tracking period (four weeks). Adjust your approach as needed, and celebrate course corrections.

* For step-by-step instructions on PARR and a free “habits-to-goals” tracking sheet, visit: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

The P.A.R.R. methodology for on-demand habit, skill and trait development is about incremental progress in developing the essential habits, skills and traits that will propel your goal’s attainment.

So, rewind from your ideal future. Start PARR-ing your way toward your most important goals and ideals.

Often, the most scenic route is worth envisioning multiple times.

Enjoy the show!

~mg

P.S.: From the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.

With this in mind, we asked Google’s AI experiment Bard to “break” the “Three Circles of Behavior System” model (perhaps a future post).

The short story (no pun intended) is he/she/IT could not.

The best Bard offered: “What about people who aren’t aware of their unconscious stories/thinking?

It’s a good question and a nice attempt. However, an unconscious story is still a story (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY where the latest version of the model was revealed.

BTW: YOU are invited to try and “break” the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” model as well.

If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.

*Note: ChatGPT’s has no knowledge of the model yet, which was officially published in October of 2022. GPT’s latest update is from January 2022.

***Get the inspiring, free and world’s first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It’s the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other.

Hence, the “Echo-System.” Other behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.

If you’d like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!”

I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design.

Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!

*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.

Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

To learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”

Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goals

Feedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”

New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

FREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man Thinketh

Subscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android

“Personal transformation and goal achievement can begin at any level: Story/Thinking, Emotions/Feelings, Behaviors/Habits/Skills, Environment. However, for them to endure, each component must remain in coherhence.”

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.

Be, Do, Have: Cliché or Cornerstone?

The personal development mantra '“Be, Do, Have” often gets dismissed as a tired cliché.

Enter the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System,”/Grunburg Behavior Model. The model reveals a striking parallel, it underscores “Be, Do, Have” and, reinforces the dynamic interplay of the essential components; thoughts (stories), feelings/emotions, behaviors/habits/skills, and one’s environment required for goal achievement and personal transformation.

The Grunburg Model showcases three concentric circles: At the epicenter: Thoughts/Stories, the Middle concentric circle: Behaviors/Habits/Skills, and the Outermost concentric circle: Environment.

Everyone resides/exists within their own “Behavior Echo-System.” It’s important to recognize that one’s emotions and feelings are the fundamental conduits between each of the ‘major’ components.

The innermost circle, Thoughts/Stories, comprises the vast array of one’s narratives. These are the stories about oneself, entailing who we are, who we can become, and what we’re capable of achieving.

Our identities form as a construct of these elements, shaping our self-image and reverberating back to influence our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.

For example, a confident and optimistic story (“Be” a world-changer) can fuel the motivation to develop empowering habits and pursue ambitious goals.

Conversely, a limiting or negative story can hold us back and prevent us from reaching our full potential.

[Key point: Run any real-life scenario through this behavior model and notice how each element reverberates to influence the others.]

The power of one’s “BE” ing (identity) lies in one's ability to reassess one’s personal narratives to understand the conscious and unconscious stories that may influence the very foundation of their behavior echo system.

The middle circle, Behaviors/Habits/Skills, represents the “Do” ing.

Hence, we put our stories about ourselves and our capability (beliefs) into practice, and these practices (habits) begin to shape our external world (Environment) through our choices and actions.

The “Environment” as represented in this model is both one’s sensory inputs – the ‘things’ that happen to us, and the things we can influence and change – our results.

Finally, the Environment includes everything that is not identified in the model itself, including physical surroundings, social connections, life situations, etc.

It’s a bit of a mind-bender, but since we can influence and change our body, and our body influences and changes our feelings/emotions, behaviors and thinking/stories – one’s body is part of their environment in this model.

Consider how one’s body alters one's emotions/feelings, behaviors/habits/skills and the stories and vice-versa. (See Nature vs. Nurture)

The “Thee Circles behavior model” underscores precisely how “Be, Do, Have” works. And, importantly, it’s not in a linear-type progression as all other previous behavior models depict (see TTM, CBT).

It’s the dynamic interplay (reverberation) of elemental behavioral forces that represents the essence of the Grunburg Behavior model.

It’s clear that “Be, Do, Have” is far more than clichéd personal development advice.

Enjoy the show!

~mg

P.S.: From the world of statistics: All models are flawed, but some are useful.

With this in mind, we asked Google’s AI experiment Bard to “break” the “Three Circles of Behavior System Model” (perhaps a future post).

The short story (no pun intended) is he/she/IT could not.

The best Bard could offer is, “What about people who aren’t aware of their unconscious stories/thinking? It’s a good try, but unconscious stories are still stories (represented within the model), and that is the point of the latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.

BTW: If you’re invited to try to “break” the model as well. If you think you can, please email or leave comments here.

*Note: ChatGPT’s has no knowledge of the model yet, which was officially published in October of 2022. GPT’s latest update is from January 2022.

***Get the inspiring, free and world’s first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It’s the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other.

Hence, the “Echo-System.” Other behavior models represent human behavior in a linear-flow type diagram.Background here.

If you’d like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!”

I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design.

Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!

*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.

Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

To learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”

Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goals

Feedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”

New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

FREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man Thinketh

Subscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android

“Good habits happen when planned; bad habits happen on their own.” ~M. Grunburg

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.

Refining Thought & Character Habits

Frequently Asked Friday: PARR (PLAN, ACT, RECORD & REASSESS) is great for developing ‘planned’ habits. How can I develop thought and character habits such as being more assertive? Especially since I don’t know when those opportunities will arise.

P.A.R.R. Lite: One Savored Moment at a Time

While PARR excels at shaping physical habits, its latest sibling, PARR Lite (soon to be released in the app), empowers you to refine your inner diamond – your character– via thought and behavior habits.

Take assertiveness, a potential virtue often hidden beneath layers of self-doubt. One app user asked the very question above.

PARR Lite, soon to be released, will help strengthen these with each mindful moment.

Imagine setting a daily threshold of “3 assertive actions.”

Upon waking, PARR Lite whispers, “Be mindful of opportunities to speak up.”

At work, you hesitate to say something in a meeting, but the “instance” counter on your Applewatch (iPhone or Android phone), urges you to act.

You raise your hand, voice your opinion, and record an instance of “1”.

Each assertive act, from voicing your needs to setting boundaries, leaves a mark, a tiny victory as self-confidence is gained and the practice of assertiveness is reinforced.

PARR Lite’s magic lies beyond mere counting. It's about mindfulness.

The beauty of PARR Lite is its flexibility. It doesn’t require pre-planned scenarios. It simply nudges you to be more present, to recognize opportunities for the “instances” - thought or character trait habit you are tracking.

A practice that, in many ways, mirrors how Benjamin Franklin meticulously recorded and tracked his 13 virtues.

PARR Lite offers a modern twist on this time-tested approach, making character-building as accessible as tracking your steps.

The science is clear: intentional habit formation works.

By nurturing the thought and/or character trait habits you intend to cultivate, you'll find that sculpting these character and thought habits isn’t much different than sculpting your body.

Enjoy the show!

~mg

***Get the inspiring, free and world’s first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

BACKGROUND:

The Grunburg Behavior Model introduced a groundbreaking perspective on behavior change with its concept of the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System.” Unlike traditional models that portray human behavior as a linear chain of cause and effect (see CBT or TTM), this holistic and dynamic model unveils the intricate interplay of forces shaping our actions, thoughts, feelings, and the environment and how each perpetually reverberates to influence the other.

By illustrating human behavior within a personal 'echo-system,' the model highlights the continuous vibrational influence of thoughts (stories), emotions/feelings, and behaviors/habits/skills and our environment, creating a ripple effect that influences every aspect of our lives. The innovative and simple behavior model reveals a precise road map for anyone seeking lasting personal transformation and goal achievement. The model adds a layer of realism to our understanding of how we interact with the world around us while at the same time, challenging conventional models and wisdom.

The Grunburg Behavior Model simplistically articulates the essence of behavior, capturing its fluid and interconnected nature while paving the way for a more comprehensive and impactful understanding of human dynamics.Background here.

If you’d like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System,” it is featured in my latest book, “EVERYTHING!”

Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!

I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design.

*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.

Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

To learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”

Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goals

Feedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”

New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

FREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man Thinketh

Subscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android

“Good habits happen when planned; bad habits happen on their own.” ~M. Grunburg

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.

Habits and Skills: The Fraternal Twins of Personal Development

We’re bringing back Frequently Asked Friday (w/ Season 12) – on a Monday!

Frequently Asked Friday: Why do Habits and skills share the same space in the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / Grunburg Behavior Model?

Upon further review, habits and skills share remarkable similarities, making them more like fraternal twins than distant cousins.

Where Habits & Skills Reside:

Both habits and skills, once fully formed, reside deep within the limbic system, specifically in the basal ganglia.

Once a habit or skill is ingrained in the basal ganglia, it becomes seemingly “automatic.”

The Four Stages of Learning or Competence:

When it comes to developing good habits intentionally, it helps to reflect upon the four stages of learning and to think about how you would practice any skill you’re trying to cultivate.

* Unconsciously Incompetent: This stage is characterized by a lack of awareness of both the skill or habit and its potential benefits.

* Consciously Incompetent: In this stage, we become aware of the skill or habit, but lack the knowledge or ability to perform it effectively.

* Consciously Competent: Through intentional and repeated practice, we gain the ability to perform the skill or habit, but it still requires considerable conscious effort and attention.

* Unconsciously Competent: With months and often years of practice, the skill and/or habit becomes automatic and is performed with little conscious thought.

The Formation of Bad Habits

Bad habits rarely require planning or tracking to be formed: Eating or drinking too much, sleeping late, and watching too much TV or, consuming too much social media – these unhealthy habits tend to form all by themselves.

It’s the good, positive habits that tend to require a plan, along with tracking, that facilitates their cultivation.

Enter: The P.A.R.R. Method for Good Habit Development

The PARR method is an acronym for Plan, Act, Record, and Reassess. It offers a powerful framework for cultivating positive habits.

By planning your desired behavior, taking action, recording your progress, and reassessing your approach (after 28 Days – 4 weeks), you can conscientiously shape habits that are aligned with your goals.

More info here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

Good habits happen when planned; bad habits happen on their own

Good habits and skills are both essential, related aspects of personal development and, not coincidentally, share a similar path to development.

Enjoy the show!

~mg

***Get the inspiring, free and world’s first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It’s the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Background here.

If you’d like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!”

I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design.

Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!

*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.

Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

To learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”

Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goals

Feedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”

New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

FREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man Thinketh

Subscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android

“Life is a tragedy when seen in close-up, but a comedy in long-shot.”~ Charlie Chaplin

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.

Life’s Balancing Act: Tragedy & Comedy

What feels like a world-ending personal disaster today may just become a hilarious anecdote tomorrow.

Just a few years ago, everyone was panicking about the COVID-19 pandemic.

It was the end of the world. It was a scary time, filled with uncertainty and fear.

Today, the epoch provides comedians worldwide (just check Netflix and social media) with endless material for jokes.

To be clear, nobody is laughing about the millions of fatalities.

Having said that, they are laughing at the ridiculous things people did, particularly in the early days: hoarding toilet paper, wearing masks made of scarves, and Zoom meetings with our pets dressed up as co-workers.

Consider another quote, or rather a formula, this time from Woody Allen:

Tragedy + Time = Comedy.

For example, imagine the grief and shock surrounding the assassination of President Lincoln in 1865.

No one was making jokes about John Wilkes Booth at the time.

Today, countless jokes and even historical memes circulate about the incident.

It’s hardly funny, yet, people find a way to laugh about it.

Does this mean Chaplin’s or Allen’s quote applies to every tragedy? Not exactly.

While time may soften the blow of some tragedies, others leave permanent scars.

The death of a loved one, the loss of a dream, or the experience of war can leave wounds that never fully heal.

So, where does that leave us?

Humor is a powerful tool that helps us cope in difficult times, offers perspective, and can even build resilience.

It’s also a powerful reminder that even in the darkest of challenges, our perspective will likely shift with some additional time.

Think about that teenage relationship you had and lost. It was the end of the world.

Up close, it was a tragedy. Now, it’s a comedy,

The same might be said for any/all of the latest political crises.

The beauty in the observation is this:

Take life itself and each crisis at hand a bit less seriously, knowing it may just turn out like 98% of the prior crises, which somehow morphed into comedies.

* Embrace the absurd: Life is full of ridiculous situations and unexpected turns. Learn to laugh at the absurdity of it all, even if it feels uncomfortable at first.

* Connect with others: Sharing our stories and experiences with others can help us feel less alone and more connected. Laughter is often contagious, so surround yourself with people who make you smile.

* Seek out humor: Watch funny movies, read humorous books, or listen to stand-up comedy. Exposing yourself to humor can help boost your mood and put things in perspective.

* Be patient: Healing takes time. Don't pressure yourself to feel happy or funny all the time. Allow yourself to feel your emotions and know that laughter will eventually return.

Remember, life’s a perpetual and emotional ying and yang.

During your next crisis, take a deep breath, recall Chaplin’s and Allen’s words'; recognize the possibility that just maybe you’ll be laughing about it in the future.

Enjoy the show!

~mg

***Get the inspiring, free and world’s first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It’s the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Background here.

If you’d like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!”

I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design.

Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!

*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.

Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

To learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”

Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goals

Feedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”

New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

FREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man Thinketh

Subscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android

“If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequencey and vibration.“~ Nikola Tesla

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.

What’s the first clue that the latest habits “Gooroo” knows little about habit development?

They teach the idea that doing a behavior for a month or thirty days – is the key to habit development.

Performing a behavior for thirty days is helpful, but it misses a core, fundamental precept of habit development:

RHYTHM

“Everything in the universe has a rhythm, everything dances.” ~ Maya Angelou

When I set out to write The Habit Factor®, the first question I pondered, researched and even queried Google was, “Why do habits exist?”

Google served up a grand total of ZERO answers – nothing. (See the book for a screenshot)

After weeks of contemplating that question, the answer revealed itself.

It was elemental: All life is energy.

Energy has a predisposition for pattern and rhythm; consider sound waves, ocean waves, the rhythm of the seasons, high tide, low tide, universal planetary rhythms, etc.

By understanding this basic idea, anyone can intentionally leverage the rhythm of the week – using four-week increments – to track and reassess the habits they’d like to cultivate.

ENTER: Bodybuilding

The world of bodybuilding is often associated with sculpted physiques and unwavering dedication.

Beyond the physical transformations, there lies a treasure trove of insights into habit formation and the art of self-discipline.

Bodybuilders, through their rigorous training routines and meticulous tracking, offer valuable lessons that can be applied to building positive habits.

The Rhythm of the Week

Just as bodybuilders structure their workout schedules around specific muscle groups each day of the week, we can adopt a similar approach to habit formation.

By dedicating specific times or days to certain habits, we create a rhythm that becomes ingrained in our daily routine.

P.A.R.R.: A Habit-Building Methodology

The P.A.R.R. methodology, which stands for Plan, Act, Record, and Reassess, perfectly aligns with the habit-building strategies employed by bodybuilders.

* Plan: Clearly define the habit you want to establish and establish both the “Target Days” and the “Minimum Success Criteria.” (More info here)

* Act: By following your plan, you act on your “Target Days”, meeting your “Minimum Success Criteria.” (What happens if you don’t? See above link)

* Record: Track your actions against your plan and add comments. Comments are essential and help to reinforce your intention (plan).

* Reassess: Reassessment is crucial. Evaluate your habit-tracking effort after four weeks. If you are 85% or better against your targets, you should “raise the bar.” (See above link).

HabitStrength™: Building Momentum

Just as bodybuilders gradually increase the weight they lift to build muscle strength, we can apply the concept of HabitStrength™ to habit formation.

By gradually increasing the “Frequency per week” and/or the “Minimum Success Criteria” (duration), we strengthen the habit’s strength and its automaticity.

Leg Day: A Metaphor for Habit Building

The term "Leg Day" represents a plan put into action by following the rhythm of the week

We can approach habit formation with the same level of intention and understanding.

Enjoy the show!

~mg

***Get the inspiring, free and world’s first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It’s the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Background here.

If you’d like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!”

I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design.

Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!

*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.

Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

To learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”

Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goals

Feedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”

New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

FREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man Thinketh

Subscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android

“Let everyone sweep in front of his own door, and the whole world will be clean. “~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.

Amidst the hustle and bustle of daily life, it's easy to get caught up in the pursuit of worldly goals, the accumulation of possessions, and fleeting pleasures.

Yet, at the end of the proverbial day, the true measure of your life will not lie in material wealth or even accolades.

Instead, it will be determined by the impact that was made – the lives you touched – the GOOD that you did.

“The true worth of a man is to be measured by his deeds and not by his words.” ~ Seneca

In the realm of spirituality, a multitude of religions posit that we exist for a reason – to serve others – to do GOOD.

It is not the length of our lives but the depth of our impact that matters.

While the religions vary, the core message is the same: we are called to make a positive difference in the world, to use our gifts and talents to serve others and to make the world a better place.

Our lives have the power to leave an indelible mark on the hearts and souls of those we encounter.

We can be agents of kindness, compassion, and understanding anytime we choose. Or we can let our actions be guided by apathy, indifference, and negativity.

The choice is yours.

Ultimately, there is just one question that will really matter at the end of your life:

“What good did you do?”

You have one job: Leave the world a better place than you found it.

Start sweeping.

Enjoy the show!

~mg

***Get the inspiring, free and world’s first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It’s the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Background here.

If you’d like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!”

I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design.

Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!

*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.

Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

To learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”

Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goals

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FREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man Thinketh

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“We are but dust and shadows, and like a lamp that is lit and then extinguished, so too will our lives be extinguished.” ~ Marcus Aurelius

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In the vast expanse of time and space, our individual existence might seem like a fleeting flicker, a mere ripple in the cosmic ocean.

A thousand years from now, our names will likely fade into obscurity, our actions lost to the annals of history.

Despite this inherent insignificance, we also possess the power to leave an indelible mark on the world, to create a ripple effect that echoes through generations.

Life is a paradox, simultaneously insignificant and immensely significant.

On one hand, our individual lives are finite, destined to be consumed by the relentless march of time.

Our achievements, no matter how grand, will fade into the background of the universe’s vastness.

On the other hand, we are capable of extraordinary acts of love, compassion, and creativity. We have the power to inspire, teach, uplift, and heal.

Our actions can have a profound impact on the lives of others, the well-being of creatures and even the planet itself.

Our service and impact can create a ripple effect that extends well beyond our lifetime.

The Starfish Parable

While walking on the beach, a man noticed a boy throwing a starfish back into the ocean.

“You’re wasting your time, young man; there are too many starfish to save! You cannot help them all. Your efforts do not make any difference.”

The boy tossed another starfish into the ocean, turned and said, “I just made a difference for that one!”

“We are a part of something greater than ourselves, something that will endure long after we are gone.” ~ Carl Sagan

This paradox of existence should be a call to action, not a source of despair.

It reminds us that while our individual lives may be fleeting, the impact we make on others can endure.

It urges us to embrace our insignificance and use it as fuel to be significant.

To live a meaningful life is not to seek immortality or to strive for everlasting fame. It’s to live with purpose, to love wholeheartedly – to leave a positive mark on the world, however small it may seem.

It is also to recognize that our individual actions, though seemingly insignificant, can contribute to something greater.

Embrace the paradox that is your life.

Acknowledge your insignificance while simultaneously celebrating your extraordinary capacity to love, serve, be compassionate, and create.

Enjoy the show!

~mg

***Get the inspiring, free and world’s first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It’s the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Background here.

If you’d like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!”

I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design.

Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!

*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.

Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

To learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”

Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goals

Feedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”

New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

FREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man Thinketh

Subscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android

“If the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail.” ~Abraham Maslow

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The other day, a good friend (former professor and a professional writer) – a man whose top value is a “learning mindset” – said something that caught my attention.

“I’ve realized the importance of ‘dumb stuff.’ It’s the dumb stuff that supports the smart stuff.”

“The dumb stuff supports the smart stuff.”

It’s brilliant!

I loved the idea and sentiment.

Running doesn’t require much intelligence yet; after he runs, he’s a better writer.

Sleep doesn’t require much or any intelligence yet; after he rests, he’s a better writer.

After a few days of contemplating the comment, it occurred to me that this “stuff” is only “dumb” in the context of ‘intelligence.’

In other words, how hard is your brain working while you’re running or sleeping?

Chances are, not very hard.

What if we viewed these behaviors not through an intelligence lens but through a wellness and health one?

Eating right, exercising and getting enough sleep become fundamentals for a well-balanced life.

A larger theme emerged…

Change the lens - the filter - and answers or even behaviors and tools tend to change.

While the episode is called “Dumb Stuff” (like so many episodes on H2G), it’s really about paradigms.

Paradigm defined:

a typical example or pattern of something; a model.* (see behavior model below)

a worldview underlying the theories and methodology of a particular scientific subject.

Abraham Maslow, the famed American psychologist, called the inclination – the tendency to use the same tool for different problems – the ‘Law of the Instrument.’

It refers to an over-reliance on a favorite or familiar tool.

Here’s the key point: Before anyone grabs any tool, they have a perception or view of the problem.

It’s less about the tool, at first, and more about the paradigm.

Before any problem is solved, it must be addressed.

How we view challenges, determines not only how we think about them, but how we approach them (our behaviors), and which tools we use.

Maslow’s ‘Law of the Instrument’ tells us that an over-reliance on any particular view and/or tool can result in negative results rather than helpful ones.

Different challenges that are addressed with the same worldview, behaviors and/or tool often equates to non-serving results.

It’s essential to first ask, what paradigm am I addressing this challenge with?

Approaching challenges with an open mind clears the path for new paradigms – new ways of thinking.

It’s new ways of thinking that tend to result in new behaviors, habits and skills; even the use of new tools. (see behavior model below)

Our paradigms lie at the heart of our behavior. These paradigms are fundamental to our problem-solving, psychology and our behaviors.

Enjoy the show!

~mg

***Get the inspiring, free and world’s first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

“The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It’s the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Background info here.If you’d like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!”

I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design.

Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!

*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.

Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

To learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”

Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goals

Feedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”

New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

FREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man Thinketh

Subscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android

“Before focus, concentration; before concentration, selection.”

This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.

To focus for an extended period of time on anything can be challenging.

In today’s world, it’s made far more difficult, particularly for people with ADD/ADHD.

This episode promises to have you focusing better nearly instantly.

Below are some tips on how to focus better, especially if you suffer from ADD/ADHD.

First, a background story.

The Habit Factor® (book and app) only exist because of my inability to achieve goals.

I wasn’t aware of it at the time, but what I created was a goal achievement system that forced me to address my first fundamental challenge, FOCUS.

FOCUS: Defined

The center of interest or activity. “this generation has made the environment a focus of attention”

An act of concentrating interest or activity on something. “our focus on the customer's requirements”

By creating THIS tracking sheet (which is free btw ), I was forced to identify which core, related behaviors - habits - I wanted to develop.

The simple act of choosing the behaviors/habits I wanted to develop was the first key.

STEP ONE:

Ask yourself which 1 to 3 core behaviors/habits are you trying to develop.

By asking that question, focus instantly improves because your options diminish.

Thus, selection is the first step to improved focus.

Just try to imagine a sharpshooter without a defined target.

Now, take a look at that next definition of focus (above): “…the act of concentrating interest or activity…”

That is the next key: Concentration.

Concentration is defined as “the close gathering of people or things.”

STEP TWO:

Gather as much energy and resources as you can before you try to focus.

Example:

To focus on writing, I might gather resources like...

A special application.

Books or reference material

A timer.

To gather energy and resources is to concentrate.

For instance, sometimes I’ll use a writing app called “Write Room,” which employs a black screen.

Or, sometimes, I’ll use Brain.fm, which uses an enhanced form of binaural beats to improve concentration.

Often, I’ll use a stopwatch, which helps me gauge whether I’ve achieved my “Minimum Success Criteria” (an aspect of the P.A.R.R. methodology) – which is the minimum amount of time that I set out to write.

These are examples of gathering energy and resources before attempting to focus.

The other key idea to concentrate better is to design a conducive environment.

This could be as simple as a distraction-free room.

The key idea; put some time and energy into designing a conducive environment before trying to focus.

THE ORDER OF FOCUS:

Step one: Selection → Step Two: Concentration → Step Three: Focus.

Finally, to ensure that what you intend to focus on actually happens, TRACKING! (“Said & Done”) the behavior/work is essential!

Enjoy the show!

~mg

***Get the inspiring, free and world’s first HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

If you’d like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!”

I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” (below) and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] scientifically-backed methodology for individual and organizational behavior design.

Check out the latest cohort offering; the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!

MORE: “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It’s the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Background info here.

*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.

Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

To learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”

Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goals

Feedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”

New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templates

FREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man Thinketh

Subscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android