Hacking the Patriarchy

In this conversation, Raven O'Neal and Renee Frojo explore the multifaceted nature of storytelling, emphasizing its importance in personal and professional contexts.

They discuss how storytelling can create meaning in our lives, the evolution of storytelling mediums, and the significance of authenticity.

The dialogue also touches on gender dynamics in storytelling, the emotional connections that stories foster, and practical tips for effective storytelling.

Renee shares insights on documenting experiences and combating inauthentic narratives in the digital age, culminating in actionable storytelling hacks for listeners.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Storytelling is essential for finding meaning in life.
• Everyone is a storyteller, whether they realize it or not.
• Authenticity is crucial in storytelling for connection.
• Emotional resonance is key to effective storytelling.
• Documenting experiences helps in crafting better stories.
• The beginning and ending of a story are critical for retention.
• Noticing everyday moments can inspire storytelling.
• Gender dynamics can influence storytelling approaches.
• Combating inauthentic narratives requires genuine storytelling.
• Asking the right questions can enhance storytelling.

DISCUSSION TIMELINE

• 04:15 Understanding Authenticity and Identity in Storytelling
• 07:10 The Evolution of Storytelling Across Mediums
• 09:40 Personal Stories: Connecting Through Shared Experiences
• 12:39 Navigating Gender Dynamics in Storytelling
• 15:36 The Role of Risk in Authentic Storytelling
• 18:35 Curiosity as a Tool for Storytelling
• 21:31 Practicing the Art of Noticing
• 24:23 Creating Meaningful Stories from Everyday Life
• 32:08 Advice for Overcoming Barriers
• 34:47 The Power of Storytelling
• 37:26 Combating Inauthenticity in Storytelling
• 40:56 Storytelling Hacks for Impact

CONNECT WITH RENEE

Renee on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/renee-lynn-frojo/

Renee's Website: https://www.reneelynnfrojo.com/

Renee's Storytelling Course: https://www.reneelynnfrojo.com/storytelling-course

Renee's Newsletter Sign Up: https://agoodreputation.online/

In this conversation, Raven O'Neal and Liz Hansen, owner and photographer at Chicago Boudoir, explore the world of boudoir photography, discussing its empowering aspects, societal perceptions, and the journey women take to embrace their bodies.

Liz shares her personal journey into boudoir photography, the challenges women face regarding body image, and how boudoir can serve as a celebration of life and self-acceptance.

They delve into the history of boudoir photography, the business side of running a studio, and the importance of personalizing the experience for each client.

The discussion also touches on redefining beauty standards and the significance of documenting women's journeys through various life stages.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Boudoir photography creates a safe space for women.
• Empowerment is a key aspect of boudoir photography.
• Societal norms often challenge women's self-expression.
• The Maiden, Mother, and Crone archetype reflects women's life stages.
• Women come to the boudoir for various personal reasons.
• Boudoir photography has historical roots dating back to early art.
• The pandemic increased interest in boudoir photography.
• Personalization is crucial in the boudoir experience.
• Editing choices in boudoir photography are client-driven.
• Running a photography business involves multiple roles beyond shooting.

DISCUSSION TIMELINE

• 04:00 Empowerment Through Boudoir
• 07:42 Challenging Societal Norms
• 11:18 The Maiden, Mother, Crone Archetype
• 13:12 Reasons Women Choose Boudoir
• 15:51 The Evolution of Boudoir Photography
• 20:29 The Business of Boudoir Photography
• 25:09 The Art of Photography and Self-Expression
• 26:38 Empowering Women Through Photography
• 30:46 Challenging Societal Norms
• 34:48 Conversations with Men: Perspectives on Boudoir
• 37:49 Life Beyond Boudoir Photography
• 39:54 Practical Hacks for Self-Photography

CONNECT WITH LIZ

Website: www.chicagoboudoir.com

Facebook: www.facebook.com/chicagoboudoir

VIP Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/VIPChicago 

Instagram: www.instagram.com/chicago.boudoir/

TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@chicagoboudoir

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/liz-hansen-9aab35173/

YouTube: www.youtube.com/@ChicagoBoudoirPhotography

TEDx talk: www.youtube.com/watch?v=k9bkhCXpmIE

In this engaging conversation, Ingrid Hu Dahl discusses her book "Sun Shining on Morning Snow," exploring themes of identity, mother-daughter relationships, and the writing process.

Ingrid emphasizes the importance of community, belonging, and the impact of life choices on personal growth.

The discussion also delves into intersectionality, the challenges of navigating the patriarchy, and the significance of listening and connecting with others.

Ingrid shares her hopes for the book to resonate with a diverse audience, particularly mixed-race and queer women, while also appealing to a broader readership.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Writing a book doesn't have to be a solo experience.
• Mother-daughter relationships can be challenging yet transformative.
• Identity and cultural reflections are central to personal growth.
• Community and belonging are vital for navigating life's challenges.
• Life choices significantly impact our paths and relationships.
• The book aims to connect with mixed-race and queer women.
• Listening deeply is crucial for understanding and connection.
• Empowerment involves bringing other women into spaces and amplifying their voices.
• Navigating the patriarchy requires awareness and advocacy.
• Personal stories can inspire and resonate across diverse audiences.

DISCUSSION TIMELINE

• 00:00 Introduction to "Sun Shining on Morning Snow"
• 02:23 The Writing Process and Collaboration
• 06:29 Mother-Daughter Relationships and Personal Growth
• 11:00 Identity and Community in a Multiracial Context
• 13:49 Life's Pivotal Moments and Choices
• 18:13 Nostalgia and Target Audience of the Book
• 24:31 Future Projects and Themes of Identity
• 26:18 The Evolution of Interracial Relationships
• 27:29 Intersectionality and Identity in Leadership
• 29:53 The Power of Storytelling in Leadership
• 32:09 Navigating Personal Narratives and Life Choices
• 34:14 The Importance of Vulnerability in Memoir Writing
• 35:39 The Journey from Corporate to Author
• 42:41 Hacking the Patriarchy: Practical Strategies

CONNECT WITH INGRID

Sun Shining on Morning Snow Website: www.sunshiningonmorningsnow.com

Ingrid's Website: www.ingridhudahl.com

Ingrid on LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/ingridhudahl

Ingrid on Instagram: www.instagram.com/ingridhudahl

Sun Shining on Morning Snow Instagram: www.instagram.com/sunshiningonmorningsnow

In this episode, host Raven O'Neal reflects on the journey of her podcast, "Hacking the Patriarchy," which has recently ranked in the top 10% of podcasts globally.

Raven shares insights on launching a podcast, managing guests, her tech stack, and marketing strategies. Raven emphasizes the importance of knowing your audience, setting clear goals, and the time commitment involved in podcast production.

She also provides valuable hacks for aspiring podcasters, including the need for effective monetization.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Launched the podcast as a passion project.
• Importance of having a clear goal and audience.
• Guest management requires a solid system.
• Editing takes a significant amount of time.
• Creating marketing assets is essential.
• Double the time you estimate for production.
• Monetization is crucial for sustainability.
• Engagement with the audience is key.

DISCUSSION TIMELINE

• 00:00 Celebrating Podcast Success
• 01:38 The Journey of Launching a Podcast
• 03:33 Key Lessons Learned in Podcasting
• 05:51 Guest Management and Booking Process
• 11:56 Tech Stack and Recording Process
• 16:20 Editing and Marketing Strategies
• 18:34 Final Hacks and Advice for Podcasters

CONNECT WITH RAVEN

Raven on LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/ravenroneal

Raven on Instagram: www.instagram.com/ravenroneal

Email Raven: [email protected]

In today's conversation, Raven O'Neal sits down with writer, TV critic, editor of Reality Blurred, and president of the Television Critics Association, Andy Dehnart, to explore the evolution of reality TV, its impact on society, and the complexities of representation and authenticity within the genre.

They discuss the historical context of reality TV, the biases present in production, and the importance of diversity both in front of and behind the camera. The conversation also delves into media literacy, the role of capitalism in content creation, and practical tips for navigating reality TV as both producers and consumers.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Andy Dehnart has over 25 years of experience in reality TV.
• Reality TV offers a voyeuristic view into lives different from our own.
• Diversity in casting and production is crucial for authentic representation
• Reality TV often reinforces patriarchal norms via editing & storytelling.
• Media literacy is essential for consumers.
• Authenticity is key for content creators in the digital age.
• Capitalism influences the content we see and how it's produced.
• Producers often face ethical dilemmas due to economic pressures.
• Viewers should consider how they would respond to characters as friends.
• Creating diverse content can help challenge existing narratives.

DISCUSSION TIMELINE

• 00:00 The Journey into Reality TV
• 04:54 Diversity and Bias in Reality TV1
• 1:47 Media Literacy and Consumer Awareness
• 20:59 Authenticity in Content Creation
• 26:11 Emulating Pop Culture and Identity Formation
• 27:35 The Role of Accountability in Pop Culture
• 30:09 Capitalism's Influence on Media Consumption
• 32:17 Navigating Algorithms and Content Creation
• 35:07 The Dark Side of Social Media
• 38:49 Reality TV and Gender Dynamics
• 43:28 Practical Hacks for Content Creation and Consumption

CONNECT WITH ANDY

Andy's Website: www.andydehnart.com

Reality Blurred Website: www.realityblurred.com

This week, founder and strategist of The Goods, Cerys Goodall joins us to share her incredible career transition from Public Relations to the C-suite. We dive deep into the systemic challenges that hinder women's progress, from the emotional load of "office housework" to the career penalties associated with parenting.Cerys argues that mentorship isn't enough; women need active sponsors who will advocate for them. She provides a masterclass in practical empowerment, emphasizing the critical need to negotiate salaries, demand pay transparency, and unapologetically take up space. This conversation is an essential listen for anyone interested in leadership, building inclusive cultures, and the future of women in tech.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Women can redefine tech roles beyond traditional supporting positions.
• Sponsorship and connections drive women's career growth.
• Fear and emotional burden hinder women's leadership.
• Parent-friendly policies are essential.
• Pay transparency promotes equity.
• Encourage salary discussions and negotiation.
• Boundaries prevent burnout.
• Address workplace privilege disparities.

DISCUSSION TIMELINE

• 04:35 Redefining Roles: Women in Leadership
• 09:05 Overcoming Fear: The Emotional Load of Leadership
• 12:10 The Power of Sponsorship and Connection
• 15:35 Navigating Identity and Privilege in the Workplace
• 21:24 The Impact of Parenting on Career Progression
• 25:43 Creating Supportive Work Environments
• 31:05 Negotiating Pay and Transparency in the Workplace
• 37:55 Setting Boundaries: The Hot Potato Analogy
• 51:41 Hacks for Success: Empowering Women in Tech

CONNECT WITH CERYS

Cerys on LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/cerysg00dall/

The Goods Website: www.thegoods.io

Email Cerys: [email protected]

This was supposed to be our 50th episode celebration... but life had other plans. So, we're re-releasing our most popular episode ever: a powerful conversation with badass coach Kari Ginsburg .

Kari just dropped her book, "Hey Glitterbomb!: A No-BS Guide to Being Too Much, Taking Up Space, and Loving The Legacy You Create," and this episode hits even harder now. We talk about coaching, politics, community, and what it really means to take up space and lead with purpose.

Let’s dive back in.

In this conversation, host Raven O'Neal and guest Kari Ginsburg discuss the intersection of coaching, politics, and community building.

Kari emphasizes the importance of supporting women in navigating political landscapes, especially during times of instability. The dialogue explores how individuals can find focus in their activism, the significance of creating safe and accountable community spaces, and practical strategies for personal growth and political engagement.

Kari shares insights on knowing when to walk away from unproductive environments and the power of language in shaping our experiences and decisions.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Coaching is a privilege that supports personal growth
• Women deserve to be seen, heard, and cherished
• Finding focus in activism is crucial to avoid burnout
• Communities can be curated to foster safety and support
• Accountability is essential in community spaces
• Recognizing when to leave a community is important for self-care
• Language shapes our experiences; watch for 'should' statements
• Building your own community can be empowering
• Engagement in politics requires collective effort
• Self-care is foundational to effective activism

DISCUSSION TIMELINE

• 00:00 Introduction to Coaching and Politics
• 06:34 Navigating Instability in Politics
• 09:28 The Importance of Community
• 12:37 Building and Curating Communities
• 15:34 Creating Safe Spaces and Accountability
• 28:17 The Role of Leadership in Community
• 30:14 The Consequences of Inaction
• 32:27 Knowing When to Walk Away
• 39:50 Evaluating Internal vs. External Excuses
• 44:46 Practical Hacks for Empowerment

CONNECT WITH KARI

Get her book! www.barnesandnoble.com/w/hey-glitterbomb-kari-ginsburg

Uproar Coaching: ⁠www.uproarcoaching.com⁠

Take the "I Want" Challenge: ⁠www.uproarcoaching.com/iwant⁠

Subscribe to Kari's Newsletter, Ricochet: ⁠www.uproarcoaching.com/ricochet-weekly-email⁠

Kari's LinkedIn: ⁠www.linkedin.com/in/kari-ginsburg⁠

Kari's Instagram: www.instagram.com/kariginsburg

Uproar Coaching Instagram: ⁠www.instagram.com/uproar_coaching

Raven O'Neal sits down with Lisa Hurley to discuss her book "Space to Exhale," delving into its distinctive structure, creative process, and the powerful themes of mindfulness and self-care woven throughout. They explore the book’s intended audience, the significance of cultural context, and the intersectional experiences of Black women.

Lisa highlights the importance of openness among all readers, including men, and shares her vision for the book’s impact on personal growth and the practice of intentional self-care.KEY TAKEAWAYS

• The book is structured to feel like an inhale and exhale.
• Each chapter can be read independently, like a buffet.
• The writing process was intentional and aimed at delivering peace.
• Lisa wanted to ensure the book was timely and relevant.
• The book addresses the experiences of Black women in the workplace.
• Intersectionality is a key theme throughout the book.
• Self-care is essential for everyone, regardless of gender.
• Lisa hopes the book inspires men to engage in self-care.
• The book includes various cultural references and practices.
• Readers are encouraged to revisit the book and its exercises.

DISCUSSION TIMELINE

• 00:00 Introduction to "Space to Exhale"
• 03:14 The Structure of the Book
• 05:45 The Writing Process and Timeliness
• 09:40 The Target Audience and Reception
• 13:45 Deliberate Design and Flow
• 20:01 Spiritual and Cultural Influences
• 22:26 Working While Black and Career Building
• 23:15 The Emotional Impact of Workplace Culture
• 23:55 Activism and Scholarship in Writing
• 25:13 Experiences of Black Women in the Workplace
• 26:47 Juxtaposition of Work Environments
• 29:42 Understanding Intersectionality
• 33:13 Challenging Stereotypes and Narratives
• 33:46 Inviting Men into the Conversation
• 38:46 Practical Hacks for Self-Care

CONNECT WITH LISA

Lisa's Website: www.spacetoexhalebook.com

Lisa's LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/iamlisahurley

Lisa's Instagram: www.instagram.com/thelisahurley

Lisa on Facebook: www.facebook.com/thelisahurley

Lisa on TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@thelisahurley

Space to Exhale YouTube: www.youtube.com/@SpaceToExhale

All Lisa's other links: https://linktr.ee/lisahurley

In this conversation, Felena Hanson, founder of Hera Hub, discusses the unique aspects of women-centric co-working spaces, emphasizing the importance of intentional design, community building, and the challenges and opportunities faced by women in business.

Felena shares insights on the future of education, the significance of collaboration over competition, and practical strategies for fostering community engagement.

The discussion highlights the transformative power of supportive environments for women entrepreneurs and the evolving landscape of work and education.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Hera Hub is a women-focused coworking community.
• Intentional design boosts productivity and well-being in coworking spaces.
• Women-centric spaces face unique challenges but offer great opportunities.
• Education is shifting toward alternative paths beyond traditional college.
• Community building is essential for coworking success.
• Expansion should prioritize community over physical space.
• Entrepreneurship demands resilience and adaptability.
• Networking events should encourage genuine connections.
• Women's communication styles can enhance networking.
• Collaboration beats competition in business.

DISCUSSION TIMELINE

• 03:15 Intentional Design in Co-Working Spaces
• 07:12 Challenges and Opportunities for Women-Focused Co-Working
• 08:54 The Evolution of Business Education and Community Support
• 11:58 Building Community Before Space
• 19:16 Expansion and Licensing of Hera Hub
• 21:55 The Role of Community in Entrepreneurship
• 22:42 Adapting to Change: Lessons from COVID-19
• 26:01 Building Connections: The Art of Community Engagement
• 31:38 Women Supporting Women: Navigating Relationships
• 34:53 Collaboration Over Competition: A New Mindset
• 38:01 Practical Hacks for Entrepreneurs

CONNECT WITH FELENA

Hera Hub Website: www.herahub.com

Felena's LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/felenahanson/

Hera Hub's Instagram: www.instagram.com/herahub

Welcome to a special edition of Hacking the Patriarchy.In this unique conversation, host Raven O’Neal hands over the mic to her dear friend, B. Perlowin, to finally share her own story--from a corporate marketing career to becoming a 5x startup founder and podcaster.

Raven opens up about the power of following your intuition, the role of feminine energy in business, and the importance of bringing more diversity into conversations around feminism and the patriarchy.

She reflects on how patriarchal systems impact not just women, but men as well, and shares her evolving relationship with the label "feminist."

The episode wraps with practical hacks for navigating and challenging the patriarchy, encouraging listeners to take bold action and stay rooted in their values.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Her journey into entrepreneurship began after a corporate marketing career.
• Marketing serves as her creative outlet and passionListening to intuition is crucial for making aligned decisions.
• Risky decisions often come with the need to stay true to one's values.
• Resilience is built through experience and self-awarenessFeminine energy and intuition play a significant role in her career evolution.
• Diversity in conversations is essential for meaningful dialogue.
• The patriarchal system negatively impacts both women and men.
• Embracing the label of a feminist can be complex but necessary.

DISCUSSION TIMELINE

• 02:01 Flipping the Script: Raven's Journey
• 05:07 Entrepreneurial Spirit: The Birth of Ideas
• 08:03 Navigating the Startup Landscape
• 10:56 Risk and Values in Entrepreneurship
• 13:47 The Importance of Intuition
• 14:53 Technical Difficulties and Humor in Podcasting
• 16:07 Navigating Mindset and Resilience
• 23:26 The Balance of Masculine and Feminine Energy
• 27:14 Diversity in Conversations and Inclusivity
• 29:44 Understanding the Impact of Patriarchy on Men
• 32:25 Embracing Feminism and Its Connotations
• 35:40 The Origins of Hacking the Patriarchy
• 38:17 Lessons on Burnout and Self-Discovery

CONNECT WITH RAVEN

Raven on LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/ravenroneal

Raven on Instagram: www.instagram.com/ravenroneal

Sign up for Raven's Weekly Email: subscribepage.io/pgOJJs

Raven on YouTube: www.youtube.com/@ravenroneal

All of Raven's Important Links: linktr.ee/ravenroneal

CONNECT WITH B.

B. on LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/bperlowin/

B. on Instagram: www.instagram.com/coachbperlowin/

philo: www.instagram.com/psilo.delic