Han and Matt Know It All

Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 16th, 2017, and beyond, including:

1. Captain Awkward: "The Palette Wife";
2. Ask A Manager: "My Employee Set up a False Fraud Investigation … Because She Was Being Abused and Wanted the Police";
3. Dear Prudence: "No Embryos for You";
4. Dear Jane: "How Do I Break Up With My Long-Term Partner, Logistically Speaking?";
5. Listener BerthaBessie: "How Do I Get Used to My Newly Open Relationship that My Partner Wants to Keep a Secret?";

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Having hosted Heather Havrilesky of "Ask Polly" for the Monday episode, we ran out of time and had some additional opinions we couldn't keep to ourselves. Thus: you're getting another Overflow, yaaay! This Overflow contains two questions from the previous week:

1. Dear Businesslady: "How Do I Respect My Coworker's Gender (and My Own)?";
   • New York Times: "Real Men Might Get Made Fun Of";
2. Captain Awkward: "My Husband is Dating My Mom";
   • r/relationship_advice: "My mother (54/f) and my husband (39/m)";

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Hannah and Matt interviewed Heather Havrilesky of "Ask Polly" for the Monday episode and—in true Polly fashion—delved super extra deep into questions from her columns that have stuck with her as well as taking on her most recent question:

1. Ask Polly (June 28, 2017): "Do People Ever Really Escape Their Dysfunctional Families?";
   • Invisibilia: "The Problem With the Solution";
2. Ask Polly (July 5th, 2017): "I Moved for My Job, and It Was a Huge Mistake!";
3. Ask Polly: "I'm Terrified of Having Kids!";

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Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 2nd, 2017, and beyond, including:

1. Auntie SparkNotes: "My Friend Doesn't Like '13 Reasons Why";
   • Today: "Netflix should remove '13 Reasons Why' immediately";
   • Thought Catalog: "Other People Aren't Responsible For Your Mental Health: Why '13 Reasons Why' Is Pretty Much Bullshit";
2. r/relationships "Renting summer house with friends (20s m/f). Couples get bedrooms; singles have to sleep on air mattresses in living room. Splitting costs?";
3. Carolyn Hax: "Between a Male Rock and White Hard Place";
   • Complex: "Casual Reminder: There's No Such Thing As Reverse Racism";
   • "Resources for White People and Non-Black People of Color";
4. Dear Abby: "Party's Surprise Comes When Guests Are Asked to Pay";
5. Listener Rihanna: "Should I Warn Away Employees Who Are Interviewing at My Problematic Workplace?";

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Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 25th, 2017, and beyond, including:

1. Ask APW: "Can I Keep Closed-Minded Family from Judging Our Drag Extravaganza?"
2. Ask Polly: "He Wanted an Open Relationship. Why Wasn't I Enough?";
3. Captain Awkward: "I think my friend told me he loved me a few years ago, and I'm just figuring it out now.";
4. r/relationships: "Me [30F] with my fiancé [31 M] 11 years, he doesn't take no for an answer when it comes to family obligations.";
5. Listener Thomas: "How Do I Confront My Friend Whose Liberalism Is Outdated?";
6. Bonus: We now have merchandise!!;

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Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 18th, 2017, and beyond, including:

1. Ask A Manager: "Employee Drew Genitalia on an Intern's Cast";
   1. The Cut: "Sexual-Harassment Claims Against a 'She-E.O.'";
2. Ask E. Jean: "How Do I Get My Fiancé to Stop Catcalling Me?";
   1. After Hannah reached out to Elle to point out how problematic E. Jean's answer was, Elle silently took down the page. It nevertheless did not escape Archive.org preserving the question forever;
3. Swipe This!: "My Friend's Faux #Feminist Persona Makes Me Bonkers";
4. Dear Mariella: "My Ex-Best Friend Is Threatening to Expose My Private Messages";
5. Listener Redacted for Privacy: "How Can I Tell a Non-Profit Blog To Respect My Need for Anonymity?"";
   1. Caroline Sinders: Homepage;
   2. Boing Boing: "That Time the Internet Sent a Swat Team to My Mom's House";
   3. New York Times: "Anonymity Online Serves Us All";
   4. The Coral Project: "The Real Name Fallacy";

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Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 11th, 2017, and beyond—and are joined this week by special guests Gigi Engle and Mike Fishbein of the relationship advice podcast 'Dirty Sexy Monogamy'—including:

1. Dirty Sexy Monogamy (March 1, 2017): "Would You Ask Your Mom for Sex Advice?";
2. Dirty Sexy Monogamy (March 15, 2017): "How Do You Know If a Guy Is Actually into You?";
3. Dirty Sexy Monogamy (February 22, 2017): "Can I Be Sexually Empowered Without Having Sex?";
   1. Saturday Night Live: "Girl at a Bar";
   2. Huffington Post: "12 Moms Share Gross Stories Of Getting Catcalled While With Their Kids";
4. Ask Dr. NerdLove: "What Does My Boyfriend's Porn Say About Us?";
5. r/relationships: "Me (25F), the inadvertant cause of dramas at the wedding of my boyfriend's sister (23F) tearing his family apart.";
6. Listener Procrastinator: "Is It Too Late to Thank My Friends for Their Wedding Gifts?";

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We have too many opinions to keep to ourselves! That is, we have too many questions and we'd like to answer more of them, so that's why you're getting Opinion Overflow. Whether you want it or not.

Listener J asks:

"This feels like kind of a silly question to ask, but as I saw the following events unfold today, I knew I had to submit this question. Today I was at Whole Foods having lunch with my daughter. I was standing at the (large, communal) salad bar looking at the "Build Your Own Thai Noodle Salad" section they had and was about to build my own salad when a man walked up with his plate, stuck his finger in the container of salad dressing, tasted it, and walked to another section of the salad bar. Maybe I'm just a germophobe, but I was really grossed out (at this point I opted out of getting anything from the salad bar) and honestly pretty surprised that he did this. This is a communal salad bar. Who knows what he had touched before he put his finger in the salad dressing? I stood there for a minute trying to decide if I should say or do something, but honestly I couldn't come up with what to say and I was trying to wrangle a hungry 6 year old in a busy Whole Foods. I have a few questions:

1. Is it just me or is this gross?
2. Should I have said something to the guy who did this? If so, what and how should I have said something?
3. Right after the man walked away from the salad dressing, a Whole Foods employee came up to the salad bar to bring more lettuce or something to another section of the salad bar. I contemplated saying something to the employee but didn't want to sound weird and was worried about the man overhearing me say something to the employee (its probably obvious here that I don't enjoy confrontation of any kind). Should I have said something to the employee? If so, what could I have said?"

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Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 4th, 2017 and beyond—with an HaMKIA exclusive recorded response to a Reddit question from Ask A Manager's Alison Green!!—including:

1. Captain Awkward: "Messy Housemate Blues with a Side of Bugs.";
2. Dear Mariella: "I Love My Partner but He Says He Doesn't Love Me Back";
   1. Rose Buddies: "Horse Poop Censorship";
3. Ask A Manager: "My Coworker Jokes About Suicide";
4. r/relationships: "My [29F] former coworker [50F] left a position that I just got promoted to. She is now asking that I step down so she can have it back when she comes back in October.";
   1. Ask A Manager's Recorded Response;
5. Listener Rachel: "Should I Tell My Monogamous Friend That We Saw Her Boyfriend Trying to Cheat on Her?";
   1. Ask Polly: "My Married Friends Are Driving Me Crazy!";

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Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of May 28th, 2017 and beyond, including:

1. Dear Prudence: "My Husband's Best Friend Proposed to His Girlfriend During Our Wedding Ceremony";
   1. Buzzfeed: "This Couple Got Upstaged At Their Wedding And People Have Their Back";
2. Auntie Sparknotes: "I'm Interested in Dead Things";
3. Social Q's: "When Is It O.K. to Date a Friend's Ex?";
4. Ask Amy: "Husband Needs to Step up at Home";
   1. Emma: "You Should Have Asked";
5. Listener Rebecca: "How Do I Get Others to Stop Mis-Gendering My Partner?";
6. Dirty Sexy Monogamy: "Would You Date Someone in an Open Marriage?";

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