Reg Johnston
Survivor. Trauma Informed AOD Clinician. Survivor Advocate

Reg was abused by his sister 13 years older than him, who groomed him at the age of 12 mainly through the use of pornography. His home life consisted of confused boundaries, with secrets and lies always a feature. He wants people to know that drugs and alcohol don’t define you, in most cases they are just symptoms of the abuse that occurred.

HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected]. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

We are on all social media platforms:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/
X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshameback
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back

#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign #SafeAdult

The known facts about being triggered are these: We don't know when they're going to occur, or how they will occur. What this means is that we cannot prepare for that which we cannot know. These triggers can appear through anything that involves one or any of the five senses; sight, smell, sound, taste, or touch: triggering a memory or experience of the abuse we suffered. There is nothing we can do to stop that, but there is a way to manage it.

► Visit our website for more information on our foundation: http://handingtheshameback.org
► Donate please, this helps us keep going: http://handingtheshameback.org/donate

ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
► If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, visit: http://handingtheshameback.org/coaching

We are on all social media platforms:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/
X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshameback
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back

#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign #SafeAdult

Q&A Session

Join us on this Q&A Session where Gloria answers questions posed by you, the Survivors. Ranging from how to manage a family who still believe the predator, to is it even possible to go on to have a loving and healthy relationship as an adult. The range of questions is moving, and Gloria, as always provides calm and measured responses that helps restore grace and acceptance to these difficult experiences.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

We are on all social media platforms:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/
X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshameback
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back

#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign #SafeAdult

Meet Diane Payne
Survivor

Diane was sexually abused by her brother-in-law from age 12 to 16. He was 24 when it started. She told no one for 40 years. Fast forward 4 years, & last year he finally got convicted in NZ. He got home detention for 8 months, due to a plea deal & the laws in the 1980's, when the abuse occurred. Don’t miss her story here.

You can reach out to Diane here:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ffs.trauma/

HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected]. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

We are on all social media platforms:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/
X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshameback
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back

#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign #SafeAdult

Feelings of shame and guilt are common to Survivors. This is especially true if we had siblings we felt we couldn't protect, or that we had to lie to protect the abuser which hurt our siblings even more. There is a process over time of healing, which requires great self compassion and tenderness. Don’t rush it and please give yourself some grace. The blame and shame never belonged to you.

Watch the full clip here: https://youtu.be/i92FPdCwp8k

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org 

We are on all social media platforms:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/
X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshameback
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back

#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign #SafeAdult

Meet Sue Philip
Survivor

Sue was abused from preschool age by her father. She blocked the memories out for many years until she was in her 40’s.. Her parents were part of the mormon church, and it was not until she left the church as an adult, that she was able to remember the details of what her father had done to her and her siblings.

HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected]. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

We are on all social media platforms:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/
X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshameback
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back

#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign #SafeAdult

Many people consider that mind games are something that are done to us and that we are being manipulated by others. No one ever considers the bigger truth: that we play mind games with ourselves, more than with any other person, and we do it in a multitude of ways: like testing ourselves, overthinking, questioning ourselves and through sabotaging ourselves! The point being we are constantly undermining who we are by doing this. We need to stop doing this!

► Visit our website for more information on our foundation: http://handingtheshameback.org
► Donate please, this helps us keep going: http://handingtheshameback.org/donate

ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
► If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, visit: http://handingtheshameback.org/coaching

We are on all social media platforms:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/
X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshameback
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back

#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign #SafeAdult

On behalf of Handing the Shame Back, I had the privilege of presenting to the Parliamentary Select Committee on Child Sex Trafficking within NZ, (we are wanting increased penalties added to the slavery offences amendment bill). Although the experience was daunting, the submission was well received.

Watch the video here: https://youtu.be/GwndoRE3kRI

Video source: New Zealand Parliament

We are on all social media platforms:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/
X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshameback
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back

#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign #SafeAdult

Meet Hanz Freller
Survivor Advocate. Dad. Author

He was abused in care by a St John of God Brother. The abuse was to span several years and was calculated and manipulative in the grooming of him throughout those vulnerable teenage years.

You can reach out to Hanz here:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hanz.freller
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hanzfreller

HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected]. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

We are on all social media platforms:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/
X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshameback
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back

#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign #SafeAdult

First Q&A Session

Join us on this, our very first Q&A Session where Gloria answers questions posed by you, ‘yes you’, the Survivors. Ranging from what to look for in kids who are being trafficked to coping with seeing your child experience the worst trauma possible, Gloria provides calm and measured responses that help soothe and restore equilibrium to these difficult experiences.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org 

We are on all social media platforms:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/
X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshameback
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back

#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign #SafeAdult