This time of year can be difficult when trying to manage end of year events, Xmas interactions and school concerts. Try to find time to ground yourself by remembering to reflect on you, what you have managed to achieve and the incredible survivor you are.

It should be about you, not just those you love.

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Deb Aldrick
Author. Speaker. Advocate

Deb was abused from 5 - 14 by a family member while another family member did nothing to protect her. Pre-abuse she was happy and confident, and enjoyed life with lots of friends. Post-abuse she became anxious and a worrier.

To reach Deb go to: https://dragonflyadvocacy.com.au/
or Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dragonflyadvocacy/
or Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dragonflyadvocacy3/
or LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/deborah-aldrick-188b4530b/ Link for Deb’s book on Amazon https://www.amazon.com.au/Circling-Wagons-hiding-becomes-important-ebook/dp/B0CYN278KZ

HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected]. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

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Meet Raymond Lum
Survivor and Film Producer

As a young boy, he was sexually abused by their female live in nanny for years. When he eventually told his father the response was ‘Look out for your brother’.

To reach Raymond go to: https://www.facebook.com/sting16 or https://www.instagram.com/raymondtlum/

HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected]. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back

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As survivors of child sexual abuse, it is widely accepted that we were controlled through grooming simply so the abuser could exploit us. What is less discussed is the coercive control that lay underneath all of it. 

What that meant (for some of us), is that we weren’t just controlled through sexual abuse, there was also the emotional and physical manipulation as well. How that impacted us was we had no opportunity to live or behave in a way that was truly ours. 

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Be aware if you are deciding on how to confront your abuser, your emotions will be running at an all time high, and therefore deciding on something of this importance may not serve you - Yet!
It will in time, but maybe just not today. Because this is of such huge significance, please allow yourself further clarity of thought as the last thing you need is to regret your decision later.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation 
Donate please, this helps us keep going. handingtheshameback.org/donate
ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids
#letssavesomekids

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Meet Kel Humphries
Survivor. Advocate. Speaker. Researcher.
She was abused by her Uncle between ages  7 - 8,  and recognises the grooming for what it was. He knew exactly what he was doing, her parents had no idea.
For more on her reach out to her at kellyhumphries.com
HELP
NZ    Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
          Help Auckland  0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA  RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK    NAPAK  https://napac.org.uk/  Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA   Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/  Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them. 
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport 
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

We are on all social media platforms:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/
X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshameback
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back

#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign

Losing your voice
As children being abused we couldn't speak, because our brain froze.
This is a trauma response,  and just so you know: when your brain is flooded with cortizal there is no way you can speak, as this is a chemical reaction which cannot be controlled.
Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ 
#handingtheshameback 
#handsign4kids
#letssavesomekids

We are on all social media platforms:
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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/
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TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshameback
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#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign

Gloria returns to Shaun’s platform to discuss the impact of CSA on survivors in light of the current media storm around P Diddy. She shares her story and offers insight and ideas into how to combat this to protect our children. For more on her go to handingtheshameback.org and gloriamasters.com All links to her books can be found there in all versions as well as on amazon.
https://gloriamasters.com/shop/
https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
https://gloriamasters.com/
#gloriamastersauthor
#letssavesomekids
#handsign4kids
#handingtheshameback

We are on all social media platforms:
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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/
X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshameback
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back

#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign

Meet Kel Humphries
Survivor. Advocate. Speaker. Researcher.
She was abused by her Uncle between ages  7 -8, and now realises her parents were the ones being groomed. At age 12 her mother asked her directly if she had been abused, but she couldn't speak. For more on her reach out to her at kellyhumphries.com
HELP
NZ    Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
          Help Auckland  0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA  RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK    NAPAK  https://napac.org.uk/  Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA   Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/  Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them. 
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport 
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

We are on all social media platforms:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/
X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@handingshameback
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/handing-the-shame-back

#HandingTheShameBack #HandSign4Kids #LetsSaveSomeKids #GlobalHandSign

Negative self talk
It is more common than not for your survivor to put themselves down and talk about themselves negatively. This is part of, or a consequence of the abuse suffered as children. Listen for ways to contradict their self talk. Sometimes simply challenging something can change it.
Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ 
#handingtheshameback 
#handsign4kids
#letssavesomekids
Full clip here https://youtu.be/h4lhCTH22nM?si=Nl8g-FGovgqD7_Qs

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