Happiness with Jess

Today on the podcast, Jess is joined by Lee Baucom — a marriage therapist, relationship coach, host of the Save The Marriage Podcast, and author with over 30 years of experience helping people build healthier relationships and happier lives.

While relationships may not be the first thing that comes to mind in conversations around health and wellness, they play a huge role in our overall well-being. The quality of our relationships can impact stress levels, nervous system regulation, habits, emotional health, and even the way we care for ourselves day to day.

In this conversation, Jess and Lee explore the powerful connection between health and relationships, diving into the deeper patterns that shape the way people communicate, connect, and navigate conflict.

They talk about:

• The difference between relationship coaching and marriage therapy — and how each can support couples in different ways depending on the challenges they’re facing 
• Symptoms vs. root causes in marriage, including how recurring conflict is often rooted in deeper disconnection rather than surface-level issues 
• How couples can unconsciously “pause” their relationship over time by prioritizing logistics, stress, work, or parenting while slowly neglecting intentional connection 
• The 3 dimensions of connection, and why emotional connection alone isn’t always enough for relationships to thrive 
• What is and isn’t in your control within relationships, and how focusing on what you can influence can create meaningful shifts in the dynamic 
• The power each person has to influence change in a relationship, even when both partners aren’t approaching growth in the same way 
• How shifting from a “me vs. you” mindset to a “with me” mindset can completely change the way couples approach conflict and communication 

This episode offers a thoughtful perspective on how healthier relationships can support healthier lives.

Connect with Lee:
👉 UnpauseYourMarriage.com
👉 SaveTheMarriage.com
👉 Save The Marriage Podcast 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-save-the-marriage-podcast/id680884572

On this episode of the podcast, Jess sits down with Dr. Laure to have an important conversation about weight, health, and the realities of obesity medicine.

As an obesity doctor who also overcame binge eating disorder herself, Dr. Laure brings both professional expertise and lived experience to the conversation. Together, they explore the deeper factors that influence weight and why lasting health is about more than just willpower or dieting harder.

In this episode, they discuss:
• GLP-1 medications and the growing conversation around weight loss drugs
• Bariatric surgery and misconceptions surrounding it
• Perimenopause and hormone-related weight gain
• Society’s role in contributing to obesity
• Cravings, hunger, and the science of behavior change
• Healing the relationship with food without shame or extremes

This episode offers a compassionate, evidence-based perspective for anyone wanting to better understand their body, eating habits, and long-term health.

Connect with Dr. Laure 

👉@drlauredemattia  

👉https://www.youtube.com/@drlauredemattia  

👉[email protected] 

Learn about Jess’s coaching here

👉https://www.happinesscoaching.online/happinessprogram 

And or more on self-love, health, fitness, and healing, follow Jess on Instagram:
👉 @happ.i.ness.jess

Connect with Jess: 

[email protected] 

In this episode of Happiness with Jess, we’re diving into why so many high-achieving, growth-minded people struggle with self-pride—even when they’re making real progress. 

If your default thoughts sound like “I should be further along,” or “It’s not enough,” —this episode will help you understand why.

We’re breaking down how your inner critic, conditioning, and even your brain’s natural negativity bias keep you stuck focusing on what’s missing instead of what’s working. Jess shares how these patterns develop, why pride can feel uncomfortable (or even undeserved), and how to start shifting your mindset so you can finally feel proud of yourself—without needing perfection.

You’ll also learn practical, real-life tools to:

• Stop minimizing your wins and moving the goalpost 
• Break the cycle of comparison and “not enough” thinking 
• Shift from relief (“I didn’t mess up”) to real pride 
• Redefine success beyond weight loss, perfection, or outcomes 

This episode is a powerful reminder that you don’t need to do more to feel proud—you need to practice acknowledging it more! 

If you’ve been stuck in cycles of starting over, self-criticism, or feeling like you’re the problem, this conversation will help you start working with yourself instead of against yourself.

✨ Want deeper support? Jess shares more about her Inner Critic Rewire 12-week coaching program inside the episode.

Learn about Jess’s coaching here

👉https://www.happinesscoaching.online/happinessprogram 

And or more on self-love, health, fitness, and healing, follow Jess on Instagram:
👉 @happ.i.ness.jess

Connect with Jess: 

[email protected] 

A Lobo legend—and someone very close to my heart ❤️

In this episode, I’m joined by Roman Martinez—professional basketball player, coach, leader, and someone who truly embodies what it means to grow both on and off the court.

Roman brings a powerful perspective on mental toughness, confidence, and mastering your inner critic at the highest level.

In this conversation, we dive into:

• How to build confidence (even under pressure) 
• Developing a growth mindset in high-performance environments 
• Finding your “edge” and separating your identity from your performance 
• Using your inner critic as a tool—instead of letting it control you 
• Turning perceived weaknesses into strengths 

Whether you’re an athlete, chasing big goals, or simply trying to be kinder to yourself and stay consistent, this episode is packed with real-life insights you can actually apply.

Connect with Ro here

👉 @roshow6   

Learn about Jess’s coaching here

👉https://www.happinesscoaching.online/happinessprogram 

And or more on self-love, health, fitness, and healing, follow Jess on Instagram:
👉 @happ.i.ness.jess

Connect with Jess: 

[email protected] 

If you listened to my last couple of episodes on the inner critic and bounce-back rate and thought… “that’s me” — this is your next step.

We’ve talked about why you get stuck… now it’s time to start changing it.

Because here’s what most people don’t realize:
It’s not a discipline problem. It’s an inner critic problem.

That voice in your head — the one telling you you’re doing something wrong or that you’re “not enough” — is often the very thing keeping you stuck in the all-or-nothing cycle.

And ironically, the more you try to fix it with stricter plans, more willpower, or more discipline… the worse it gets.

If you’re ready to stop starting over and finally build consistency that lasts, I’d love to invite you to my free masterclass:

✨ Consistency Without Criticism

🗓 April 21st
⏰ 6:00 PM MST

Inside, I’ll show you how to:

• Recognize and understand your inner critic 
• Break the all-or-nothing cycle 
• Start responding differently in those “off track” moments 
• Build a more supportive inner voice so you can follow through 

Because You can’t rise by tearing yourself down… but you can transform by getting on your own side.

👉 Save your spot here: https://mailchi.mp/happinesscoaching/2v9w6gsf6s

Struggling to stick to your habits? It’s not about willpower—it’s about your bounce back rate. In this episode, Jess breaks down why some people stay consistent while others keep starting over, and how your inner critic impacts this cycle.

You’ll learn:

• Why consistency isn’t about perfection—it’s about how quickly you get back on track
  
• How different inner critic voices show up and influence your habits
  
• The 4 practical steps to improve your bounce back rate
  
• Real-life examples of bouncing back faster after mistakes or setbacks
  
• How Jess applies these strategies in her health, fitness, and business to stay consistent
  

Consistency isn’t perfection—it’s how quickly you come back!

Learn about Jess’s coaching here

👉https://www.happinesscoaching.online/happinessprogram 

And or more on self-love, health, fitness, and healing, follow Jess on Instagram:
👉 @happ.i.ness.jess

Connect with Jess: 

[email protected] 

Do you ever feel like you're your own worst enemy when it comes to getting healthier?

You start strong — motivated, disciplined, and ready for this time to be different. But the moment something goes off plan… a missed workout, an imperfect meal, or the scale not moving… a harsh voice in your head takes over.

“You have no discipline.”
“You should be further along.”
“What’s wrong with you?”

That voice has a name: your inner critic.

And while many people believe this voice is motivating them, it’s often the exact thing making consistency with health habits harder.

In this episode of Happiness with Jess, Jess’s breaks down how self-criticism quietly sabotages your progress and keeps you stuck in the cycle of starting over with your health goals.

You’ll learn:

• What the inner critic actually is and why it develops• How diet culture, perfectionism, and past messaging shape the way we talk to ourselves• The 5 common inner critic personalities that show up around health goals• Why self-criticism drains motivation instead of creating discipline• How to interrupt the inner critic cycle that leads to quitting and starting over• Practical ways to build a more supportive inner voice using neuroplasticity

Because lasting change doesn’t come from tearing yourself down — it comes from learning how to be on your own side.

Listen now if you want to:

• Stop the cycle of starting over with your health goals
• Build more consistent fitness and nutrition habits
• Improve your self-talk and relationship with your body
• Learn how self-compassion actually improves discipline
  

Learn about Jess’s coaching here

👉https://www.happinesscoaching.online/happinessprogram 

And or more on self-love, health, fitness, and healing, follow Jess on Instagram:
👉 @happ.i.ness.jess

Connect with Jess: 

[email protected] 

In this episode, Jess is joined by Moe Choice, a mentor who helps solopreneurs build $15k+ months while working less than 30 hours a week — all while living life on their own terms.

Moe shares stories and insights about what it truly takes to create sustainable success without burnout, drawing from his own rebuilding journey and years of mentoring solopreneurs to work fewer hours while increasing their income.

In this conversation, we cover:

• Moe’s journey of rebuilding his business and redefining success
  
• What it really means to be a solopreneur vs. a solo entrepreneur
  
• Practical steps to take if you feel stuck or overwhelmed in your business
  
• Common mistakes solopreneurs make that keep them overworked and underpaid
  
• The mindset required to grow sustainably while living life on your own terms
  

If you’re a coach, creator, or online business owner who wants to increase income, work fewer hours, and build a business that supports your life — not the other way around — this episode is for you.

Connect with Moe

👉https://www.moechoice.net/podcast/

👉https://www.linkedin.com/in/moechoice/

Learn about Jess’s coaching here

👉https://www.happinesscoaching.online/happinessprogram 

And or more on self-love, health, fitness, and healing, follow Jess on Instagram:
👉 @happ.i.ness.jess

In today’s episode, Jess is joined by Stacey Roberts, a Physical Therapist, Registered Nurse, and Master’s-prepared holistic clinician with over 30 years of experience helping people live pain-free while achieving their health goals.

Stacey is a musculoskeletal specialist, pelvic and sexual health physiotherapist, and functional medicine practitioner who truly looks at the body as a whole. Her work challenges the idea that pain is something we simply have to live with—or that surgery, injections, or medications are the only options.

This conversation is especially for you if you’ve ever been told:

• “Your labs look fine”
• “Pain is just part of getting older”
• Or that injections or surgery are your only next steps
  

Stacey also shares her personal journey—from being a collegiate athlete with a knee injury to navigating arthritis, reinjury, gut health challenges, and menopause—and how those experiences shaped her holistic approach to pain and healing.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Alternative ways to manage chronic and joint pain
• The powerful connection between hormones and pain
• How gut health and diet influence inflammation and pain
• The potential risks and long-term downsides of cortisone injections
• Why pain is often a signal, not a life sentence
  

If you’re looking for a more compassionate, whole-body approach to pain relief and long-term healing, this episode will open your eyes to new possibilities.

Connect with Stacey

👉Author of the #1 best-selling book The Pain Free Formula: Solving the Puzzle of Muscle and Joint Pain Without Surgery, Drugs, or Injections

👉Host of The Pain Free Formula

👉Learn more at: newyouhealthandwellness.com

Learn about Jess’s coaching here

👉https://www.happinesscoaching.online/happinessprogram 

And or more on self-love, health, fitness, and healing, follow Jess on Instagram:
👉 @happ.i.ness.jess

In this episode, Jess challenges the belief  that you “suck at being consistent” and offers a more compassionate, realistic take on fitness and nutrition habits.

She breaks down why perfectionist expectations—like working out 5x/week, hitting 10,000 steps daily, or cutting out carbs and sugar—often backfire, and how to set goals that actually fit your life. You’ll learn what consistency really means, how to build self-trust with small habits, and why your “bounce-back rate” matters more than never messing up.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why unrealistic fitness and nutrition standards sabotage consistency
  
• How often you actually need to work out to see results
  
• Why walking and low-intensity movement are underrated
  
• How to build self-trust with small, realistic habits
  
• What a “bounce-back rate” is and how to strengthen it

If you’ve been stuck in all-or-nothing thinking or feeling guilty for not being perfect, this episode will help you reset your expectations and create sustainable routines that last.

Learn about Jess’s coaching here

👉https://www.happinesscoaching.online/happinessprogram 

And or more on self-love, health, fitness, and healing, follow Jess on Instagram:
👉 @happ.i.ness.jess