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Join Joa in this thought-provoking podcast episode as she delves deeper into the thought-provoking message from an Instagram post that challenges the notion that pop psychology is not psychology. With insightful observations and reflections, Joa shares her perspective on several key points raised in the post, shedding light on the importance of self-assessment and dispelling common misconceptions.
Drawing from her own experiences and psychological insights, Joa explores the following topics:
Understanding Personal Dislikes: Joa emphasizes that not everyone we dislike is a narcissist. Instead, she encourages listeners to use moments of discomfort as opportunities for self-assessment, questioning what aspects of others trigger strong emotions and why. Often, our reactions to others can unveil unaddressed aspects of ourselves.
Unpleasant Experiences vs. Trauma: Joa distinguishes between ordinary unpleasant experiences and those that significantly alter our behavior and perception in negative ways. She encourages listeners to recognize the difference and embrace growth opportunities even in challenging situations.
Needs and Codependency: Joa challenges the misconception that having needs equates to codependency. She emphasizes that healthy individuals can have needs and fulfill them, as long as the relationship is not harmful to anyone involved. Understanding the distinction promotes healthy boundaries and self-care.
Disagreement vs. Gaslighting: Joa clarifies that disagreement is a normal part of interpersonal dynamics, but gaslighting occurs when someone invalidates another person's feelings, reactions, or experiences. Recognizing this distinction helps foster healthier communication and emotional well-being.
Conflict and Abuse: Joa discusses the importance of distinguishing respectful conflict from abusive behavior. While disagreement and differing opinions are normal, when conflict escalates into verbal or physical attacks, it becomes abusive and detrimental to all involved.
Triggers and Healing: Joa explains that triggers are emotional wounds, often unhealed, that can cause reactive and negative responses to certain words, actions, or sensory stimuli. Recognizing triggers and seeking healing is essential for cultivating a healthy and peaceful life.
Rejecting Unhealthy Norms: Joa emphasizes the need to reject the normalization of unhealthy behaviors that bring harm to oneself or others. Instead, she advocates for cultivating constructive and kind communication approaches and fostering healthy relationships.
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