Have coffee with me

Have coffee with me

By Noemi Lardizabal-DadoSociety & CulturePersonal Journals
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Have coffee with me episodes

  • On Valentine's day & loving yourself first

    As with the past 43 Valentine’s Day , my husband and I celebrate it at home. We could not spend Christmas Day together except via Zoom so today, we wore our ugly Christmas shirt when I prepared lunch. Never too late to celebrate love and life. If there is anything I have learned in our 43 years of being together, it is loving myself first. Embrace and love all of myself including past, present and future. I forgave myself and as often as necessary; I talk to myself and list down my good points. I constantly work at loving myself. 

    Leave me a voice message here. https://anchor.fm/momblogger/message . Your message could end up on a future episode of this podcast if you agree.

    13 min
  • Grieving the loss of a loved one to COVID-19
    A death in the family because of Covid-19 is devastating. Hazel, the wife of Sean, my brother-in-law died of COVID-19 in July last year. He found comfort writing letters to his wife on his Facebook page. Sean posts messages  sharing the mundane, happy events of the day; often talking about how the family copes without her. When Sean shared his story to ASEAN.org magazine, he says, “I think it's important to connect faces and stories to all the numbers and statistics, so that people will remain aware that COVID-19 causes real and lasting human suffering.” Allow me to share his story and how others can find comfort in writing a journal or other expressions of grief.
    21 min
  • Acting as if
    “Acting as if” is one of my favorite recovery tool that worked for me. By acting as if you are a certain type of person, you become that person, what I call the “As If” principle. To practice the positive, I act as if. It’s a positive form of pretending. It’s a useful tool to use to get ourselves unstuck. For many years after my son died, I isolated from friends. During the rare social gatherings I attended, I forgot how to initiate small talk. I was catatonic, who preferred to be invisible amidst the light banter. I bet my friends or relatives felt they were talking to a blank wall. The only persons I socialized were close family members. I realized the gravity of my people skills when I joined a parent’s group of my daughter’s colllege, and I couldn’t say a word. I knew I needed to wake up from my zombie state.
    14 min
  • Finding my new normal
    Finding my new normal after a loss of a child was something I figured out along the way. Being a blogger in 2006 is my new normal because I would not have blogged about my recovery if I didn’t have my stories of hope. In time, I had the energy and courage to cope with the change. Learning to live a new normal is like learning a new language, a new way of seeing. In a way, I entered a new country. Though the terrain looks very much the same and many of the people are the same people, there is a different light over everything.
    15 min
  • Touched by my angel

    When I look back at my grief journey, the turning point came when I became a blogger. It must have been my angel that touched me that one night. That is why I chose to call my blog, “Touched by an Angel”.

    Looking at my first post in 2006, I merely wanted to give hope to parents, siblings and grandparents that there is a new normal after a loss of a child. I did not realize that I  would be touched by my own blog. Being a blogger is my new normal. Sharing the changes in my new normal after the death of a child is one way of reaching out to others. I offer hope that life can still continue on despite the pain and that pain is a wonderful teacher. Never in my wildest dream did it occur to me that this new life without my son would open doors to an even more meaningful life.

    Leave me a voice message here. https://anchor.fm/momblogger/message . Your message could end up on a future episode of this podcast if you agree.

    16 min
  • Luijoe, our angel
    Before I turned to blogging, I wrote my story on Luijoe, My Angel on page 29 of the Fallen Cradle, a book written by parents on the loss of a child.
    The first few sentences of my story goes this way:
    “If I die, Mama, will I be alive again?” Luijoe asked. My six-year-old was lying on the bed, flipping through the prayer books piled on his tummy
    It was Holy Week, a month before that fateful day of May 27, 2000, the day he drowned in a beach resort in Cebu.
    I turned my body to face his and stroked his cheek. How could I explain the mysteries of death to a little boy? “When we die, Lui, we will live forever, through eternal life in heaven,” I said the lines I’d memorized from the teachings of our Catholic Church.
    This book paved the way to the positive resolution of my grief journey. During the second blueprint in November 2005, Agnes Prieto invited me to be part of the book. I have never written my loss much less how Luijoe died. Writing Luijoe’s story turned out to be very difficult, often bringing tears as I recalled the painful events. These events were buried deep in my heart and I had to reach out to my innermost feelings. My sister, Myrna L. de Vera helped me a lot with the writing style (Thanks dear sister) and the editing work. Writing Luijoe’s story culimnated into the renewal phase of my grief journey. 
    Leave me a voice message here. https://anchor.fm/momblogger/message . Your message could end up on a future episode of this podcast if you agree.
    17 min
  • Trailer of "Have coffee with me"

    Hello everyone. Have coffee with me. This is Noemi Lardizabal Dado also known as momblogger on social media. It’s my 15th year as a blogger. Though I have been online since 1995, I started my blog (aboutmyrecovery.com) on February 26, 2006 as an advocacy platform in grief recovery and parenting . This was my new normal . From blogger, to @momblogger, and advocate, I have achieved my now normal, a budding coffee producer. Sit back and relax as I bring topics that cover my past, present and future. Expect topics on grief recovery, parenting, media literacy and coffee.

    1 min

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Have coffee with Noemi Lardizabal-Dado, also known as @momblogger on social media networks. Sit back, relax and enjoy your coffee one sip at a time as she brings episodes that cover her past, present…