Having It A.L.L.

What "leaks" do you have in your life that need addressing?

As you plan out your goals and intentions for 2022, it's important to not only think about the new things you desire, but also to understand the old stuff that you need to address once and for all. These "leaks" can be tough to identify, because focusing on the immediate problem is easier than really getting to the root of what's going on.

But if you fail to identify the essence of your challenges, problems and breakdowns, then (1) they will never fully be resolved, (2) they will return in some form, and (3) you will not be able to reach the greatest heights of happiness, peace, freedom and health that you have the potential to reach.

My relationships, career and health were stuck for years because I didn't fix my leaks. But I chose to dig in, do the hard and uncomfortable work, and address the things that I had been avoiding (or completely unaware of). Those choices have led me to where I am today, and my relationships, career and health have reached levels I didn't think was possible for me.

Tune in as I share the story of my leaky basement, to help motivate you to finally address the leaks in your life.

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What is it that you want to create for yourself and your life in 2022?

I have a tradition here on Having It A.L.L. that at the top of each year I help you create an amazing year. And in this episode I'm doing just that!

But today, we're taking things up a notch and I'm sharing with you the simple 3 step formula that you can follow to create massive results in your life in 2022. When you study the masters, you spot patterns of effectiveness and success. I'm excited to bring you a pattern of success that I've applied in my life to have it all, and I've seen at play in countless other success stories.

Get your pens and papers ready, we're about to do some work!

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"What are 3 things you want the world to know about caring for women?"

My friend, Dr. Nathan Riley, asked me that question on his podcast, The Holistic OBGYN, and it sparked a really great conversation between the two of us.

I'm excited to share that full conversation with you today!

Here are links to Dr. Nathan Riley's podcast, website and Instagram:

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What are your core beliefs when it comes to relationships?

Your beliefs influence your thoughts and actions, and shape the results that you create. Hold onto a belief that's ineffective and not-so-powerful, and the result may be something that you don't like.

In today's episode I'm joined by my Queen, Sarah Bivens, and we're diving into some big relationship myths and misconceptions that we have believed that have lead to unhappiness in our relationships. 

My intention with this episode is for you to be aware of the impact that your core beliefs have, and to start thinking about the beliefs that are shaping your relationships.

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If you want to get in touch with me to ask questions, give feedback, or inquire about my coaching offerings, shoot me an email at [email protected].

Are you one of the 92% of people who never come close to completing their New Year's Resolutions?

As you can tell by the title, I don't like New Year's Resolutions at all. I'm all for people committing to better themselves, but the New Year's Resolutions framework is not set up for you to succeed.

In today's episode I share why I dislike New Year's Resolutions and what to do instead if you want to start off your year on a powerful note.

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Have you ever found yourself at a crossroads where you knew with all your soul that one decision was better for you than another, yet making that decision was terrifying?

I've shared various parts of my story over the 5+ years of this podcast, and there's a theme that comes up for me often: crossroads moments.

I can think to a handful of very specific, very powerful moments where the choices I made sent my life in a whole new direction.

On today's episode, I'm sharing with you an interview that I did with my good friend Ross Leppala, host of the great podcast Project UnchainED. In this conversation Ross is interviewing me, which is a great reversal of roles.

What I love about Ross is that he has his own very powerful story about a crossroads moment in his life, which propelled him down the path of spiritual and transformational self work. I won't share the details here because I really want you to go listen to Ross's podcast to hear the story (he shares it in the very first episode of Project UnchainED).

In this interview Ross and I get very open, raw and real about a lot of topics: love vs fear, sexual healing, monogamy, and more.

This was a fun conversation for me and I hope it brings up some uncomfortable things within you for you to look at and explore!

If you want to connect with Ross here's how you can do it:

Announcements from me! I have 3 coaching slots opening up starting January 2022. So if you're looking to feel more purposeful, confident and clear about your life and what you want out of it, then fill out my coaching application at matthewbivens.com/coaching. You can also email me with any questions you have at [email protected]. 

What shame are you hiding?

Fellas, this episode is for you.

As a man, I've carried with me different types of shame through my life that have had a big impact on how I see the world and operate in it. I learned early on that burying my shame and pretending it wasn't there was the safest way for me to operate.

The truth is, it's not.

And for me, it took years of living in denial and robbing myself of true joy and fulfillment, that finally helped me see that.

In today's episode we're tackling a topic that lives within many men -- shame. I'm pulling from various sources here to help you understand shame, watch how it plays out in the lives of men like you, and see how other men are choosing to face it.

My intention with this episode is that it inspires you to look into those dark corners of yourself where you have been hiding your shame, and finally choose to bring it out into the light.

Do you want some support or coaching on overcoming your shame? Email me and take the next step towards eliminating shame from your life - [email protected].

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How do you bounce back when your world gets rocked? When everything seems to be going wrong in your life? When your dreams are shattered?

Disappointment is interesting. It can be focused internally on ourselves, or externally on others. But no matter where the focus is, the root of it is some sort of attachment and typically judgement. When you get swept up in the emotions around disappointment, it's easy to be carried off in the direction of disempowering emotions and thoughts. The sequence can go like this: you feel the disappointment, you start to judge or take something personally or get angry or react, which leads you to more fear based feelings and thoughts, which pulls you down further. But spotting this behavior and recognizing it at the moment of the triggering event is key to being able to rise above those feelings and stay in your power, in the face of the disappointment.

In today's episode I share with you what inspired me to jump off the couch, grab my mic, and record this very podcast!

If you want to get in touch with me to ask questions, give feedback, or inquire about my coaching offerings, shoot me an email at [email protected].

Have you ever felt completely lost in your life? Like you didn't know what you were "supposed" to do, who you should be as a person, and what your true passion was?

You can't see it, but I'm raising both hands at that!

I spent my teens and twenties in a state of confusion about all of those things. And truth be told, the fog is still lifting, as I'm constantly getting to know myself better and learning what it truly means to trust my intuition.

In today's episode I'm sharing the mic with Paul Colaianni - personal empowerment coach and host of The Overwhelmed Brain Podcast. Paul and I talk about introversion and finding your way in life. The topic comes by way of a listener email. In this case, a listener of Paul's podcast The Overwhelmed Brain reached out to him for advice. What you're hearing on today's show is me joining Paul on his podcast to answer his listener question.

If you consider yourself an introvert, have felt lost in life, have never really felt like you know who you should be as a person, and feel like you're lacking direction, then this is an episode to tune into!

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If you want to get in touch with me to ask questions, give feedback, or inquire about my coaching offerings, shoot me an email at [email protected].

When was the last time you had a major breakdown in confidence and self worth?

So often when our confidence is shook and we're questioning our own value, it's a major challenge to recover and get back into a powerful place. I have too many stories that are a testament to this.

In today's episode I'm sharing one of these stories - my recent experience attending my wife's high school reunion. I went through the gamut of emotions, limiting beliefs, and self deprecating stories, leading up to and during this reunion. I questioned my abilities as an entrepreneur, husband and provide. It was fascinating!!

The whole experience was so eye opening to me that I'm still extracting lessons from it months later.

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