Having It A.L.L.

Are you able to answer the question -- "What would have to happen in order for you to feel fulfilled in your life?" 

If you're struggling with feeling fulfilled then LISTEN UP! 

Today I'm sharing with you a very simple method for answering that fulfillment question, so you can both FEEL and BE more fulfilled in your life. 

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In today's episode I'm sharing an example of consistency that I experience in my life every week.

His name is Robert Monroe and he has been on this podcast before. In the episode titled "“You Have To Move Your Feet”: A Story About Seeing the Beauty in All of Life’s Circumstances", Robert shares his inspiring story and message about moving through life's circumstances.

This past week I received a lesson in consistency and was inspired by just how consistent Robert had been over the past 12 months in being intentional about transforming his health. 

I leave with you some very simple tips about creating more consistency in your life that will help you build momentum and have it all.

Show notes:

• Check out my earlier conversation with Robert - “You Have To Move Your Feet”: A Story About Seeing the Beauty in All of Life’s Circumstances

What subjects are off limits to you? What things do you avoid in your life like the plague?

Most people have some topics that they refuse to address. These "taboo subjects" are robbing you of your power, your freedom and your life! If you want to truly have it all and live the life you're meant to live, then you MUST start addressing these things in a real way. 

Today I talk about how to do just that. 

Curious about working with me 1:1? Learn more and connect with me here: https://www.matthewbivens.com/coaching/

As your responsibilities go up (new children, new job, more lovers), is your capacity to handle these new responsibilities going up as well?

For most, the answer is something like "I don't even think about my capacity when I take on new life stressors". And if that sounds like you, then this episode will help you become aware of your current capacity and will give you very actionable steps to raise your ability to handle the life you've created.

Where do you spend most of your emotional time and energy: in things you can influence or in things you have zero control over? If you're a proactive person who takes response-ability for their lives, then you absolutely focus on the things you can influence. Reactive people spend their time focusing on things that they have zero control over. The difference between circle of influence and circle of concern is at the heart of today's podcast. 

Can you have it all?

This was the question that launched this podcast.

5 years later, and my answer to that question hasn't wavered one bit: Yes, you absolutely can!

There's no "...BUT" at the end of the statement either. You can have it all in life, AND I'll show you how it's possible!

In today's episode I'm talking about why so many people get it wrong when they're talking about and pursing having it all, and how you can do it in a more effective, joyful and fulfilling way.

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Why do people, supplied with wisdom and a clear path of action, not experience breakthroughs? Why is it that we can be so clear that addressing our beliefs, paradigms and traumas around sex will be so healing and beneficial, but we never take the next step?

Sex has been the most challenging and rewarding space for healing in my life. Challenging because the pages of my sexual story (like so many others) were written many years ago and reinforced by unhealthy beliefs and habits around sex.

But I experienced a massive breakthrough around sex (many, actually), and as a result I've seen my self esteem, self worth and self acceptance reach heights I didn't know possible for myself.

If you've been a listener for a long period of time, you've heard me chronicle these things on the show.

As a life coach, I help men and women who are seeking their own breakthroughs in life. And sex is an area where so many of us are stuck, unexpressed and overall have unhealthy relationships with.

On today's episode I share with you things I've learned from my experience as a life coach, and wisdom I've gained from addressing my biggest fears around sex.

Everyone, yes everyone, is capable of experiencing sexual breakthroughs. You can absolutely feel different about sex, your sexual past, and your sexual future. Nothing is written in stone, and you have the power to rewrite your story.

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What do you enjoy in the bedroom? How do you express yourself sexually (or not)?

In life, self expression is a major part of understanding yourself, growing, living life to the fullest.

It's the same in the realm of sex!

Often we choose not to fully express ourselves in sex because of fear of judgement, pushback, ridicule, condemnation, and so many other things rooted in fears.

In today's episode I'm helping you get clear on what you enjoy in the bedroom, and we're discussing how to express yourself more in the bedroom.

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Does your sex life have to change for the worse after kids?

We know of course the answer is “No, it doesn’t”, but how do you keep it from turning stale? How do you keep the fire burning for your partner after you’ve had a kid or two?"

Today I'm bringing you a "SEX-PISODE" from my other podcast, Doing It At Home, where my wife Sarah and I get real about what our sex life has been like after having a baby.

There are three main areas we’re going to focus on:

We’re getting raw and honest in this episode, and it’s our hope that hearing us talk about these topics will give you permission to explore these things on your own. We want to create and hold a space of open and honest communication, first and foremost with yourself, but also with the person/people you choose to share a bed with.

Sexual energy is life energy, and it’s time to create a more empowered conversation around sex.

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How was your first sexual experience? How would you describe it in two words?

Our first experience with sex tends to leave a lasting impression on us. Sex is viewed as a right of passage, a transition point where there's no going back. Some people enter into their first sexual experience having had healthy, mature and empowering conversations about sex, but many do not. They are equipped with the ideas, beliefs, stories and feelings about sex that they picked up from their peers, tv, society and parents and teachers who themselves may not have a healthy and empowering view of sex.

As a result, our first sexual experiences leave a lasting impression on us that set the stage for the rest of our lives.

In today's episode we're diving into our first sexual experiences with the goal of examining it from an empowered and mature perspective. You have the power to rescript what sex means to you, and to write your personal sexual story (past and future) in a way that leaves you feeling confident and uplifted.

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Resources from this episode:

• Can Your Sexual Debut Predict Your Future?