Having It A.L.L.

Where are you experiencing a lot of resistance in your life?

Chances are, the thing you're resisting most is actually the thing that contains that answer to you getting unstuck and ultimately having what you want in life.

Today I'm talking about resistance: why we resist, what it looks like, what it does to us, and how to learn to level up our maturity so that we can ultimately get what we want in life.

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How well are you caring for your fitness?

We experience life through our bodies. Our health and fitness reveals the relationship that we have with life. So what is your fitness telling you about how you deal with life?

No matter where you are in your fitness, there's room for improvement so that you can create the results and the EXPERIENCE that you truly desire.

This is the first episode in April, which means it's our Monthly Habit Focus series. And as you've already guessed, this month we're focusing on your FITNESS.

In today's episode I'm going to answer questions like:

By the end of this episode you'll walk away with a deeper internal motivation for improving your fitness, practical tips on creating a winning fitness routine (no matter where you're starting from), and some of the biggest mental blocks keeping you from improving your fitness.

If you want to get in touch with me, email me at matthew [at] matthewbivens [dot] com, or hit me up on Instagram @matthew_bivens. 

How intentional are you with the way you start and end your day?

For years I completely neglected the importance of my morning and nighttime routines. No one taught me to think otherwise and therefore I simply rolled out of bed into life and went from there. 

But as I began to take on more roles and responsibilities in my life (like becoming a parent and starting a new business), and began to feel the weight of life itself, I realized that the way I began and ended my day had a tremendous impact on what happened during my waking hours. 

In today's episode I share with you the very specific habits and routines I use in the morning and evening to set myself up for success each day. 

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What regrets do you have in life? 

In today's episode I'm sharing a moving and insightful essay written by Bronnie Ware - a nurse who took care of patients in their final days of life. Over the years of her work, she asked her patients if they had any regrets from their life as they faced their death. The patterns she saw emerge with deep and powerful. I share with you the 5 regrets of the dying in this episode, so you can take a moment to evaluate whether you're on the path to experience any of them in your life.

Resources:

• Bronnie Ware’s article “Regrets Of The Dying”

Are you ready for a raw and honest conversation about sexual confidence?

Today I'm talking about sexual confidence and male performance anxiety: what it looks like, how it happens, how we feed it, and how we heal it. 

This episode was inspired by an article in Mens Health by Jason Rogers. In the powerful article, Jason opens up about his challenges with performance anxiety and how it impacted him in the bedroom and on the Olympic stage. 

• Jason's article in Men's Health

How do you stop the process of self sabotaging? That's a million dollar question if I've ever heard one! I think most, if not all, of us can relate to self sabotage. We know what it feels like to see the potential for our greatness, and to do things to undermine our success. In today's episode I'm answering a great question from a listener that starts with self sabotage, and ends up going into some really awesome directions addressing goals, visualization and mission statements.

Here is the original question from listener Kayla that I answer in the episode:

How do I stop self sabotage? I feel like I am so good at setting goals and visualizing my perfect life but when the universe throws me a giant test to live into my mission statement and goals, I feel like I fail. Even whenI am disciplined I feel like it is short lived and I end up right where I started. How can I bridge the gap between creating goals and actually attaining them for true transformation? 

What thoughts, feelings and emotions come up for you when you think about your MONEY?

Money is one of those taboo topics in society -- it's not cool to ask another person about their money, many people feel uncomfortable talking about their own money with even their spouse or best friend, and yet money is something that touches every single one of us.

We either feel abundant about money, or scarce. Excited or intimidated. Confident in our ability to manage and multiply it, or scared and inexperienced around it (which leads to immature money money behavior and habits).

It's time that ends! You can feel different about money. You can have a different money situation (if you choose). You have the ability to make it so!

Therefore, for the month of March we are going to focus on getting our money in order. No matter how much money you make or where you are in your relationship to money, there are always things you can address. So get ready to address them starting today!

Here are the resources I mention in this episode:

Need some relief from the stress of the pandemic?

It's been a very stressful year with no end in sight, and that's left many people feeling like they're going to crack. Let me help you deal with the stress, fear, anxiety and weight of the current situation, by offering you some words of comfort and motivation.

We've all been in this pandemic together, yet not everyone has dealt with it the same way. The stress you're in right now is real, and there may be simple remedies to the overwhelm that you're feeling.

This is a continuation of my new Pep Talks series that I'm delivering to you monthly, that are designed to help you overcome challenges in your path as you create your abundant loving life.

Remember, I'm YOUR Balance Lifestyle Coach. I'm in your corner, here for you, supporting you, and holding space for you. You're not alone. Reach out if you need more than just this Pep Talk: [email protected]

What makes a relationship work?

"Common interests" is a typical answer, and for good reason. It makes sense that we need to have things in common with our partners if we want relationship success.

But are there certain common interests that rise above others? And are there some common interests that are essential for relationship success?

In today's episode I invite my Queen, Sarah Bivens, back on the podcast to talk about how to create real synergy in relationships, and what things you want to be fully aligned on with your partner (and what is okay for you to differ on). This is a great conversation whether you're in a relationship right now or not, because it will get you thinking about the purpose of relationships and what makes a "successful" relationship in your eyes.

If you want to get in touch with either Sarah or I you can find us on Instagram @sarahmbivens and @matthew_bivens, and you can always reach me at [email protected].

How do you "connect with yourself" and why is it important?

I received an email from a listener that asked that very question. This is such an important conversation to have because being able to have and feel a deep, intimate connection with yourself is part of having it all. It's the first step in creating deep, meaningful relationships with others. And it's part of what I believe our search for meaning and purpose entails.

So connecting with yourself is more than just a phrase that you might see on blogs or cute trending Instagram posts.

In today's episode I discuss what it means to connect with yourself, how you might be fueling disconnection with yourself, and discuss ways that you can explore and find your own connection.