Having It A.L.L.

How do you handle the stressors of everyday life?

Each one of us encounters stress in life, it's part of the agreement. But not everyone handles it in the same way.

The concept of "getting grounded" is something you've probably heard of and perhaps even have a practice in.

For me, getting grounded is all about returning to your center when life knocks you off course. As I've taken on more and more responsibilities in life - and as life has whooped my butt again and again - I've developed effective ways to return to my center and get grounded so that I can get back into the game.

In today's Monthly Habit Focus episode I'm talking all about Getting Grounded, and I'm helping you learn simple and effective ways to ground yourself when life is coming at you fast and hard.

You will learn:

Need a some motivating words to help you take a leap of faith?

Let me give you some encouragement and remind you of what you've forgotten about yourself, as you're feeling scared to take the next step.

I've been there before, I know what it's like to be in your shoes right now. And I have a few words for you.

This is part of a new series of Pep Talks that I'll be delivering to you monthly to help you overcome challenges in your path as you create your abundant loving life.

Remember, I'm YOUR Balance Lifestyle Coach. I'm in your corner, here for you, supporting you, and holding space for you. You're not alone. Reach out if you need more than just this Pep Talk: [email protected]

What are your core beliefs when it comes to relationships?

Your beliefs influence your thoughts and actions, and shape the results that you create. Hold onto a belief that's ineffective and not-so-powerful, and the result may be something that you don't like.

In today's episode I'm joined by my Queen, Sarah Bivens, and we're diving into some big relationship myths and misconceptions that we have believed that have lead to unhappiness in our relationships. 

My intention with this episode is for you to be aware of the impact that your core beliefs have, and to start thinking about the beliefs that are shaping your relationships.

Are you ready to show up with purpose, integrity and intention over the next 12 months?

It's time for the annual Having It A.L.L. tradition of creating your Word For The Year!

This simple yet effective tool acts like a North Star, helping to guide your intentions, actions and thoughts as you navigate yourself towards an awesome year.

We've been doing Word For The Year since the early days of the podcast, refining the process each year.

In today's episode I'll be walking you through my process for developing your Word For The Year in 2021. By the end of the episode you'll be fully equipped to create a personally empowering word for this year that will help you light a fire within your soul to make this an absolutely incredible year!

Click here to get the free Word For The Year download:

https://www.matthewbivens.com/word/

Are you ready to have it all this year?

Seriously, are you ready to start believing in your greatness and proactively shaping the life you desire for yourself?

Well if so, I'm here as your coach, guide, and supporter this year (and beyond).

We have a whole new slate of amazing content coming at you in 2021, all designed to help you ACTIVATE the Having It A.L.L. mindset in your life. In today's episode I'm breaking down what you can expect from this program over the next 12 months, and I kickoff our brand new series where we focus on a new lifestyle habit each month that will help you live your Abundant Loving Life.

Let's do this! 

Do you ever get down on yourself when someone else's self help advice just doesn't work for you?

I've read, listened to and watched thousands of pieces of self help content over the years, and for a long time I thought that there was something wrong with me when I failed to incorporate someone else's advice into my life. I would blame a lack of discipline, focus, grit, or consistency as the reasons why I never made it past day two on someone else's stellar self help routine.

That was until I realized an important truth!

In today's episode I'm giving you one huge piece of advice as you prepare to jump into 2021 that will help you to have a more joyful and successful year.

Here's the article that I reference in the episode:

Why Are Self-Help Books Not So Helpful After All?

Have you heard of the concept of a "sponsoring thought"?

Whether or not you're aware of it, sponsoring thoughts are driving the way in which your life is playing out.

In today's episode I'm breaking down the concept of a sponsoring thought, showing you the essence of what all of life's choices really boil down to, and helping you get down to the weeds of what might be keeping from your abundant loving life. And as always, I'm sharing my examples of how I'm flowing with the idea of sponsoring thoughts, and how I'm utilizing the tools at my disposal to have it all (and in the process giving you permission to do the same, in your own way).

Resources:

I highly recommend checking out the book Conversations With God by Neale Donald Walsch if today's conversation resonates with you. 

Why does it feel so hard at times to not take things personally?

We hear the phrase "don't take this personally" all the time. You've probably said it to someone before making some potentially hurtful or offensive statement. It's such an easy idea, but boy can it be tough!

For me, I used to take things very personally. Growing up, my emotions would be triggered by the slightest look or question that I felt was off or directed at me in a malicious way. I made villains out of a lot of people, I felt small and hurt often, and I just plain took things personally really frequently.

But I had my breakthrough moment!

Yes, I was able to connect with some deep truths about myself and others that have helped me learn to not take things personally. And today I'm going to share those truths with you so that you too can break free from the trap of taking things personally in life. 

Are you feeling like life has you struggling in all sorts of ways, and you just need to get back to some self-care basics?

2020 has been a year where a lot of things have been upended, including self-care habits. If you've been feeling stressed, overwhelmed or imbalanced throughout the year, and your self-care routine has taken a back seat to life's never-ending demands, then tune in because I have a simple approach for you.

In today's episode I'm breaking down "bare-bones self-care" habits that can quickly and easily be incorporated into even the busiest schedule.

I'm not here to remind you of the importance of taking care of yourself. Rather, today I simply want to help you get to just bare-bones. If you don't have any other self-care routine, then this is one to adopt. These habits are super simple, some take seconds to perform and can be done virtually anywhere. But adding them into your life can be a game changer.

So get ready to take a baby step towards your health! 

How do you process the periods in life of prolonged sadness or overwhelm?

We've all experienced sadness and periods where we felt like life was overwhelming.

This year alone has been a major source of stressful circumstances that have brought on the sadness and overwhelm BIG TIME!

But do you have to simply suffer through these periods, or can you learn methods of coping and dealing with your feelings that create an entirely different (and more favorable) experience?

Well, you already know my answer to that question, and in today's episode I'm sharing with you my strategies for dealing with sadness and overwhelm in a healthy way that allows you to honor the feelings while creating momentum to rise above them. Tune in and you'll walk away with habits, mindsets and strategies to more powerfully deal with the circumstances that life is throwing at you right now.

Want to get in touch with me?

You can email me at [email protected] or DM me on Instagram @matthew_bivens