Having It A.L.L.

How attached are you to the way you feel your life should look like? If you're frustrated with the way things are right now... If you're annoyed because something in your life is not going according to your plan... If you're experiencing anxiety because the goals you set are not being met in the timeframe you wanted them to... Then we are in the same place, and this episode is for you.

Do you know where your money is going? Knowing where your money is going each month (aka budgeting) is one of those habits that is incredibly challenging for a lot of us to build and maintain. But part of having it all means that we have a handle on our finances, and so in this episode I'm taking you through some basics of budgeting and sharing with you a few tools and methods I use in my household to stay on top of my money.

What is your word for this year? You may be used to creating new years resolutions or setting yearly goals. But I have something even more simple and effective - coming up with a single word that embodies the life you wish to live, the person you wish to become and the results you wish to create in the coming year. In this episode I share with you a simple process for coming up with your word for the year. Download the free "Word For The Year" tool -- http://matthewbivens.com/tools

Have you started planning your goals and resolutions for 2019? There's one thing you want to make sure you do before you write your goals in stone, and that's take a deep look at how you showed up in 2018. In today's episode I'm walking you through a self assessment process (the same one I use with all of my coaching clients) that will help you chart the course for where you want to be in 2019. Get your free self assessment tool here: http://www.matthewbivens.com/tools/

Did you know that magic and gratitude were major factors in "having it all" to me? That's sort of a trick question, because if you've listened to the show before you know that they are DEFINITELY ingredients to the having it all formula. In today's episode I'm using this Christmas holiday to share magic and express gratitude to the seldomly celebrated people who make the holidays possible and magical.

Are you feeling stuck in life right now? Feeling stuck is something that we all can relate to, because at one point or another we've been there. It's not a fun feeling, and normally it turns into self criticism and judgements that we're not doing/being enough (smart enough, hard working enough, creative enough, opportunistic enough). For today's episode I was inspired by a message I heard from Mel Robbins where she changes the context around feeling stuck in life.

What regrets do you have in life? In today's episode I'm sharing an essay written by Bronnie Ware - a nurse who took care of patients in their final days of life. Over the years of her work, she asked her patients if they had any regrets from their life as they faced their death. The patterns she saw emerge with deep and powerful. I share with you the 5 regrets of the dying in this episode, so you can take a moment to evaluate whether you're on the path to experience any of them in your life.

How do you stop the process of self sabotaging? That's a million dollar question if I've ever heard one! I think most, if not all, of us can relate to self sabotage. We know what it feels like to see the potential for our greatness, and to do things to undermine our success. In today's episode I'm answering a great question from a listener that starts with self sabotage, and ends up going into some really awesome directions addressing goals, visualization and mission statements.

Have you ever felt like your life was not working? That in one (or many) areas of your life, things are just off and not where you want them to be? Maybe you're in that place right now. I recently had a very powerful and humbling experience that showed me why a few areas in my life were off, and today I'm sharing that insight with you. In today's episode you'll hear about the one area where, if you're not showing up here then your life WILL be off, guaranteed!

When was the last time you were truly inspired by someones act of kindness and love? For me, it was just a few minutes ago, and this gesture is the reason for today's episode. I'm rebroadcasting an episode from a few months ago called Paying Forward Positivity, and it's because of what I just saw on my Instagram account -- an example of one of you, a listener of Having It A.L.L., taking me up on a call to action to support fathers dating their daughters.