Having It A.L.L.

What is the quality of your life right now? In today's episode I'm sharing with you 8 key areas of life you want to take a look at periodically to assess the overall quality of your life. This episode is inspired by fellow greatness seeker, Lewis Howes. It was on his Instagram page that I saw him post about these 8 areas, and it moved me to share it with you all. Here is the original IG post from Lewis Howes: https://www.instagram.com/p/BpzmA9iA7rR/

Did you know that letting go in life is a choice? Yes, it’s moment-to-moment choice where you decided whether you will release what you’ve been fixating on, or add to your fixation. Many of us can get down with the idea of “letting go”, but we fail to realize that it’s a constant choice that we must make again and again through our days, weeks, months, years. We falsely believe that we can “let go” once, and be healed forever.

Are you practicing sexual healing? So many different things can come up when we think about sexual healing. From healing past traumas to healing physical conditions to Marvin Gaye (seriously, that was my entire context until a number of years ago) -- we each have our own relationship when it comes to healing things in a sexual context. In today's episode I'm joined by my incredible wife, Sarah Bivens, and together we get raw and intimate on some current sexual healing that we're both doing.  

Where do you spend most of your emotional time and energy: in things you can influence or in things you have zero control over? If you're a proactive person who takes response-ability for their lives, then you absolutely focus on the things you can influence. Reactive people spend their time focusing on things that they have zero control over. The difference between circle of influence and circle of concern is at the heart of today's podcast. 

What does being proactive mean to you? I would say "It means taking initiative". But I have learned that to Be Proactive means so much more. And understanding this meaning is imperative if you want to have it all and lead an abundant loving life. In today's episode I bring in one of my favorite books, Stephen Covey's 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People. Get ready to get your learnin on!

When do you apologize for something you've done? When is it appropriate to come clean in a situation, versus letting things go and moving on? In today's episode I'm replying to a listener message about knowing when to come clean, clear the air or let it go. This is such a common thing for all of us, and my intention is to give some perspective on fully owning your decisions.

If you were to take an audit of the environments you spend most of your time in, would you say that they uplift you, do nothing for you, or drag you down? In today's episode I explore environments and talk about why it's so important that we are picky with the people and places we surround ourselves with. I also give you a few action items for taking a hard look at your environments and making some powerful changes.

How do you like to be loved? How does your partner prefer to be loved? Are they loving you in the style in which you like to be loved, and vice versa? Today I'm sharing my favorite tool for creating a powerful relationship, and I'm taking up a notch by showing you how Sarah and I have turned the 5 Love Languages into a much more powerful tool for building our amazing relationship. Oh, and are you in the TRUST Challenge yet? Learn more at www.matthewbivens.com/trust.

Be real with yourself: are you waiting for someone or something outside of yourself, to come and give you the life that you desire? At any level? Today's episode is a deep look into my own beliefs that have been keeping at a certain place in my life. I'm sharing a raw audio, recorded in my car as an epiphany was washing over me. *EXCITING ANNOUNCEMENT* The new TRUST Challenge is here! Join us as we build our trust & confidence within ourselves. 100% free. Learn more at www.matthewbivens.com/TRUST.

What does "having it all" mean to you? It's a question I have asked so many people on this podcast. And I've received so many unique answers. Well, today I'm bringing you an interview/conversation with the man who helped me develop that question (and this very podcast), and who has been an incredible influence in my life -- Day Adeogba. We go wide and deep on this one, and I promise you'll understand why it's been a privilege to call Day my coach for the past 5 years.