Codependency is a word we often view as something that is negative and needs to be eliminated.  My understanding of codependency is that it is a result of a gift of ours that we overuse.  That is the gift of being an Empath.  As empaths we feel, identify and can even feel responsible for the emotional well-being of others.  This is a gift we use to intuitively know what others need in order to break free from their old wounds.  However, this gift becomes a doubled edged sword when we don't turn it off and drain ourselves dry because of it.  When we are always using are empathic gifts with others we place no priority in serving and taking care of ourselves.  Taking care of ourselves is the foundation to which we can help others.  Enjoy this week's episode on how to accept our gift of empathy and yet manage it so it doesn't drain us dry.  

We falsely believe that accomplishing our life goals and dreams is what bring us our self-worth.  The truth is who we are just as we are is a gift to the world.  Ironically when we realize that, is when our greatest dreams and goals come true.   Therefore your gift to the world is not your "success.:  It is you just as you are. 

Boundaries serve to protect you in all areas of life, especially in relationships and work.  

In a relationship, boundaries are so important to protect not only yourself but your partner.  Because once boundaries are crossed both parties are disrespecting themselves.  Any disagreement can only get worse if boundaries are crossed.  

In this society we praise being selfless which fosters the idea that we should not have boundaries.  Boundaries are your vault to protect what is most essential to you and who you are.  Without them, everything that is important to you is given up as a free for all.  And eventually you will feel empty.  

We need to take care of ourselves.  We need to be the caretaker for ourselves and not be the caretaker for others.  Your only responsibility is yourself.  You are not responsible for others.  You can have the desire to help others, but you're not responsible for other people's problems.  That is what I feel is the root of the pain of selflessness.  Selflessness means that all that is important to you no longer exists. 

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Every waking moment is an opportunity to share the gift of who you are and not to validate your self worth with what you do.  Lacking boundaries is not knowing where you end and the other person begins.  Without boundaries you cease to exist and thus sacrifice yourself to purely become a vessel to help others.  Reclaiming your boundaries allows you to give from the gift of who you are.  Without boundaries we are forced to be a servant desperately seeking for value outside of ourself and to bring it within our empty self.  Listen to this monologue in where I learn this powerful lesson of boundaries in order to reclaim my self.

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We all feel overwhelmed by all the things that we need to get done and especially all the problems we need to resolve in order to get to where we want to in life.  But the real issue is how we focus on these problems that take ourselves out of reality.  Thus the very thing we think will get us closer to our life goals and visions is actually taking us farther away from it all.  Listen to this podcast where I get coached by Mike Sutton of the Be Build Have Podcast.  It takes me a few days to marinate what was talked about in the session, but I experience a mini epiphany a few days later after the session where I see for my own eyes what it is like to live without all these "problems."  

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This summary is hard to write because it has to do with my parents.  I do not want to defame them in any way.  But the truth is I am not emotional responsible for their feelings.  I had to console my mother through panic attacks as a child which planted the seed into my adulthood that I was emotionally responsible for the world.  In doing so, I completely lost my sense of worth that lied within me.  And because I had no self worth from within, I had to create it with what I accomplished.  In doing so I always felt behind and overwhelmed because I was so far away from the destination of "being enough."  In this monologue I share with you on how to connect with the power and beauty of who you intrinsically are.  

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This is a powerful coaching session where I uncover the root of all my problems and struggles.  I realize all the healing that I do for the others is the same healing I need to give to myself.  In this session you will see how the struggles of my adulthood are all actually rooted in my childhood.   Thank you Mike Sutton of the Be Build Have Podcast for coaching me and really changing my life.  

Living in fear is a pattern that was taught to us very early on in our lives.  The reason why we live out our childhood in our adulthood is because that is what was programmed into us. 

In part two of this couples coaching session with my fiancee Daria and Paul Colaianni of the Overwhelmed Brain Podcast, you will see me trying to control Daria and my work environment through fear.  Unfortunately, what I try to control, only ends up controlling me by living in constant fear. 

You will want to also listen to next week's session as it will become extremely clear as to where most of our relationship issues come from and how it is related to our childhood.

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In relationships you are always going to have fights.  It's normal and necessary.  But one thing to be conscious of is to avoid the downward spiral of relationship triggers.  What this means is when one partner gets triggered, he or she takes it out on their partner.  And that partner triggers the other partner back.  It just goes back and forth and builds layer upon layer on the real issue at hand.  It is important to look at where this trigger is coming from.  But it's hard to see that when both partners are just in a downward spiral of triggering each other.  Enjoy part one of this couples session with me and my fiancee Daria where we learn on how to put the fire out of our relationship triggers. 

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We believe the achieving of all our goals and dreams will bring us a feeling of happiness.  But the truth is everything that you so desperately seek resides within you.  And how you experience that is not setting a condition to your happiness but giving yourself the permission to feel the happiness that you are in the present moment.  Do not set a condition on your happiness with "goals" because your worth is unconditional.  

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