This is the first time I did an interview for my show.  You will get to learn about how all the healing I offer others stems from the healing I give to myself.  We all want to help others but we forget that to become selfless we need to first be "selfish."  Or in other words put yourself as a top priority instead of the last.  

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Putting ourselves down is something as natural to us as breathing.  So natural that we are not even aware that we are doing it.    Our focus is purely on our "problems" that we have created which we treat as reasons for why we are not good enough.  The truth is not only are our fears false, but the truth is we are more powerful than we can ever imagine.  For us to realize this we must boldly claim back our power.  We are all kings and queens that have forgotten our power.  Now its time for us to claim back our right to the throne.     

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The voice of inner critic is strong but acts like a ghost. It controls your every move but you don’t know that you are being controlled and by what.

When you touch a hot stove, you don’t have the time to think about the pain, you just automatically remove your hand without thinking. We live our lives the same way, when something triggers a negative emotion we automatically do whatever we can to eliminate the thing that is triggering the negative emotion without thinking about what our negative emotion is really about and what it is saying to us.

This inner critic is constantly feeding you negative messages and beliefs. But we don’t hear what it’s saying is because all we feel are the negative emotions we are desperately trying to run away from.

But these negative emotions are always feeding your subconscious nasty messages about you. And if you do not confront your emotions you will not understand what the messages are, and thus have no way of changing these messages.

If your inner critic is a vicious snake you want to let that vicious snake out of its cage to embody the voice of critic so you know exactly the venom it has been feeding you all this time.

Listen to me coach a client about embodying this inner critic so she could be finally be free of it.

In this part 3 finale you will discover the absolute root cause of my anger towards my fiancée. In Part 1 you saw how my anger towards my fiancee was really an expression of feminine tendencies of being overly sensitive and emotional.  In Part 2 you began to see how my anger towards her was really about my anger towards myself.  Finally in part 3 is where I bare all and discover for the first time how vicious my anger towards myself really is  And it's not about my anger towards her because its only her behavior that is triggering to deep seated wounds of my hatred towards myself. 

This is Part 2 of a couples coaching session I had with my fiancée and Paul Colaianni of The Overhwhelmed Brain Podcast.  

The biggest things I'm taking away from these couples sessions is that the issues that come up in my relationship has a lot less to do with the other person and mostly what's going within each one of us.  I'm realizing my anger towards my fiancée is really about the anger towards myself.  I have to forewarn you though the arguments get pretty headed in this second half of the session.  

This session made a tremendous impact on me and I started attracting clients in the same predicament I was in because I became a magnet for those needing to learn the same lesson.  I took all the powerful things I've learned from this session and made it into a monologue for the next episode.  So you will want to stay tuned for that!

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This is a couples coaching session with my fiancée and Paul Colaianni of the Overwhelmed Brain Podcast.  The previous couples session we did (episode 28) you saw the anger my fiancee had towards me which was really her suppressed anger towards her mother.  The tables have turned and you will now see my suppressed anger come up in the relationship and get directed at my fiancee.  Although I was not conscious of the root of my anger, it was secretly controlling my life and being projected at fiancée as if she was the cause of my anger.  This is a great example of how relationships are truly the fertile ground to heal your past wounds.  This couples coaching session was split into two parts so you will want to listen to part two as well.  

Things we do not like about ourselves we project onto others in such a subconscious way that we don't even realize what are real fears are.  I do this all the time with my fiancee and everything that I do not like about myself, I pour my frustration onto her.  It's almost I'm subconsciously saying she is the root cause of my insecurities.  This is something that happens so often in our relationships with others.  And we feel we are the victim.  But the problem is that for as long as we fixate on the other person's behavior, we will not see the main problem which is the root cause of my over reaction to another person's behavior.  All that person is doing is triggering something that already exists within us.  Thus the problem is not the other person's behavior, but to find out what is the other person's behavior triggering within you.  In this podcast coaching session, Josh holds this frustration and hatred toward his ex-fiancee in how she is trying to damage the relationship between him and his son. Although he has every right to be angry, in this session it will become very evident that the main problem is not her behavior but what her behavior is triggering within him that Josh is yet to realize.  

I have spent my whole life using logic to understand life my life which has kept my negative feelings and most importantly pain at a safe distance from me.  But it is my pain that holds the missing key to my healing.  In this episode, I share all that I've learned from feeling the emotions I would typically suppress with logic.  

http://healfromthegroundup.com/michael-discovers-the-healing-power-of-pain/

In thinking of the title for this episode I could have titled it after the epiphany that surfaced which is "The Gift of Who You Are".  However, this epiphany was only brought out from me breaking through analysis paralysis.  The best way I believe to do this is from feeling all of our feelings as opposed to resisting them through analysis paralysis.  Thoughts and analysis are distractions to keep the pain of our fears at bay.  What this means is that pain will always be there until we acknowledge and feel our feelings fully.  What you will see in this episode is me finding the solution by feeling my feelings as opposed to purely thinking my through.

http://healfromthegroundup.com/breaking-through-analysis-paralysis/

The impact that my mother has had on my life is something that has been hidden from me for most of my life.  Although I'm still processing it,  I'm beginning to realize the pain I've been hiding and denying within my self.  Having said this, my mother is still the best mother I can ever ask for.  But we all have been heavily impacted by our parents and the seed is planted in our childhood.  The work I do for others on the podcast and in my private practice is all mirroring things that I'm learning to realize in myself.  It's amazing how beautifully I can guide and help others heal their childhood wounds but I can't really connect to my own.  But its through such clarity in my guidance towards others that I am able to pick up the missing pieces and see what I'm not seeing in myself.

Enjoy this podcast where I share the pain I feel within myself and how my upbringing has contributed to it.

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