Ever felt like love was something you had to earn? Like if you just gave more, waited longer, or proved harder—you’d finally be chosen? In this raw and relatable kickoff to The Healed Love Languages™, Paula Lowe, RN, BSN, CPT, exposes the truth behind Pick-Me and Yes-Girl energy and how we all learned to perform for connection.

With honesty, humor, and soul, Paula unpacks:

• How childhood conditioning taught us to perform instead of partner

• The difference between real love and emotional survival

• Why both men and women fear rejection for being real

• And how to finally drop the act and love from wholeness

Stay tuned for Wednesday's episode, The Blueprint of Men — where we’ll explore why men were conditioned to perform strength instead of feel safety.

And get ready for The Healed Love Languages™ Quiz, coming soon to healedloveera.net.

Because in this new era, love isn’t earned — it’s embodied.

You’re not addicted to people — you’re addicted to the feeling of being chosen.

In this week’s episode of Healed Love Era™, Paula Lowe, RN, BSN, CPT, unpacks how childhood wounds and betrayal rewire the way we experience love — and why physical intimacy can become a substitute for emotional safety.

✨ What you’ll learn:
• How early rejection and inconsistent parenting create intimacy addiction
• Why some men turn cold or controlling during and after intimacy
• Why some women confuse surrender with safety — and stay silent when it hurts
• How childhood betrayal teaches the body that love and pain can coexist
• How to separate being chosen from being used

It’s raw, compassionate, and real — a trauma-informed look at why we crave connection that feels familiar instead of safe.

🎧 Listen now to reclaim intimacy that doesn’t require losing yourself.

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You don’t need another dating app, you need a reality check.

In this week’s episode of Healed Love Era™, Paula gets brutally (and hilariously) honest about the lies we tell ourselves in relationships and how they all trace back to the parts of us that learned love through survival, not safety.

✨ What you’ll learn:
• How childhood trauma wires us to confuse chaos with connection
• Why your “type” might actually be your trigger
• The Emotional Honesty Scale™ (where self-awareness meets sarcasm)
• The Self-Delusion Hotline — call in when your red flags start looking holy
• How to stop performing for potential and start standing in truth

If you’re tired of justifying mixed signals, over-explaining bad behavior, and calling denial “hope,” this episode will make you laugh, flinch, and heal all at once.

🎧 Listen now and let’s tell the truth, finally.

You’re not in love — you’re just out of breath.

In this week’s episode of Healed Love Era™, Paula Lowe breaks down the difference between chasing validation and choosing alignment. Because when love is right, you don’t have to audition for attention — it meets you halfway.

✨ What you’ll learn:
• How chasing comes from wounded energy (and how to stop)
• What healthy pursuit actually looks like for both men and women
• Why mutual effort isn’t the same as equal effort
• The “group chat test” — how to know if you’re chasing clarity or crowd-sourcing chaos
• How to recognize peace when it feels unfamiliar

If you’re tired of performing for love that keeps you guessing, this one’s for you.

🎧 Listen now — and let this be the week you stop running after love that was never walking toward you.

In this episode of Healed Love Era™, Paula Lowe unpacks the uncomfortable truth about emotional unavailability — how it hides behind independence, bad timing, and perfectionism.
You’re not broken…you’re just afraid to be seen.

🎯 What you’ll learn:
• The subtle ways men and women both avoid intimacy
• Why we crave chaos but run from calm
• How emotional unavailability disguises itself as strength
• The 5 steps to actually become open to healthy love

If you’re tired of chasing potential and ready to become available for something real — this is your wake-up call.

💡 Listen now — and make sure your heart’s not the one ghosting love.

💥 Hot take: If every ex in your story is the villain, you might be the common denominator.

In this episode of Healed Love Era™, Paula Lowe calls out the cultural habit of turning heartbreak into a personality and staying stuck in victim mode. This one is for men and women — because both sides love to villainize their exes and avoid doing the inner work.

🎯 What you’ll learn:
• Why victimhood feels good (but keeps you powerless)
• How to own your part in heartbreak without blaming yourself
• Why social media rewards staying stuck in your pain
• How to rewrite your love story and stop auditioning new villains

🔥 This episode will sting in the best way — and set you free to actually heal, grow, and choose better next time.

💡 Listen now and start being the author of your love story — not just the main character in a tragedy.

Why do we ghost people when things get uncomfortable — even when they love us?

In this episode of Healed Love Era™, Paula calls out the ghosting cycle with honesty, humor, and heart. She dives into why we run when love feels safe, why we punish the people who show up for us, and how to break the pattern for good.

✨ You’ll learn:
• Why ghosting is fear disguised as control
• How to stop punishing safe love for past hurt
• The difference between needing space vs. disappearing
• Why discarding people when you don’t get your way keeps you lonely
• How your healed love era will attract people who stay

Plus, Paula shares powerful journal prompts to help you stop running and start choosing love that feels like home.

💡 Listen now — and stop making silence the loudest thing you say.

Why do we keep falling for people who are bad for us — the ones who drain us, confuse us, or leave us questioning our worth? In this very first episode of Healed Love Era™, Paula unpacks why we choose fixer-uppers, image-based partners, and chaotic relationships — and why lust-first connections often burn out fast.

✨ You’ll learn:

• Why “fixing” people keeps you from being vulnerable
• The danger of choosing image over intimacy
• Why chaos feels like chemistry (and how to break the cycle)
• How rushing into bed sets you up for heartbreak

Plus, Paula gives you powerful journal prompts to shift your patterns and start choosing love that feels safe — not just familiar. Stop being the hero.

💡 Listen now and take the first step into your Healed Love Era™.

We’ve all felt it — that instant spark, the butterflies, the magnetic pull. But is it really love at first sight… or just your nervous system reliving an old story?

In this episode of Power, Purpose & Plot Twists, Paula Lowe explores the difference between the intoxicating rush of love at first sight and the steady, soul-aligned connection of a match made in heaven.

✨ Why sparks can sometimes be trauma in disguise
✨ How childhood wounds shape who and what we’re drawn to
✨ Why alignment often feels boring at first — and why it’s actually the real forever
✨ And how healing helps you choose peace without losing passion

Because here’s the truth: sparks are fun.

But alignment? Alignment is forever.

Is your “type” really your preference…or is it your trauma in disguise?

In this episode of Power, Purpose & Plot Twists, Paula Lowe unpacks why chaos feels like chemistry, why butterflies aren’t always love (spoiler: they’re usually your nervous system panicking 🚨), and how healing completely changes who and what you’re attracted to.

With humor, truth bombs, and a few too-real stories (Gaslight & Chill, anyone?), Paula dives into how to stop dating your wounds and start dating your worth.

✨ Because chaos isn’t chemistry. Peace is sexy.