Healing Sols Podcast

This episode was previously recorded for "Mormon Sex Info" and is being refurbished here for your enjoyment.

This is a conversation between prominent LDS therapists about the upcoming membership council Natasha Helfer is facing this weekend (April 18, 2021).

To help keep Mormon Sex Info going past 2021, please donate at mormonsex.info.

This podcast episode was originally recorded for "Mormon Sex Info" Podcast. It's now being refurbished for your enjoyment here at the "Healing Sols Podcast."

For more from Natasha Helfer, LCMFT, CST, CSTS, please visit https://www.natashahelfer.com.

Natasha Helfer Parker interviews Aimee Heffernan, LMFT in regards to achieving what can at times seem like the elusive female orgasm. They cover all types of topics from psychological aspects that can get in the way of climax, to specific techniques that women and their partners can find helpful. What ruts can we get stuck in either in regards to sexual practice or sexual meaning? How does self-pleasure and self-exploration begin a self knowledge that can translate to orgasmic potential? How can using a vibrator help achieve orgasm? Does the G-Spot exist? What about multiple orgasms? What is squirting? How do we improve our communication skills around these types of conversations?

Aimee Heffernan grew up in Salt Lake City in a very open-minded, unorthodox, feminist, Mormon home. She was raised with the beautiful aspects of Mormon theology balanced with the nuance and complicated parts church history. Aimee attended Western Washington University in Bellingham, WA before she went on her mission to Sendai, Japan. She graduated from the University of Utah with a degree in Sociology and with a masters degree from Seattle Pacific University in Marriage and Family Therapy. Aimee has a private practice in Redmond, WA, where she specializes in relationships, infidelity, sexuality, faith/spirituality crisis and transitions, mixed faith marriages, women's issues, self-esteem and identity. She is a trained educator for the Gottman Bringing Baby Home program. She is currently working towards becoming a certified sex therapist through AASECT. Aimee has presented for the NW Chapter of the Multiple Sclerosis Society, local schools, more church functions than she can count, and enjoys speaking about mental, emotional, and sexual health.

My Official Stance on Masturbation blog post by Natasha Helfer Parker

How Can I Go to the Temple if I'm Still Masturbating blog post by Natasha Helfer Parker

Kristin Hodson featured on Episode 1: Porn Addiction: Is It Real?

LDS Female Sexuality with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife on Mormon Mental Health Podcast

OMGYES

Kinsey Institute

Sex + w/ Laci Green

Sexplantions with Dr. Doe

Lovers

Blue Boutique located in Salt Lake City

Sex toy called Double Trouble

Sex Smart Films: Promoting Sexual Literacy

The Clitoris: A Complete Sex Guide

Babeland

For more from Natasha, please visit: natashahelfer.com.

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Natasha Helfer and Kristin Bennion discuss their concerns about what has been happening in the nation with the rise of conspiracy theories and their dangers from a psychological perspective.

"The 'Shared Psychosis' of Donald Trump and His Loyalists"

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-shared-psychosis-of-donald-trump-and-his-loyalists/?fbclid=IwAR2fwhFtvUalzsAQ8B5nKgK4_5XdgHLsbdA6Q8SWXtvn8_TxIzC7z9Uuqro

For more on Kristin, you can visit:

https://www.intimateconnectionscounseling.com/about/

This podcast episode was originally recorded for "Mormon Sex Info" Podcast. It's now being refurbished for your enjoyment here at the "Healing Sols Podcast."

For more from Natasha Helfer, LCMFT, CST, CSTS, please visit https://www.natashahelfer.com.

Natasha Helfer Parker interviews Dr. David Ley, author of The Myth of Sex Addiction, regarding the problems with the sex addiction treatment model and the conversations we should be having instead. He states that not only is this type of modality erroneous, but dangerous. They cover such issues as: How do shifting attitudes about sexuality force us to renegotiate how we see and define healthy sexuality? Why is sexual diversity easily pathologized? Why is it that there is not a single published study that sex addiction treatment makes a difference and yet treatment centers are growing in number at an alarming rate? Why are we abandoning people within a moral or social crisis, by focusing on things like a supposed pornography public health crisis? Are we aware that gay and bi men are three times as likely to be called "sex addicts?" Are we aware that the American Psychiatric Association has rejected the language of "sex addiction" for 40 years? Are we talking about the importance of sex education and regular dialogue? How can we help people explore morality in their sexuality as adults? How do we incorporate religious beliefs in ways that allow for normative sexuality?

Dr. David Ley is a clinical psychologist in practice in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He earned his Bachelor's degree in Philosophy from Ole Miss, and his Master's and Doctoral degrees in clinical psychology from the University of New Mexico. Dr. Ley is the Executive Director of New Mexico Solutions, a large outpatient mental health and substance abuse program in Albuquerque, NM. Dr. Ley has been treating sexuality issues throughout his career. He first began treating perpetrators and victims of sexual abuse, but expanded his approach to include the fostering and promotion of healthy sexuality, and awareness of the wide range of normative sexual behaviors. Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them is his first book and won a Silver Medal in the Foreword Magazine Book of the Year contest for 2009. Dr. Ley wrote Insatiable Wives following two years of interviews with couples around the country. His controversial second book, The Myth of Sex Addiction was released in March 2012.

Defining "Normophilic" and "Paraphilic" Sexual Fantasies in a Population-Based Sample: On the Importance of Considering Subgroups by Christian Joyal

Jason Winters (2010) published three studies on sex addiction, demonstrating that alleged sex addicts have as much (or as little) sexual self-control as anyone else, and that the identity of sex addict is predicated by a religious upbringing.

Grubbs, Hook, Griffin and Davis (2015) published a review of the paucity of outcome data on sex addiction treatment in Current Addiction Reports.

Work of Dr. Rory Reid

Work of Stulhofer

The Religious Institute

This podcast episode was originally recorded for "Mormon Sex Info" Podcast. It's now being refurbished for your enjoyment here at the "Healing Sols Podcast."

For more from Natasha Helfer, LCMFT, CST, CSTS, please visit https://www.natashahelfer.com.

Natasha Helfer Parker interviews Dr. Gina Ogden, PhD, LMFT on one of the most common complaints that get brought to sex therapists: low female sexual desire. Gina shares years of experience where she helps us ask pivotal questions to break this construct apart. What is it that we desire? Do women give themselves permission to experience pleasure? Gina instructs on her 4-dimensional model approach to what she calls the Integrative Wheel of Sexual Experience – where we delve into Body, Mind, Heart and Spirit. Walking through these four dimensions is an approach that allows one to take a holistic approach to such things as libido or erotic differences in partnerships. Gina has agreed to return to Mormon Sex Info for a "part 2" of this in-depth conversation of what it means to delve into the erotic space of desire.

Gina Ogden is an award-winning sex therapist, family therapist, researcher, teacher, and author. She is founder of the Relational Sexuality Network, an international collaboration of practitioners whose mission is to expand the practice of therapy and sex therapy beyond limiting notions of function and dysfunction to include a wide range of diversity and experience. She conducts retreats and trainings internationally, lectures widely, leads tele-seminars attended by professionals all over the world, and has appeared in the media from talk radio to the Oprah Winfrey Show. She supervises and trains sex therapists, physicians, nurses, social workers, family therapists, and other health providers in the Four-Dimensional Wheel approach, to broaden their understanding of sexual experience. She conducted the only nationwide survey on integrating sexuality and spirituality. She is the author of ten books so far. Her most recent books for a general readership (all published by Trumpeter) are: The Return of Desire (2008) and The Heart & Soul of Sex (2006). The 3rd edition of Women Who Love Sex, was published in 2007. Her books for a professional readership (all published by Routledge) are: Expanding the Practice of Sex Therapy: An Integrative Model for Exploring Desire and Intimacy, (2012) and Extraordinary Sex Therapy: Creative Approaches for Clinician (2015)—an edited collection of innovative and creative approaches from colleagues in the US and the UK. Her 4-D Wheel workbook for clinicians is : Exploring Desire & Intimacy: Innovative Approaches, Practical Applications–due in September, 2016.

Lessons From Women Who Love Sex – Poster graciously offered by Gina Ogden

The Return of Desire: A Guide to Rediscovering your Sexual Passion by Gina Ogden

Exploring Desire & Intimacy: Innovative Approaches, Practical Applications (due out in September of 2016)

Kristin Hodson of the Healing Group and author of Real Intimacy: A Couples Guide for Genuine, Healthy Sexuality

The Chalice and the Blade: Our History, Our Future by Riane Eisler

This podcast episode was originally recorded for "Mormon Sex Info" Podcast. It's now being refurbished for your enjoyment here at the "Healing Sols Podcast."

For more from Natasha Helfer, LCMFT, CST, CSTS, please visit https://www.natashahelfer.com.

Natasha Helfer Parker interviews Alisha Worthington, SSW, a sexual educator, on the topic of providing healthy sexual education to our pre-adolescent children. How do we approach sexuality of children without projecting our own adult sensibilities? What do we teach about sexuality without even realizing it? What are the best ways to respond to things like masturbation/self-touch, pornography viewing, and experiences such as "playing doctor?" How do we talk to our kids about their body parts? How do we teach protective stances and boundaries, especially when it comes to the potential of child sexual abuse? How do we avoid shaming/fear-based sex education and embrace pleasure-based sex education, even when we want to reinforce concepts such as consent, appropriate boundaries and the risks associated with sexuality? And much more….

Alisha Worthington is an LDS Sexual Educator and has contributed to many media resources such as: FamilyShare.com and The Deseret News. She has been a regular contributor on the Radio From Hell show on x96 taking live calls on sex and intimacy and has been a guest on KUTV 2 morning news. She is an educator, group facilitator, and coach for The Healing Group, where she offers many workshops and services regarding women's health and sexuality, and co-author of the book Real Intimacy: A Couple's Guide to Healthy, Genuine Sexuality. She is also a member of the Mormon Mental Health Association.

Links to resources that are covered during the podcast:

Elizabeth Smart Foundation: Mission focused on preventing and stopping predatory crimes.

Yes! You can talk to your kids about sex by Kristin Hodson and Alisha Worthington

A Parent's Guide an LDS Manual Teaching Youths in the 21st Century by Elder M. Russell Ballard

The Naked People in Your iPod by Paul Malan

Where Willie Went by Nicholas Allan

It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex and Sexual Health by Robbie Harris and Michael Emberley

For Goodness Sex by Al Vernacchio

This podcast episode was originally recorded for "Mormon Sex Info" Podcast. It's now being refurbished for your enjoyment here at the "Healing Sols Podcast."

For more from Natasha Helfer, LCMFT, CST, CSTS, please visit https://www.natashahelfer.com.

Natasha Helfer Parker interviews Shannon Hickman, LCSW, CST, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, on the topic of understanding premature (or early or rapid) ejaculation. What is the diagnostic criteria for PE? Do people know how long most sexual experiences last? What types of myths and misconceptions abound about sexual expectations and what it means to have a successful sexual encounter that affect people's perspective about penile performance? What contributes to PE? What types of treatment can be helpful for PE? What role can the spouse play in treatment? What role does physiology play versus psychology?

Shannon Hickman is a licensed clinical social worker with 12 years of experience in a variety of disciplines. She has worked in a variety of group and individual settings, including hospitals, clinics, and drug and alcohol treatment facilities, and now runs a private practice in Murray, Utah. Shannon is focused on individual and couples counseling as well as sex therapy. She received her undergraduate degree in 2004 in social work from the University of Utah and went on to receive her masters degree in social work in 2006 from Rutger's University.

Links to resources that are covered during the podcast:

DSM 5

International Society for Sexual Medicine She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by Ian Kerner

Guide to Getting It On by Paul Joannides

Stephanie Buehler author of Sex, Love and Mental Illness: A Couple's Guide to Staying Connected and A Heart-Pounding Guide to Passionate Sex

Sensate Focus

Sensate Focus Exercise: Non-Sexual Intimacy

Flesh Light Product (some may find this site offensive)

Coping with Premature Ejaculation: How to Overcome PE, Please Your Partner and Have Great Sex by Barry McCarthy and Michael Metz

For more from Natasha, please visit: https://www.natashahelfer.com