One of the most impactful things for me has been creating a Safe Base with Jesus.  This is where I go to 'do the work,' to be refuelled by him, to surrender and forgive, to freak out and let all my big emotions out, and to have a safe place to do it all. 

This tool is to create your own safe base for your own journey

This POWERFUL episode is the perfect way to end season 2. 

We sit with Ashley Henriott, A Christ-centered Confidence coach and content creator (among several other amazing things she does) 

Ashley tells us a little bit of her story, her redemption and how Jesus saved her life. 

We talk about the road from Healing to Heaven, that place where we live after we have done deep healing but still live in this messy world before Jesus comes. How we must have boundaries and tools to keep us moving forward in healthy ways.

The powerful part of the conversation lies in talking about our identity and where that comes from the importance of knowing Jesus and the truth to not get swallowed up by the worlds lies or even false gospels. 

Today we talk about Grief without loss.

Things like

-loss of a job

We end the episode on a high note: how we can move to acceptance and that can allow us to have a future, even if we still are sad about the past. 

An amazing interview with Amber Kuipers! 

The next podcast series is: GRIEF 

This episode is about Grief after loss.

We dive into 

👉🏻 our culture's response to grief and how it can be harming those who are grieving, even from the church community 

👉🏻what NOT to say to someone grieving 

👉🏻what TO DO for someone grieving 

👉🏻All the different roles we can play in grief depending on if we are grieving ourselves, supporting someone grieving or a mixture of both

👉🏻Ambers children’s book about grief ‘When Grey came to Stay’

👉🏻Her new sympathy card line and what’s coming up in the future for her in terms of grief boxes, new books etc 

Connect with amber 

Amber's Instagram: https://instagram.com/amberskuipers?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

Amber's Sympathy Cards: http://chasinghope.squarespace.com

Today we discuss the FAWN response. A great description I found "it is the maladaptive way of creating safety in connections with others by essentially mirroring the imagined expectations and desires of other people" 

This is the hallmark of people-pleasing and codependency. We discuss how this looks as an adult who struggles with saying no, putting up boundaries and whose value is based on helping others or being needed. 

We looked at how in relationships it shows up in abandoning our own needs for our partner's needs. 

As parents it shows up as giving, giving and giving until we burn ourselves out 

And most important, how it shows up as our kids who become the 'good kids' who never act out or challenge us and learn how to appease their parents in order to stay safe and connected.  A big saying we talked about is 'people-pleasers began as parent-pleasers' 

Today we are talking the FREEZE response and this one is tricky because it is really different from the other two we have discussed (Fight and Flight) 

We dive into what is looks like as an Adult, in relationships, as a parent and how it shows up in our kiddos too! 

The Flight Response is part of the sympathetic nervous system response, which means we are activated but want to FLEE asap!

As an adult you might notice:

- the need to stay busy or always be on the go

-riddles with worry, fear, anxiety or overwhelm

In Relationships you might:

-Break up every time something gets hard

As a parent you might:

-be overwhelmed or overstimulated a lot

Kid's Flight Response might look like:

-Running away

-Hard time paying attention, Restless, Hyperactive 

-Sensory Processing Issues 

We end the episode talking about how we can support ourselves and our kids in the FLIGHT response

This episode is all about the sympathetic nervous system response: Fight

Fight Response is filled with things like being👇

Defensive

Critical 

Controlling

Angry outbursts

Starting Arguments 

Yelling 

Threatening 

Blaming and Shaming

This weeks podcast episode is all about the Fight response

✨From our body’s perspective 

✨From a relationship perspective 

✨As a mom/parent 

✨Our kiddos fight response

If you are ready to learn more, Register for the 2,4,6,8 This is how we regulate: RELATIONSHIP EDITION workshop!! 

Register here www.danielleelizabethfoisy.com/links 

Today we are doing an overview of 

The Nervous System

Polyvagal Theory 

Why this is important to our healing and relationships and parenting 

How our Faith doesnt need to be separated from these trauma modalities