Heartfelt Marriage

Zany people are the kind of people you like the most. In this edition of Dr. Ross's Life-Lifting Words, he discusses this fun word and in the process encourages all of us to drop the pretenses and be the kind of person others like to be around - be zany!

Everyone’s looking for the good life! And YOU can have it!

Here’s what you need:  Education, information, conversation, observation, participation, determination and one more!

To find out the “one more,” take a few minutes (less than eight) and listen to this podcast! You want to find the good life, right?

One guy bragged to his friend that he was able to get out of his marriage without the use of an attorney! He told how he and his “Ex” were able to settle things by using a mediator, and that saved him a lot of money!

In this brief (five-minute) podcast, Dr. Ross speculates why their marriage ended – both funny and tragic possibilities.

You’ll like his conclusion and suggestion as to what you can do to create, maintain, and enjoy a mutually satisfying, emotionally healthy, till’ death-do-us-part kind of marriage.

Dr. Ross has prepared for you a checklist that reveals a variety of clues that your marriage relationship is growing, flowing, and glowing!

Use it to self-check your progress toward the happy marriage you dream of! Dr. Ross believes you can have a healthy, long-lasting marriage. Listen to Dr. Ross briefly discuss each item in Heartfelt Marriage Podcast 094.

Romance is alive and well, according to Dr. Ross! In this podcast, he takes the word ROMANCE and shares what romance (courtship, flirtation, and passion) is all about and how it creates spark in your marriage relationship.

 He says, “Romance is a gift to your beloved, expressed in the loving ways you treat each other day-by-day. Love is what gets you through the long pull of the frequently changing physical, emotional, and spiritual issues of a lifetime together.”

Does that sound like what you want in your marriage? Listen to the podcast WITH your lover and who knows what good things might happen!

The podcast is 8 minutes long.

From Dr. Ross:

In the previous podcast, I started a series titled “How Good Can Our Marriage Be?” Part one was supposed to be this: “Your marriage is a place where love-hungry hearts can be filled.”

The problem is, I started writing it and realized it was essential to the entire series. I found it impossible to deal with the love-hungry hearts theme in only one podcast. What happened was that this one theme – love-hungry hearts – has evolved into a series all its own. Its title is Seven Hungers of the human Heart.

One of the blessings of growing old is that you have a lifetime of observations of humanity at its worst and its best. I have been around the world and studied people from a variety of cultures. I lived in Central Africa for seven years and watched the Batonga people and learned a lot from them about life and love and family. But I’ve also been to Europe, Asia, Central America, South America, and Canada.

From my experience of over seven decades on planet earth observing men, women, and children in various parts of the world, I believe there are Seven Hungers of the Human Heart.

This 9-minute podcast is an overview of the seven hungers.

How good can your marriage be? Now there’s a question worth asking!

It’s a good question because it focuses on the strengths of your marriage, rather than the weaknesses.

Lots of marriage specialists like me focus more on the negative side of a marriage relationship. The question is always, “what’s the problem?” rather than, “What do you two do well together?”

 Fact is, every marriage has weaknesses, and no matter how hard they try, they always will have areas for improvement. So, if your goal is to work constantly to eliminate the weaknesses in your relationship, you have no time nor energy left to develop the good stuff you do together.

 This podcast is the first in a new series of podcasts that answer the question, “How good can our marriage be?”

 Dr. Ross’s answer to the question is, “Fantastic! If you focus on what you love about each other rather than what bugs you about each other.”

 He believes happier marriages begin with a positive mindset and an optimistic outlook on the prospects you have to make what’s good about your marriage even better.

The Podcast is 9 minutes long.

A long and healthy marriage is a marvelous thing to experience and a blessing for children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren.

But, how do you make it happen?  How do you get longevity in your marriage?

Dr. Ross’s marriage lasted over five decades. In this Podcast, he says, “How long you stay married depends on how you look at each other.” He then shares with you three ways to look at each other to ensure longevity in your marriage. You’ll love this podcast – especially the part where he tells you to … well, listen to it and you’ll find out!

The podcast is 9 minutes long.

When children arrive in a marriage, priorities change, focus shifts, hand-holding turns into hand wringing, and sweet kisses turn into swift pecks on the cheek. Erotic encounters turn into repetitive intersecting. Tedium replaces erotica. Saving money overrides spending money. Boredom and bedlam, frustration and fear, confusion and concern overwhelm. Passion is replaced by parenthood. 

So many responsibilities – no time for US.

It’s time for an intervention. It’s time to learn how to have kids and to have a great marriage. Hubby? It’s time for you to take leadership and learn how to romance your children’s mother.

In this fun podcast, Dr. Ross offers four suggestions to help you romance your children’s mother. His recommendations are gleaned from having had at least one child present in his home for over twenty years.

Of all the responsibilities you have as a husband and father, this is one of the easiest things to do – to romance your children’s mother. Give it a try for a month or two – or for that matter, give it your best effort for the rest of your lives together. Start by listening to this podcast!

When love is given and received, the lovers glow, and the love grows.

The podcast is 10 minutes long.

There is a long-standing myth that libertine singles have all the sex and married people live sex-deprived lives until they finally get divorced and rejoin the sexually liberated singles crowd once again.

It’s a myth – and the popular magazine, Psychology Today (online), has the evidence. Their article is titled, “6 Reasons Why Married Couples Should Have Better Sex Lives.” The subhead says, “Much of what you’ve been led to believe about married sex is probably wrong.”

In this fun and informative podcast, Dr. Ross shares Psychology Today’s six reasons, and at the end, he adds a seventh reason married couples have better sex than singles. Don’t miss it.

The podcast is 10 minutes long.