Today's special guest is a friend from my military life.  She has worn many different hats in her lifetime the one thing that stayed the same is she always remembers to honor & embrace what she needs to find JOY in life.  When she married into the military life she was a performer.  Due to military moves, she found a new passion as a pilates instructor.  Most recently she survived a stroke which has led her back to her first love, performing.  Greta is a REMARKABLE example of how to honor & embrace yourself. 

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Summer can be a blast but it can also be overwhelming. When there is no structure and the kids are home, how do you continue to honor and embrace what you need? 

Bonnie Nichols a dear friend and life coach and host of wholehearted podcast is a guest this week sharing her ideas and routines that have worked for her and her family over the years.

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It is mental health awareness month and I can not let the month go by without taking time to acknowledge and stress the importance of taking care of your mental health as much if not more than you take care of your physical health.

And then someone asked me if their trauma was nearly as important as my trauma.  ABSOLUTELY.

Eventually, trauma will find its way out. You can find it in a marriage, motherhood, sisterhood, or friendships but it will appear. 

Look back at your life and see if there is some kind of event or time that has created a blockage for you?  Don't devalue it and say it was nothing.  We all have defining moments in our lives.

We need to validate the moments that have impacted our lives we can not ignore or invalidate them.

Start by spending some time with yourself and be honest about the story of your life and how it has impacted you.

Today's guest is Karyn Frisby from Getting Social with Karyn Podcast.  

She has had it all and then had it all come crashing down.  When her marriage ended she was at her lowest, however, through it all she has learned to honor and embrace who she is and the life she is choosing to live without apology.   Now she wants to support and empower other women to choose themselves as well and know that it’s ok to choose you.

We talk about friendships changing, raising kids, celebrating other women and so much more.

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Have a REMARKABLE day! You deserve it!

Validation UGH

The dictionary version of the validation is recognition or affirmation that a person or their feeling or opinions are valid.

EXHAUSTING for me and I am sure them.

Validation can put unnecessary stress and pressure on relationships and potentially cause it to fall apart.

I remember in my relationships whether it be a boyfriend or friendships I needed constant validation.  I needed the validation that they wanted me around that they thought I was cool enough that I brought value to the relationship.

It never ended working out in my favor usually the relationship just faded away because they couldn't meet this expectation I put on the relationship.

Do you know what else I learned the real reason I need the validation from people was I otherwise felt replaceable in their lives.

How does this relate to Honor & Embrace Yourself  A LOT

Why do we need that validation?

As much as I wish could get rid of the need for validation altogether.  We are social creatures We thrive in community and just have a need to be accepted

I know we live in a world now that it is instant validation & acceptance. How many likes & views do we have? How many followers? As kids, we look for validation from our parent's teachers. We are in a world now where we doubt ourselves if we don’t get validation.

How do we change? How do we look for less validation?

We love ourselves. We show up in life where feels good to us.  If you want to post all about being a mom DO IT! If you want to promote your business DO IT! Share your tik toks or workout videos DO IT!!

When you feel validation starting to creep its way in. Take some time to think about why is this feeling coming up for me. Why do I need this validation Who are you looking to for validation?

Let’s start changing the narrative that people use social media for their platforms to be their REMARKABLE selves without validation.

Do you ever hear yourself saying great I feel short again or way to screw that up?

If you are like most people then the answer is yes.

Why do you find yourself saying those things to yourself?

Maybe you lost your cool with your kids? Your spouse? Or in my case your kid's father?

That of falling short or not being the “perfect” person turns into what I like to call self-judgment day.

Where you beat ourselves and torture ourselves more than anyone else can.

If you have kids at home and you have ever needed to get them out the door for school then there can be tough mornings.

So days you just lose your shit. First I want you to know that is normal. FORGIVE YOURSELF. You are still a kick ass mom.

Maybe your ex did something that pissed you off you lost your shit. FORGIVE YOURSELF.

It could be anything or anyone that makes you LOSE YOUR COOL sometime. The most important thing is to FORGIVE YOURSELF!!

As much as you want to have it together all the time sometimes we just don't and that is OK.

Take some time to self-reflect on why you lost it. Self-reflection is AMAZING.

Are you tired? Hungry? Do you feel rushed in the morning? You felt disrespected it could be any number of things. Take the time to see what is and isn't within your control of the situation.

The most powerful type of self-reflection can happen through journaling.

journal the experience and where you see it went wrong.

Also if you feel the need to apologize then do it. The best rule of thumb is when you don’t feel like you were honoring yourself and acting as your best self then an apology not only would feel good for the person receiving it but shows growth for you.

Own your apology never force an apology because there is nothing worse than an empty apology.

Do not apologize necessarily for the way you feel but for the way you reacted.

You can find great freedom in owning when you feel like you didn’t represent the person you want to be.

Release yourself from that high expectation you put on yourself.

You are a work in progress and listening to this podcast is a remarkable first step.

Keep surrounding and feeding your soul with the type of person you truly want to be.

Welcome to the Honor & Embrace Yourself Podcast or simply put H.E.Y.

You didn’t land here but chance but I hope you decide to stay.

This podcast is for you if

You have ever felt like a chameleon constantly changing just to fit in out of fear of what might people might say or think of you.

If you have ever given to everyone else before yourself?

And If you have ever struggled with daily demons feeding your mind lie after lie about your life.

Whatever role you play in life. I am here to tell you there is something special about you and you are exactly what the world needs.

This is a safe place to honor and embrace yourself without the noise of the world shutting it down or creating doubt.

My name is Leanne and I am glad you are here. I have been told you either love me or hate me kind of person due to my unpolished embrace life kid of self.

I have spent most of my life living in shame apologizing for that exact statement and justifying who I am and the choices I have made, looking for validation acceptance and being just right in all the wrong places. And when I didn't get it I thought I was devasted.

Now through a lot of self-reflection, allowing myself the time and space to figure out what I need. I now love myself unapologetically and have stopped comparing myself to others and their journey.

And I want everyone to own who they truly are even if it is uncomfortable and it means that not everyone likes or agrees with you.

If you are ready to dig deeper into what it takes to honor and embrace yourself. Hit the subscribes button we will be launching a new podcast every Tuesday at 3 am EST time covering a wide range of topics from parenthood to self-love.

And on every 3rd Tuesday of the month, I will have remarkable guests who will share their stories of how they stopped fighting who they really wanted to be and felt they needed to be to truly honor & embrace their life.

I am excited to share this REMARKABLE journey called life with you.

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Remember to take time today to honor & embrace yourself which is truly remarkable.