In this episode, Daniella and Rebecca dive into themes of creativity, body image, cultural conditioning, and the lingering impacts of cult and purity culture. Daniella shares her journey of transforming clothing and crafts as a form of healing, while Rebecca draws connections between whiteness, consumerism, and self-imposed restrictions on bodies and identities. Together, they unpack how purity culture manifests in practices like “purity balls,” clothing expectations, and even shower habits, connecting these to deeper systems of control rooted in patriarchy, whiteness, and colonization.

The conversation also explores cross-cultural experiences of communal bathing, body acceptance, and how exposure to diverse bodies and practices can shift self-perception. They highlight how ignorance—whether about washing, menstruation, or cultural traditions—becomes institutionalized and weaponized, often to exclude or control marginalized groups.

The episode closes by reflecting on language, labeling, and how subtle choices in words carry histories of colonization, while also pointing toward possibilities for decolonizing everyday life through awareness, community, and art.

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You can read all about that story in my book, Uncultured-- buy signed copies here. https://bit.ly/SignedUncultured For more info on me: Patreon: https://bit.ly/YTPLanding Cult book Clubs (Advanced AND Memoirs) Annual Membership: https://bit.ly/YTPLanding Get an autographed copy of my book, Uncultured: https://bit.ly/SignedUncultured Get my book, Uncultured, from Bookshop.org: https://bit.ly/4g1Ufw8 Daniella’s Tiktok: https://bit.ly/4bwvNC0  Instagram:  https://bit.ly/4ePAOFK / daniellamyoung_  Unamerican video book (on Patreon): https://bit.ly/YTVideoBook Secret Practice video book (on Patreon): https://bit.ly/3ZswGY8 Fundraiser for Culting of America book publishing https://tr.ee/fldwYRFTJ Key Takeaways

• Art as Healing and Resistance: Crafting and repurposing clothes can serve both as personal healing from trauma and as a way to resist consumerist and body-restrictive culture.

• Purity Culture as Control: Practices like purity balls and body-based restrictions reflect patriarchal and white supremacist control, often disguised as morality or tradition.

• Flat Stomach as “Prison”: Daniella critiques the societal fixation on a flat stomach as a harmful, imprisoning ideal tied to disordered eating and control of women’s bodies.

• Cults and Time Travel: Beyond “space travel,” cults often promise or enforce “time travel”—keeping people fixated on returning to an idealized past or fearing an uncertain future.

• White Culture’s War on Washing: Shower control, limited bathing, and metaphors like “brainwashing” reveal deeper histories of colonization, scarcity, and body regulation.

• Communal Bathing as Counterculture: Exposure to communal, intergenerational bathing practices fosters body acceptance and challenges shame-based conditioning.

• Ignorance and Shame: Whiteness often weaponizes ignorance—mocking or shaming people for “not knowing”—rather than embracing education as ongoing growth.

• Language Matters: Word choices carry colonial and cultural weight. Shifts in language (e.g., moving away from terms like “sacred cow” or “knitter”) can open space for inclusivity.

• Privilege as Managed Consequences: White privilege often shows up as having consequences absorbed or managed by others—shielding people from accountability.

• Self-Dehumanization: Systems like patriarchy and whiteness train people to see themselves as unworthy, reinforcing cycles of control and comparison.

Chapters

00:00 Crafting Connections: The Art of Creation 02:56 The Healing Power of Crafting 05:49 Fashioning Identity: Clothes and Self-Perception 08:23 Cults and Cultural Commentary 11:18 The Intersection of Control and Identity 14:19 Purity Culture and Its Implications 19:36 The Control of Scarcity and Hierarchy 22:15 Self-Care vs. Self-Slavery 25:37 Deconstructing Identity and Cultural Norms 29:12 Patterns of Control in Cultures and Societies 33:17 The Impact of Purity Culture on Self-Perception 38:20 Communal Bathing and Body Acceptance 42:23 Body Image and Self-Compassion 43:23 Vulva Trauma and Representation 44:46 Cultural Ignorance and Period Stigma 46:52 Racial Dynamics and Cultural Identity 49:24 Compliments and Social Expectations 51:32 Emotional Responses and Social Norms 54:35 Privilege and Consequences 58:38 Language and Cultural Sensitivity 01:08:22 The Political Shift in Creative Spaces 01:11:25 Racism and Class Dynamics in Brazil 01:13:34 Challenging Hierarchies and Embracing Community 01:17:27 Redefining Living Spaces and Authenticity 01:21:21 The Illusion of Retirement and Life Balance 01:23:21 Exploitation of Labor and the Cult of Capitalism 01:29:10 Activism and the Power of Sitting In

Produced by Haley Phillips