Hide & Seek

What makes rope hot — and when should you knot?

Jon and Craig are joined by internationally renowned kink educator, author and authenticity instigator Lee Harrington for a deep dive into rope bondage, Shibari and the connections we create when we tie — or get tied.

Forget the idea that rope is only for impossibly bendy Instagram models dangling dramatically from ceilings. Lee explores rope as communication: a way to play, connect, be vulnerable, get creative and discover what works for the body actually in front of you.

Along the way, we unpack the difference between Shibari and rope bondage, how to negotiate a scene, adapting rope for different bodies and abilities, recognising nerve and circulation issues, planning for when things go wrong, and why a safeword isn’t always enough when it might take ten minutes to untie the human pretzel you’ve created.

Then we loosen the ropes and talk aftercare, top drop, finding teachers who actually know what they’re doing, and why confidence isn’t necessarily the same thing as competence.

Whether you’re an experienced rigger, an enthusiastic bottom, or you’ve never tied anything more complicated than a tarp to the back of a ute, this episode is your invitation to get curious, communicate — and maybe get a little tied up.

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From one night at a club to a national pup institution — this week, Hide and Seek goes back to where the Australian Pup and Handler Competition began.

Jon and Joenas are joined by Pup Tycho, founder of the Australian Pup and Handler Competition, researcher, community organiser and one of the people who helped shape Australia’s modern pup and handler scene.

Ahead of APHC’s return to Boorloo/Perth, Tycho takes us back to the beginning: discovering pup play, stepping into community leadership and creating a national competition with little more than one leather contest, one book about IML and a determination to do things differently.

We unpack the ideas that became central to APHC — transparency, accessibility, affordability, safety and the belief that inclusion has to be something you do, not something you simply claim. Tycho reflects on wheelchair access, sensory spaces, keeping events financially accessible and why taking APHC around the country matters.

Then we follow the competition through its evolution: the frantic first year, its first interstate outing at Gear’d, Tycho receiving the inaugural Nipper Award from International Puppy and Handler Weekend, the uncertainty of the lockdown years, APHC’s post-pandemic return and the growth of an increasingly diverse Australian pup community. And with APHC now owned and run by the community itself, we ask what comes next. What should an Australian titleholder actually do? Where does inclusion still fall short? And if APHC is still going strong another ten years from now, what should its legacy be?

As Tycho puts it: inclusion is an active process.

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Sex, disability and a little bit of first aid — because sometimes the “ooh” becomes an “oops”.

Craig and Jonas are joined by CJ from EthiKink to talk about disability, desire and why disabled people deserve far more than assumptions about what their sex lives look like. From accessibility and communication to autonomy, consent and finding creative ways to make sex work for different bodies, CJ explains why “wonky bonkers have more fun”.

Then things get practical. What happens when someone gets hurt during sex or kink? We get into sexual first aid, safer play, when it’s time to call for help, and why embarrassment should never stop you getting the care you need.

Expect singed pubes, unconventional safe signals, accessible sex, kink wisdom and a reminder that good sex is often about adaptation, communication and knowing what to do when things don’t quite go to plan.

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Leather, drag, porn, politics and a bit of daddy energy — this week, Hide and Seek gets a taste of Honey, and it was sweet!

Jon Kok and Joenas Galinato are joined by drag artist, DJ, activist, adult content creator and reigning International Mr. Leather 2026, Honey Davenport.

Honey made history earlier this year when they took home leather’s most iconic international title, becoming the first competitor from RuPaul’s Drag Race to be crowned International Mr. Leather. But Honey’s story is much bigger than a single sash.

In this episode, Honey talks about growing from the New York drag scene into the House of Davenport, how drag helped them understand their gender, and why performance, activism and community have always been part of the same deliciously sticky package.

We get into their journey through leather, from frozen margaritas near Rawhide to the New York City Eagle, Palm Springs Leather, Mr. Dick’s, and eventually IML itself. Honey reflects on finding their tribe, being a Black non-binary titleholder, and what it means to create belonging in leather and queer spaces rather than just saying the word “inclusive” and hoping for the best.

And because this is Hide and Seek, we do not stop at the safe-for-work version of leather. Honey talks openly about sexual liberation, kink, getting thrown out of leather bars, adult content creation, studio porn with Treasure Island and Nasty Daddy, fisting, leather as fetish, and why their gear is not really gear until it has been played in.

We also look at leather’s history of care, HIV activism and community education, including Honey’s involvement with the Stone That Remembers campaign at the National AIDS Memorial Grove, and why the dads, daddies, elders and mentors in our communities need to start dadding again.

From drag to daddy, from pageants to dick and social justice, Honey Davenport is not here to stay in one lane — and thank goodness for that.

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Body image can get into your head, your sex life, your relationships, your career, your confidence, your clothes, your photos, your apps, and the way you move through the world.

This week on Hide and Seek, Jon and Joenas are joined by singer-songwriter and friend of JOY Greg Gould, and Justin Mark — Mr VicBears 2026 — for a candid conversation about fatphobia, body dysmorphia and what it means to feel sexy in a world that keeps trying to turn bigger bodies into a “before” photo.

Greg shares the real comments people have made about his body across his career, from being told he would be more successful if he lost weight, to being asked about gastric surgery at his own album launch. Justin talks about fat-shaming on apps, bear spaces, body hierarchy, and the long work of learning to see himself as desirable.

Together, they unpack the difference between concern and cruelty, why “just being honest” is often anything but, how body stigma builds up over time, and why it can be so hard to accept kindness or desire when you have spent years being told your body is a problem.

We also get into queer desirability politics, the strange rules inside supposedly body-positive spaces, what it means to be the “right kind” of fat, how performance and public image complicate body confidence, and why respectful desire means letting go of the shame of loving fat bodies.

And because this is Hide and Seek, it is not all neat affirmations and wellness language. Sometimes body positivity means self-love. Sometimes it means body acceptance. Sometimes it means finding your tribe, posting the lewds, wearing the jacket, singing the song, calling out the fatphobia, or simply saying: kiss my fat ass.

For anyone who has been made to feel like they have to shrink before they are allowed to be beautiful, sexy, loved, booked, desired or seen: this one is for you.

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This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

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Bisexual, pansexual, fluid, queer, questioning, heteroflexible, homoflexible, multi-gender attracted — however people describe it, bi+ people have always been here. But when it comes to sexual health and HIV research, bi+ people have too often been folded into other groups, partially seen, or missed altogether.

This week on Hide and Seek, Jon and Jonas are joined by Steve Spencer from NAPWHA and Bella Bushby from the Kirby Institute to talk about the Bi+ Sexual Health and HIV Study — or BiSHH — the first national survey of sex, health and relationships designed specifically for bi+ people in Australia.

Steve first joined us back in 2023 when BiSHH was still being shaped. Now, the study has been completed, the data has landed, and the findings are big. More than 2,000 bi+ people across Australia shared their experiences of sex, relationships, healthcare, HIV, PrEP, U=U, stigma, sexual violence, community connection and what it means to feel properly seen in research.

Bella takes us through why the study was needed, how community shaped the survey from the ground up, and what the findings reveal about the diversity of bi+ lives. Steve brings the community advocate lens, talking about bi+ erasure, HIV stigma, the need for services to stop assuming everyone fits neatly into gay or straight boxes, and why bi+ people need to be involved in designing the systems that are supposed to support them.

Along the way, we talk about why “same-sex attracted” data is not enough, why asking the right questions matters, how stigma can compound across sexuality, gender, HIV status, disability, drug use, sex work and other experiences, and what sexual health services, HIV organisations, LGBTQIA+ spaces, policymakers and funders need to do next.

For any bi+ listeners who hear themselves in this episode: you are not alone, your experiences are real, and there is finally data behind what so many people have known and lived for years.

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Sneaker fetish is back on Hide and Seek.

A few years after first joining us, Wayne from SNKRBAR returns to talk about how Melbourne’s sneaker fetish scene has grown (including moving couches), what has changed since the early days of SNKRBAR, and why sneakers can carry so much erotic, social and cultural meaning.

We unpack sneaker worship, scent, sportswear, lad culture, queer coding, public play, online visibility, consent, hygiene, sneakerhead status, and the difference between loving the shoe, the person wearing it, or the whole scene around it.

From TNs and high tops to footy boots, gym shoes and rare collectors’ pairs, this episode explores how sneakers can become symbols of desire, masculinity, submission, confidence, nostalgia and community.

Whether you’re a dedicated sneaker fetishist, sneaker-curious, or just wondering what your shoes might be saying about you, Wayne helps us lace up and step back into the world of SNKRBAR.

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What makes a queer male pin-up more than just a sexy photograph?

In this episode, Jon and Joenas are joined by photographer and Boots and Suits creator Evan, along with Hide and Seek alum, Tim Little, who recently stepped in front of Evan’s camera for a featured spread.

Together, they explore the visual language of queer male desire: boots, suits, harnesses, posture, gaze, body language and the coded imagery queer communities have used for generations. The conversation looks at how pin-up photography can communicate fantasy, masculinity, confidence, humour and belonging in ways that a standard fashion shoot or thirst trap may not.

Evan shares the origins of Boots and Suits, the influences behind its distinctive Melbourne-made style, and why he chose to create a physical magazine in an increasingly digital world. He reflects on the lasting erotic power of boots, uniforms, tailoring and workwear, and on the importance of queer communities producing and preserving their own images.

Tim takes listeners deep into his shoot, from his initial reaction and pre-shoot prep to the moment he began to relax into the experience. He discusses the vulnerability of being photographed, the emotional impact of seeing the finished images, and what it felt like to recognise himself as sexy, powerful and worthy of being looked at.

The conversation ultimately asks what it means to be seen rather than merely ogled, how erotic photography can celebrate a person without reducing them, and why it can be so powerful to see ordinary, local queer people presented as desirable.

It is a conversation about pin-ups, print, coded desire, body confidence and the queer power of stepping into the frame.

Evan was last on Hide and Seek in Episode 207A – I’m Ready for My Close-Up

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This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

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What makes a queer male pin-up more than just a sexy photograph?

In this episode, Jon and Joenas are joined by photographer and Boots and Suits creator Evan, of @E.F.P.Photography, along with Hide and Seek alum, Tim Little, who recently stepped in front of Evan’s camera for a featured spread.

Together, they explore the visual language of queer male desire: boots, suits, harnesses, posture, gaze, body language and the coded imagery queer communities have used for generations. The conversation looks at how pin-up photography can communicate fantasy, masculinity, confidence, humour and belonging in ways that a standard fashion shoot or thirst trap may not.

Evan shares the origins of Boots and Suits, the influences behind its distinctive Melbourne-made style, and why he chose to create a physical magazine in an increasingly digital world. He reflects on the lasting erotic power of boots, uniforms, tailoring and workwear, and on the importance of queer communities producing and preserving their own images.

Tim takes listeners deep into his shoot, from his initial reaction and pre-shoot prep to the moment he began to relax into the experience. He discusses the vulnerability of being photographed, the emotional impact of seeing the finished images, and what it felt like to recognise himself as sexy, powerful and worthy of being looked at.

The conversation ultimately asks what it means to be seen rather than merely ogled, how erotic photography can celebrate a person without reducing them, and why it can be so powerful to see ordinary, local queer people presented as desirable.

It is a conversation about pin-ups, print, coded desire, body confidence and the queer power of stepping into the frame.

Evan was last on Hide and Seek in Episode 207A – I’m Ready for My Close-Up

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This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

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Leather and rubber might dominate the conversation around fetish clothing, but for some people, nothing compares to the smooth, tight and unmistakable appeal of lycra.

In this episode, Craig speaks with Matt and Ross about lycra fetish, what first drew them to the fabric, and when an interest in sportswear became something more personal and erotic. They explore the appeal of lycra’s look, feel, fit and symbolism, and unpack why clothing fetishes are often misunderstood or dismissed.

The conversation moves into lycra play, collecting, wearing other people’s gear, and the overlap between fetish and sports such as cycling and rowing. Matt and Ross discuss whether lycra is primarily a solo experience or something shared with others, and what a typical play session can involve.

They also consider lycra’s place within broader queer fetish culture. Why is it sometimes treated as less serious than leather or rubber? Where can lycra lovers find community? And how do people navigate consent, visibility and arousal when wearing such form-fitting clothing in public or kink spaces?

Finally, Matt and Ross share some of their favourite experiences, how their fetishes have evolved, and what remains on their lycra “fuck it” lists.

It’s a celebration of stretch, shine, shape and a fabric fetish that deserves far more time in the spotlight.

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This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au