Hide & Seek

With modern treatment, PrEP, and U=U, it’s easy to assume HIV is “sorted.” This episode of Hide and Seek explains why that story is incomplete — and why World AIDS Day still matters in 2025.

Jon and Craig step through the history of World AIDS Day, from the height of the epidemic through to today’s elimination targets, honouring the activists, clinicians, and communities who transformed HIV from a death sentence into a manageable condition, and the impact of access schemes for U=U and PrEP. Along the way, we unpack why remembrance isn’t just symbolic — it actively shapes policy, funding, and care.

The discussion tackles ongoing stigma head-on: on dating apps, in clinics, in shared spaces, and in the language people still use (“clean,” “biohazard,” and worse). We explore why stigma remains one of the biggest barriers to testing, disclosure, and wellbeing — even when the science is crystal clear.

From there, the episode looks forward: injectable PrEP, long-acting ART, broadly neutralising antibodies, mRNA research, and what a future cure might realistically look like. Crucially, we centre the role of people living with HIV — whose participation and advocacy underpin every prevention breakthrough we now benefit from.

This is a grounded, respectful, forward-looking episode that connects HIV to broader questions of justice, equity, and community care — and reminds us that ending HIV isn’t just biomedical. It’s social.

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This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

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Bisexual, pansexual, fluid, questioning — or just tired of being told you’re “actually gay” or “basically straight”? In this week’s Hide and Seek, Jon and Craig are joined by CJ and Little Jase for a big, honest, frequently hilarious conversation about what it really means to live Bi+ in queer, kink, health, and dating spaces.

Picking up from Big Bi+ Questions deep dive into Bi+ sexual health, the episode starts with a reality check: Bi+ people consistently have some of the worst sexual-health outcomes, not because of behaviour, but because we’re routinely erased from messaging. From “MSM” labels that don’t fit, to GPs who don’t know what to ask, the panel unpacks how stigma, data gaps, and awkward assumptions shape care — and why regular testing and shame-free conversations still matter.

From there, things get messier (in a good way). We talk kink and pansexual spaces as unexpected sites of belonging, where gender matters less than consent, communication, and what you’re actually there to do. There are stories of inclusive dance floors, not-quite-inclusive venues, and why “gender-inclusive” doesn’t always mean welcoming — especially for women, trans people, and disabled Bi+ folks.

The episode also tackles dating apps and the “double life” problem: blank profiles, safety risks, Bi+-phobia from all directions, and the emotional labour of being someone’s first safe conversation. Add in Pride, parties, tokenism, chosen family, and the ongoing question of “where do we fit?”, and you’ve got a full-spectrum look at Bi+ life beyond the stereotypes.

Funny, sharp, and deeply human, A Bi and Beyond is a reminder that Bi+ people don’t sit in the middle — we exist everywhere.

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This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

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Play parties can be exhilarating, intimidating, sexy, awkward, joyful — and sometimes all of those at once. In this episode of Hide and Seek, the team break down what play parties rules actually are, why they exist, and how to show up in ways that keep everyone safer, respected, and having a good time.

We start with the bigger picture: play parties as cultural spaces — not just places to hook up, but environments built around consent, chosen family, learning, ritual, and queer and kink community. From lounge-room rope nights to commercial dungeons, pup mosh pits to quiet, atmospheric events, we explore the different types of play parties and how expectations shift depending on the space you’re in.

Then we get into the practical stuff — the universal do’s and don’ts. How to ask before touching anything (including gear). How to express interest without being creepy. When watching is okay, when it’s not, and why interrupting a scene is a fast track to getting escorted out. There are stories, cautionary tales, and reminders that “no” and “not right now” are complete sentences.

The second half of the episode focuses on safety and aftercare — not just physical care, but emotional reality. We talk about drop, nerves, first-time jitters, mess, tears, and why kindness and discretion matter just as much as floggers and tarps. Whether you’re new, curious, or a seasoned attendee, this episode is about navigating play spaces with confidence, care, and consent.

Because great etiquette isn’t complicated — it’s asking, listening, and remembering that play parties are about trust, not entitlement.

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This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

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Sex doesn’t end when the harness comes off or the toys go back in the drawer — and in Part B of Before and After, Tim and Jon make the case that aftercare is just as important as prep, whether you’re into kink, heavy play, or just enthusiastic fucking.

We kick off with the physical stuff: checking your body, knowing what soreness is normal, when bleeding or pain isn’t, and why hydration and electrolytes matter (especially if enemas or long sessions were involved). There’s practical advice on gentle cleaning, toy and gear hygiene, soothing irritated skin, and recognising when it’s time to rest — or see a clinician.

From there, we move into the emotional terrain. Endorphin drop, sub/drop, post-sex vulnerability, and that weird flat feeling that can hit hours or days later all get airtime. We talk reassurance, cuddles, grounding, affirmations, and why a simple “you were great” can be powerful medicine. There’s also space for debriefing — what worked, what didn’t, and how aftercare feeds into better consent next time.

The episode explores aftercare across different contexts: kink scenes, casual hookups, long-term partners, solo play, and public or group settings. We touch on trauma-aware and neurodiverse needs, digital aftercare (yes, that follow-up text matters), and how different subcultures frame care and responsibility.

The closing message is simple but radical: aftercare isn’t optional fluff. It’s harm reduction, it’s communication, and it’s love in action. The sex isn’t over until everyone feels okay.

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This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

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Let’s talk about prep — specifically, the kind that’s surrounded by whispers, myths, porn pressure, and more than a little anxiety. In Part A of Before and After, Tim and Jon get right up in it (figuratively… mostly) to unpack what douching actually is, when it’s useful, and when it’s really not.

We start by clearing up one of the biggest points of confusion: anal rinsing versus vaginal douching, and why lumping them together causes more harm than good. From there, we dig into the why — comfort, confidence, partner expectations — and gently but firmly dismantle the idea that “everyone does it every time.” Spoiler: bodies aren’t porn sets, and they don’t need to be.

This episode takes a practical, shame-free look at how the body works, how far is far enough (hint: you’re not meant to reach the colon), and why over-douching can actually make sex riskier through irritation, micro-tears, and microbiome disruption. We talk timing, frequency, water temperature, equipment choices, and why soap should never be invited to this party.

Just as importantly, we look at the psychological side — cleanliness anxiety, internalised shame, and how cultural ideas of “clean sex” got so deeply embedded in queer spaces. Along the way, we cover accessibility, disability considerations, trans and gender-diverse experiences, and how to talk about prep with partners without turning it into pressure.

The takeaway? You don’t owe anyone “porn-clean.” Comfort, consent, and knowing your own body will always beat unrealistic expectations.

Want to see more? Watch Michael and Mr Australasia Bear 2010 talk douching in this video from downandirty!

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This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

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The Hide & Seek crew head down to Melbourne’s fetish community event The Northside Bizarre at The Laird Hotel, capturing all the fun and frivolity with community interviews from groups and punters alike. Tim and Craig talk about the history and importance of Northside Bizarre, before they’re joined by Jon to talk about the joy of master baking. Who has the best crumb shot? How did community groups get involved? And who was lucky to get a hidden treasure from the secondhand or the auction? Find out in this podcast!

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This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

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Jon and Tim speak with Graham Clark, the author of Coming Out as a Gay Man, Finding Your Tribe as a Leatherman, about his project documenting the coming out stories of leathermen across the globe. In this sextras episode Graham shares his story about his experiences coming out as HIV positive during the AIDS crisis, his first kink experiences and some of the interesting stories leathermen across the globe have shared with him.

Graham’s project can be found on Kickstarter here

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This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

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The Australian Pups and Handlers Competition returned to Melbourne last weekend, and two new title holders were crowned! Pup Lycan was chuffed to win the Puppy title, and Kitty Katastrophy became the first cis-femme winner in the contest’s history! We hear their speeches, the win, and then Jon caught them the day after to hear what’s coming next!

Australian Handler 2025

Kitty Katastrophy from VicPAH

Australian Puppy 2025 

Lycan from Victoria

For more on Pup Play, visit PupPlay.info

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QPAH

We previously covered APHC in 2022 when it was held in Meanjin/Brisbane, in episodes 105 – Power of Dog and 109 – Shaggy Dog Stories. We also covered the comp in 2023 in Boorloo/Perth, in episode 145 – Up to Scratch and its Sextra

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This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

The Australian Pups and Handlers Competition returned to Melbourne last weekend, and Jon got along to see the dogs raise the ruff. We heard from the founder, Pup Tycho, and Handler James about how APHC has changed over the years, and the visitors told us what they thought of the different events. We got to know all of the competitors on the night! Stick around to the end to hear the winners being crowned!

Handler Competitors

Handler Huw from SA-PAH

Kitty Katastrophy from VicPAH

Pup Competitors

Cobalt from VicPAH

Lycan from Victoria

Blitzie from VicPAH

Axel from VicPAH

Leo from SydPAH and Q-PAH

Chase from SA-PAH

For more on Pup Play, visit PupPlay.info

Follow your PAHs!

QPAH

We previously covered APHC in 2022 when it was held in Meanjin/Brisbane, in episodes 105 – Power of Dog and 109 – Shaggy Dog Stories. We also covered the comp in 2023 in Boorloo/Perth, in episode 145 – Up to Scratch and its Sextra

Follow Tim instagram.com/beatzradio/

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Follow Craig instagram.com/white.dragon.339/

This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Following on from the main episode, Tim and Jon go into planning seductions, and going to sex parties as a couple.

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This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au