Hide & Seek

Here to talk affirming trans consent, Michael and Jon are joined by Starlady, the Program Manager at Zoe Belle Gender Collective! With a passion for social justice and a commitment to equity, Starlady tackles discrimination head-on through advocacy, education, and community development. Starlady has worked with remote Indigenous communities and appeared on ABC’s trans focused episode of “You Can’t Ask That” 

Zoe Belle Gender Collective recently launched new 18+ resources discussing sex and consent for both trans and gender diverse people and their partners.

Find resources including the new Gender Diversity, Sex & Consent on the Zoe Belle Gender Collective resources hub

Some other fantastic resources supporting trans folk include

Say It Out Loud – sayitoutloud.org.au

ACON’s TransHub – https transhub.org.au

Qlife – qlife.org.au

Additionally, some of the art from the ZBGC resources is from artist @noahdeaart on X,  @noahdea.art on Instagram

* This episode originally aired Thursday, April 23 2024 on JOY *

This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Content creator Down Under Bri returns to Hide and Seek to recount his journey to the JustForFans conference. Bri shares some of the more titillating panels and plenaries on everything from adult performer taxes, collaborating, and building networks in the world of spicy content.

Bri uncovers some of the pomp and circumstance behind content creation, and some of the more prolific creators being more shy than you’d anticipate!

Bri travelled through LA and even made a stop at the Trixie Motel, meeting a few key collaborators on the way

Bri last joined us on the episode 135 Bri Hard talking about his content creator journey as well as our two part content creators panel Spice Guys Side A and Side B

Brian is @downunderbri on just about everything where you can find all his spicy links

Twitter – twitter.com/downunderbri

Instagram – instagram.com/downunderbri

TikTok tiktok.com/discover/Down-under-bri

…and Guy Films Guy on Twitter – twitter.com/guyfilmsguy

This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Open relationships? For gays? Groundbreaking. Michael, Tim, and Jon explore what it means when your relationship is flexible. As all three of us are in open relationships, we discuss the pros and cons of exploring sex, intimacy, and love with more than one person – be that casual or in a polyamorous situation. We overcome jealousy, and increase communication, communication, communication!

We also congratulate the newly sashed Mr International Puppy, Pup Jaxx – who traveled to Chicago to the International Pup and Trainer Competition and returned with the top nod. Congrats, Jaxx, save some time for us when you get home.

Photo by Polina Tankilevitch from Pexels

This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Globetrotting twink and certified smol boi Benny Fox aka @melbournetwink returns to share his experiences of sex work, content creation, and sex worker safety when travelling. We discuss all things from chemsex for content creators, open relationships, and travelling solo in conservative US states.

Find and follow Benny on all manner of social media and spicy sites via linktr.ee/melbournetwink

Benny last joined us on our episode Sex Shooter to talk about sex worker legislation and decriminilisation

This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

This week is the return of Tim! Yes, we’re recapping Tim’s hot girl summer with some Tim Tales. We’ve got a little something for everyone with tales of fisting, getting caught on a country road, and understall in the uni toilets.

Share your hot girl summer action and activities with us via our socials or shoot us an email!

This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut-Weelam Clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

This episode is the tits, literally! As we look forward to Dark Pink Hanky party in April, we explore nipple fanatics, tit torturers, and those who flag dark pink. We also explore some of the more problematic (and thankfully retired) hanky codes. Jon, Michael and Craig explore their own hanky faves – and get into the nitty gritty about the titty.

Hanky code info taken from The Saint Foundation

Check out Emen8’s guide on The gay handkerchief code and its unusual origins

Find your favourite hanky to flag online

What’s your favourite hanky? Got a story about a flagging mishap or your favourite kink? Share it will us! email [email protected]

This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Newly sashed Laird Leatherman 2024 Jay joins us to talk about the dust settling on his competition night. We talk about our formative leather experiences, opening our community up to more diverse communities, and leading with kindness in the community.

Jay reflects on his exceptional stage presentation including milk and hotdogs, Madonna, and money!

A massive shout out to the four other competitors, Alex, Angelo, JJ, and Sir Z who all put themselves forward.

We extended out chat after the boradcast, so be sure to dial in to the Sextras (Side B) of this episode!

Find Jay at @jockbox on instagram or pop down for a chat to him and fellow sash bearer Joel at Eagle Leather

The Laird Hotel and Laird Leatherman histroy can be found at https://www.lairdhotel.com/laird_leatherman.php 

Find more about the Rainbow Railroad and the Australian Queer Archives

This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukit-Willam Clan of the Boon Wurrung Peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Laird Leatherman 2024 Jay hangs around after our episode went to air for the Sextras, our podcast exclusive content. We chat about Eagle having two title holders on staff, Craig having a sash son, representing community internationally, and supporting disadvantage or displaced queer people overseas.

Another massive shout out to the four other competitors, Alex, Angelo, JJ, and Sir Z who all did an amazing job.

Don’t forget to tune in to the main episode (Side A)

Find Jay at @jockbox on instagram or pop down for a chat to him and fellow sash bearer Joel at Eagle Leather

The Laird Hotel and Laird Leatherman histroy can be found at https://www.lairdhotel.com/laird_leatherman.php 

Find more about the Rainbow Railroad and the Australian Queer Archives

Events we mentioned!

Down an’ Dirty’s Sounding workshop at the Laird – this Saturday, 17 February which JUST sold out! 

Thursday Sunday 22 Feb – International Mr Leather Marcus Barela will be at the Burdekin Hotel for Around the World with IML 45: Destination Sydney

Saturday 24 Feb Melbourne Leather Social (in part hosted by contestant JJ!) are having a Leather Picnic in Alexandra Gardens

14 MArch – Victorian Pride Awards

22 March – Hanky, Restraint 

26 April – Hanky Dark Pink 

This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukit-Willam Clan of the Boon Wurrung Peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

We discuss the recent poop related incident at the Beef Dip party in Puerto Vallarta, and how one comes to be stuck in a pool with an uninvited floater in the mix – and what the fuck you do in such a situation. Photo by Hannah Pemberton on Unsplash

This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Stu and Rob join us to talk about beats and the art of cruising. We chat about why cruising is important to queer men, what makes a visit go right, and keeping safe while frolicking about town.

Beat safety and health info can be found at

downandirty.org and whereversexhappens.org

This weeks episode image provided in part by Photo by Marco Chilese on Unsplash

This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au