Hide & Seek

Jon and extra special guest Craig are joined by our newst bear title holder, Joenas – Mr Vicbears 2024. Joenas shares with us why he wanted to step up and put his best paw forward to represent his bear community, and what it means to share brotherly love amongts bears.

Special shout out to Scott, Nick, Cam, Morgan, and Mr Congeniality Justin for an incredible comp and doing their community proud. And stepping down, but not forgotten  – our outgoing Mr Vicbears 2023 Jonny who joined us last year for the episodes Ep 117 – Bear In There & Ep 130 – Bear With Us

If you missed it, our episode Ep 142 – Kink Looks Better In Colour unpacks more about racism and people of colour in our kink and fetish community

Get more of the Vicbears on facebook

Victoria: Vicbears facebook.com/VicBearsInc instagram instagram.com/vicbearsinc and web at vicbears.org.au

This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Laird Leatherman Craig, our special guest, returns to join us in exploring what it means to exist as non-binary individuals in spaces traditionally defined by gender. We’re also joined by Haydan from Eagle Leather and Melbourne Rubber for this insightful conversation.

During our discussion, we delve into topics such as cis-presenting privilege within our transgender community, the vital aspect of radical visibility, and the implications of gendered titles like ‘LeatherMAN’ for individuals who don’t align with traditional gender identities.

Our conversation extends to the efforts made by some of our communities to create more inclusive spaces for non-binary individuals. We also reflect on the necessity of recognizing our own limitations, biases, and comfort levels when navigating gender-segregated environments, whether it’s dance parties, sex parties, or venues.

In addition, we have an exciting announcement from Melbourne Rubber, exclusively for our podcast listeners!

Regarding Episode 155, we encountered technical issues while recording our discussion with Jasper about Vac Play and restrictive bondage play. Unfortunately, the audio became corrupted due to gremlins in our sound desk. Rest assured, we are actively working on re-recording that episode with Jasper and plan to release it soon!

This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Award wining sex worker Ally Love joins Tim and Jon to explore some of the experiences of trans sex work, safety, how to book or connect with a sex worker – and how to get ‘the girlfriend experience’

Scarlet Alliance – scarletalliance.org.au

Resourcing health & Education (RhED) – sexworker.org.au

Sex Workers Outreach Project (SWOP) – swop.org.au

Vixens – vixen.org.au

Spice Guys – OnlyFans Content Creator Panel podcast 

AllyLoveTS2.0 instagram.com/allylovets2.0

@thetransbarbie twitter.com/thetransbarbie

And all of Ally’s links at AllyLoveTS.com

This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

It’s a big one this week! We’ve got a massive show for you this week, so loosen up!

This past weekend Mr Australian Leather 2023 Shane @leatherman_shane hosted the Title Holder Q &A Panel at the Laird Hotel. The event aimed to  dispel myths and misconceptions about running for a title in our local community – and to impart some wisdom from current and former title holders to the next generation.

The panel included

Mr VicBears 2023, Jonny @mrvicbear2023

Thanks to the Laird Hotel for hosting this event, and for letting us tap into their AV system!

The event also hosted a raffle and auction, which the team from Hanky took out – securing the denim vest owned by Patrick Brookes which he wore when he won  IML –  becoming the first and only male Australian International Mr Leather in 1980. Huge shout out to the Hanky team for raising $4100 for the David Williams Fund!

This episode was recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri Woi Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Michael and Jon look back on the year that was, and what’s on the Hide and Seek roster in 2024.

We’ve got a gangbang of a show coming up in 2024 – so share your tips, tricks, and loads with us! email [email protected] to tell us what you want to hear on the show this year.

Michael’s favoutite episodes of 2023

No Biggie – Small Penis Size

Jon’s favourite episodes of 2023

Kink Looks Better In Colour – Racism in Kink and Fetish Communities

Events coming up!

Titleholder and Competition Q&A @ The Laird (all genders) Sat 13 Jan

This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Body dysmorphia affects queer men in nuanced ways, and while we can’t unpack every single element – we’re going to give it our best shot! Some guys experience body dysmorphia through muscle dysmorphia – sometimes called ‘bigorexia’ where the adoration of bigger bodies can become more than a erotic fascination, but a driver in how we perceive ourselves – sometimes with negative consequences.

Spencer Colt rejoins us to talk about his experience, and how our image can sometimes be tied to schoolyard bullies, and if we push ourselves beyond our limits we could just find ourselves halfway up Mt. Fuji with a double patella dislocation.

Now, not all experiences of body dysmorphia are under this umbrella – so we want to hear from you. If you’ve experienced some form of body dysmorphia we’d love to hear form you. Be that slender guys, chunky boys, tall or short guys – anyone who feels their body doesn’t match up with what their brain thinks it should be.

Spencer last joined us during our OnlyFans content creator episode Spice Guys and the Sextra episode that followed

We talk in non-explicit terms about domestic and intimate partner violence, so if you need some support head to joy.org.au/support

Thorne Harbour’s ReVisioning and No To Violence’s resources on men’s behaviour change programs might be useful, and check out Safe Always supporting LGBTIQA+ people experiencing violence

Spencer is online over at Instagram at @spencercolt_

This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Break out the non-brand named vegetable shorting product and open wide! We’re going deep into the recesses of Tim’s descending colon in an exploration of fisting as Tim goes bravely into the farthest reaches of his digestive system.

Yes, Tim is attempting to take a little more than a knuckle sandwich – and we’re helping out (or being entirely unhelpful – you decide) in helping him get all the way there.

Tim, Michael and Jon are all fists on deck to share some tips, tricks, and tid bits about the art of handballing.

We chatted about Fisting with Michael / FFunOtter earlier in the year on My Left Fist and with Anthony back in 2020 on the episode Fist and Shout

Need some help yourself?

Check out Fisting on Down an’ Dirty [NSFW]

SFAIDS’ 8 steps for first-time fisters

The Sacred Art of Fisting by Larry Shockey – some great tips but this one needs a refresh if you’re thinking about HIV prevention as it’s now a bit dated and doesn’t include PrEP, PEP and U=U info 🙂

This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

We were so chuffed to be the recipients of the 2023 Addam Stobbs Award for Broadcasting Excellence at the JOY AGM!

Addam was a longtime presenter of Allegro Non Troppo at JOY until his passing in 2010 and this award is named for him.

At a time when our community is attacked, called groomers and pedophiles by hate commentators simply for daring to be their authentic selves- it’s truly an honour for us to be able to have the trust of JOY to present a show on broadcast radio about queer sex. Our sex lives form an important part of our lives, and queer pleasure is something we’ll fight tooth and nail to celebrate. So, thank you to the entire team at JOY for acknowledging us this year. Most imortantly, thank you to all our amazing guests who have candidly shared their thoughts and often intimate personal experiences of sex. Here we have a really quick reflection on the night and winning the award.

Don’t worry, the real episode for this week is coming tomorrow.

This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Michael shot off to Adelaide for GEAR’d, Adelaide’s annual multi-day event hosted by Adelaide Leather & Fetish Inc (AL&F).

GEAR’d has become recognised across Australia, and internationally, as its own community haven and an event not to be missed on any kinky calendar. As well as hosting Mr and Ms Leather and Adelaide Rubber titles, a week of workshops, kinky cabaret, and fetish markets was on display.

Thanks so much to the GEAR’d team for throwing a fantastic series of events, and congrats to Mr Leather Adelaide – Storm, Ms Adelaide Leather 2022 – Delinda for your continued reign, Adelaide Rubber 2023 Miss Behavin’, and to the newly sashed Australian Bootblack Soveryn.

Storm: 01:33

We discuss suicide from the 55 minute mark until the end of the episode.

Skye’s One Last Look Photography on Facebook and Instagram

Find Sharon via Piercing Perfection on Instagram

Keep an eye on Adelaide Leather and Fetish and Gear’d socials for more on Storm’s title year!

You can find more on Dr. George Forgan-Smith and his many ventures by banging him into your search bar, or heading to painfreeanal.com

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This episode was recorded and produced on the lands of the Kaurna people, the Wurundjeri people, and broadcast from the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

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Michael Tim and Jon sit down for a Hot Topic sharing session. What have we been doing, what’s been going on, what’s it all about?

Think of it like a slutty pot luck. We chat cruising and beats, dungeon setup safety, and sexting and consent. Delicious!

Cruising safety guide here> https://downandirty.org/app/uploads/2022/12/CRUISING-GUIDE.pdf

This episode was recorded on the lands of the Yalukut Weelam clan of the Boon Wurrung peoples. We pay our respects to their elders, past, present and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty was never ceded.

Find other JOY podcasts at joy.org.au

Find all our links, ask a question, or subscribe linktr.ee/hideandseekonjoy