Heather, what the biggest myth that people have when they hire a professional, coach and trainer and nutrition expert like yourself?
“They're always scared, especially if we're doing nutrition coaching, that they're going to have to give up all their treats and they can never have what they want.”
So what's the truth? If I were to hire you afraid that you're going to take away my doughnuts? Talk me through that process and what it would actually look like.
I actually just had this conversation with two clients this week. I said you may have whatever you like, you may order an entire pizza and eat the entire thing. Because you, my friend, are in charge. But if you want to get to where you told me you want to get, then you need to make choices that will get you there. Can you have a cookie? Absolutely. But if you have a cookie every single day, is it going to get you where you want to go? No, probably not. So you have to choose wisely. And you have to make sure that you're choosing things that will help you get to where you want to go.
But how awesome is that? That you are not only going to help them eat better, but you're going to help them understand why it's their choice. I'm not telling you what you can and cannot have. You're telling me your goal is to wear a swimsuit without shorts in July. If you continue to eat cookies whenever you feel like it, you're not going to want to wear a swimsuit without shorts in July. So the choice is yours. The goal is yours. The opportunity is yours. I am merely giving you the guidebook and the instructions to get to where you want to go. It's whether or not you choose to go there.
One of my favorite quotes and you actually touched this on last week's episode, is from Brian Tracy. “I am responsible, I am responsible, I am responsible.” I added my own little thing to the end and I said, “I am responsible because responsibility gives me power.”
Ashley, what is the biggest myth you find when people are afraid to hire a professional organizer?
“They think that I am going to come in and get rid of all their stuff. That I am going to make them throw it all away.” I don't expect anybody to be a minimalist. I don't expect anybody to get rid of anything that they don't want to. And in fact, I cannot remove anything from your house, that you have not given me permission to remove.
If your goal is to declutter your house and to get organized, I can only do so much to show you how to get there without getting rid of the clutter. There are things we can certainly do to just kind of organize the space and put it all back together. If you want to get there, if you want that goal, you're going to have to get rid of something.
We really do want to help, and we want to help you be successful and give you the power.
Don't be afraid to ask questions. Remember, you are the one that's in control and you are the one that knows what you want, not what you have to do, not what you need to do. You're the one that knows what you want. So make sure that you express your wants. Anytime that you go to work with a coach, trainer, whatever it is that you're looking for professional organizer, nutrition, whatever it is that you're looking for, make sure that you know what you want out of it. So that you are working with a person that can get you there.