Home Is Where The Body Is

In this episode, I explore how letting go of the belief that I had to single-handedly change the world became the thing that finally let me exist without earning it. I reflect on how this shaped my journey toward being able to honestly say that home is wherever I am right now. I talk about:

• The myth of the individual effort (00:55)
• Tired of celebrating great men (04:24)
• Existing in systems that prefer we didn’t (09:07)

This episode is created from an unedited writing fragment on my blog. Visit What My Connective Tissue Knows to read more.

This podcast also has a YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@home-is-where-the-body-is

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In this episode, I explore how the mental health system's obsession with fixing individual brain chemistry kept me from understanding that my symptoms were never random, but rather rational responses to environments designed to harm people like me. I reflect on how this shaped my journey toward being able to honestly say that home is wherever I am right now. I talk about:

1. What the system told me was wrong with me (00:55)
2. Why your brain was never the problem (12:47)
3. From "what's wrong with you" to "what was done to you” (20:00)

This episode is created from an unedited writing fragment on my blog. Visit What My Connective Tissue Knows to read more.

This podcast also has a YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@home-is-where-the-body-is

How to contact me:

You’re welcome to share reflections, feedback, or thoughts at [email protected]

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In this episode, I explore how DEI initiatives, despite their stated purpose, function as a sophisticated mechanism of the systems they claim to dismantle — selecting for compliance, gatekeeping dissent, and abandoning the most marginalized through the very architecture of participation. I reflect on how my experience of this shaped my journey toward being able to honestly say that home is wherever I am right now. I talk about:

• Renovation rather than demolition (00:55)

• Filtering, gatekeeping, and compliance (10:34)

• Moral indemnity and the road out (20:46)

Resources mentioned:

• https://neuroqueer.com/throw-away-the-masters-tools/

This episode is created from an unedited writing fragment on my blog. Visit What My Connective Tissue Knows to read more.

This podcast also has a YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@home-is-where-the-body-is

How to contact me:

You’re welcome to share reflections, feedback, or thoughts at [email protected]

If this episode was meaningful to you:

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In this episode, I explore coercive dependency, the system that weaponizes your need for support against you, and how separating 'needing help' from 'being at fault’ is necessary. I reflect on how this shaped my journey toward being able to honestly say that home is wherever I am right now. I talk about:

• What is coercive dependency and why it's not your fault (00:55)
• The burning frustration of being required to contort (14:35)
• Separating needing support from being at fault (24:06)

This episode is created from an unedited writing fragment on my blog. Visit What My Connective Tissue Knows to read more.

This podcast also has a YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@home-is-where-the-body-is

How to contact me:

You’re welcome to share reflections, feedback, or thoughts at [email protected]

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In this episode, I explore how my experience of dating exposed deep trauma patterns around love and safety. I reflect on how this shaped my journey toward being able to honestly say that home is wherever I am right now. I talk about:

• No one owes me a relationship (00:55)
• Self-reliance: I can be my own parent and savior (09:31)
• Removing external conditions for feeling complete (16:34)

This episode is created from an unedited writing fragment on my blog. Visit What My Connective Tissue Knows to read more.

This podcast also has a YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@home-is-where-the-body-is

How to contact me:

You’re welcome to share reflections, feedback, or thoughts at [email protected]

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In this episode, I explore practical tips for re-parenting and self-regulating after a parentified childhood. I talk about:

• Release schedule update (00:55)
• Summary of previous parentification episode (01:34)
• Reiterating tips shared in previous episode (05:02)
• Continuing list of tips for re-parenting and self-regulating (06:38)
• Summary of list (24:18)

This episode is created from an unedited writing fragment on my blog. Visit What My Connective Tissue Knows to read more.

This podcast also has a YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@home-is-where-the-body-is

How to contact me:

You’re welcome to share reflections, feedback, or thoughts at [email protected]

If this episode was meaningful to you:

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In this episode, I explore how recognizing the parentification of my childhood allowed me to leave behind obligatory caretaking in adult relationships. I reflect on how this shaped my journey toward being able to honestly say that home is wherever I am right now. I talk about:

• When Caretaking Replaces Childhood (00:54)
• How It Rewrites Adult Relationships (6:21)
• Reparenting and Nervous System Reset (11:36)

This episode is created from an unedited writing fragment on my blog. Visit What My Connective Tissue Knows to read more.

This podcast also has a YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@home-is-where-the-body-is

How to contact me:

You’re welcome to share reflections, feedback, or thoughts at [email protected]

If this episode was meaningful to you:

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In this episode, I explore how years of misdiagnosis and medical minimization shaped my understanding of autism, chronic illness, and identity. I reflect on how this influenced my journey toward being able to honestly say that home is wherever I am right now. I talk about:

• Connecting the dots of misdiagnosis and minimization (00:54)
• Moving from self-doubt to self-recognition(12:27)
• Building safety in a dismissive system (20:05)

This episode is created from an unedited writing fragment on my blog. Visit What My Connective Tissue Knows to read more.

This podcast also has a YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@home-is-where-the-body-is

How to contact me:

You’re welcome to share reflections, feedback, or thoughts at [email protected]

If this episode was meaningful to you:

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In this episode, I explore how recognizing that I couldn’t change other people freed me up to detach from unhealthy dynamics more quickly, and invest in relationships that genuinely support me. I reflect on how this shaped my journey toward being able to honestly say that home is wherever I am right now. I talk about:

• I can’t change others (00:54)
• Relearning love and attachment (2:13)
• Safety, boundaries, and letting go (11:52)

This episode is created from an unedited writing fragment on my blog. Visit What My Connective Tissue Knows to read more.

How to contact me:

You’re welcome to share reflections, feedback, or thoughts at [email protected]

If this episode was meaningful to you:

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In this episode, I explore how to emotionally detach from discriminatory workplaces. I reflect on how this shaped my journey toward being able to honestly say that home is wherever I am right now. I talk about:

• Summary of last week’s episode (00:54)
• A bit more on neurotype as a protected class (03:38)
• How to emotionally detach (10:07)

Resources mentioned: 

• Study of sexism in the software industry: https://arxiv.org/abs/2203.10555
• Challenges for autistic women in the workplace: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27927031/

This episode is created from an unedited writing fragment on my blog. Visit What My Connective Tissue Knows to read more.

How to contact me:

You’re welcome to share reflections, feedback, or thoughts at [email protected]

If this episode was meaningful to you:

Leaving an honest review or sharing it with someone who might find it helpful is the best way to support this work.