Tune into Homeless on a Harley, Chapter 8, one of my favorite chapters from Shot At Love, A Celebrity Photographer's Unfiltered Lens on Dating and Finding Love. Dating shouldn’t feel like a jailbreak, but sometimes the heart clings to a locked door. We open with a grounding mantra to the divine feminine and roll straight into Randy “Moose” Gomez’s field notes—thirty years as a PI and bail bondsman distilled into one essential truth: listen like a detective and love like a leader. From pandemic-era scams to everyday mixed signals, we unpack how small details reveal big realities, and why your questions are not drama—they’re data.

The story winds through a raw Thanksgiving heartbreak, a copper-topped bar in South Boston, and a high school spark named Coyote Cameron who skates in hot and exits even hotter. It’s romantic, funny, and a little brutal: the secret workplace, the “lost phone,” the slow fade that says more than words. Along the way, we map practical checkpoints for modern dating—consistency over charm, transparency over mystery, alignment over adrenaline. You’ll hear how nostalgia can blur judgment, how self-talk can free or trap you, and how to spot the moment when grace becomes self-abandonment.

We don’t shame the chemistry; we translate it. When behavior and words don’t match, confusion wins. When someone guards context, believe them. And when your standards rise, your peace follows. If you’ve stayed too long, waited on a text that never came, or ignored a red flag because the weekend felt perfect, this conversation will hand you a steadier compass—rooted in self-respect, active listening, and a PI’s calm eye for patterns.

Press play, take what helps, and set your own checkpoints. If this episode gave you clarity or courage, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs the nudge, and leave a quick review so more people can raise their standards with us.

We explore how a cowboy PI’s listening skills and a hard left turn in South Boston taught us to trust patterns over promises and choose self-respect over heat. The heart goes fast, but the truth arrives on time when you ask better questions and believe what you hear. When people tell you who they are believe them. Please subscribe, rate, and review. Keep up to date with Shot At Love Live events and join the mailing list at www.shotatlovebook.com

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