HONEST HINTS

Someone once said 'stop allowing people to live rent free in your mind' and it is the same with your personal space; stop allowing people to live rent free in your space. Some people don't mean well, so once you can identify that what is being offered doesn't match up with the direction you're heading in, serve them notice. Don't let anyone who doesn't add value to your life take up or taint the space in your life.

At times you're faced with situations that seem bigger than you and you ask questions like 'why me?' or 'what have I done to deserve this?'. Most times we forget that it is nothing we have done but rather the discomfort within others that contributes to our pain. We often forget too that we've played an integral part because no one can make us feel bad about ourselves unless we permit them. So retract consent and live differently. Live happier.

If you're not proud of the thoughts you produce, change them. If you're not proud of the things you've said, do better next time. Words can never be retracted so don't live as though you can take them back. It all starts in the mind right before words are produced and released. You can create your new and desired reality. Speak positively... Influence the outcome one word at a time.

Not every act of kindness is something you really wanted to do. For some of us, we find it difficult to say no. As a matter of fact, we wish we knew how to say no because we have become miserable "yes people". When is it too much? What am I doing to myself? We usually ask these questions after the fact. Be in the know so you can find the balance, heal your aching heart or save yourself from sabotage. Endeavor to be truly selfless.

For too long we've settled for less than we deserve or underestimated the value we ought to receive. We do this so much that we don't know where to draw the line. Whether it is that we are trying to save name or face, we put ourselves last intentionally and unintentionally. Regardless of what aspect of life it is, make it your new goal to daily surpass your own expectations and claim the best for yourself. The time to make a change is now.

For some of us the slightest of hardships we experience along a journey is an indicator to stop pursuing our goals and dreams. That shouldn't be so. Some of the most important things will not come easily, so if you stop trying or call it quits you'll never accomplish anything. Develop a sense of resilience and stick-to-itiveness, believe you can do it one more time, believe you're closer than before and that if you hold on a little longer you can realize those goals. Yes, you can do it.

We all have been involved in some conflict. Maybe we argued and things were said that we regretted or maybe it was physical and pain still lingers. No matter how it happened, we have all done some wrong. It should always be our hope to make right what has gone wrong. We should never be too proud or feel as though we are above others or feel as though we are better than anyone. Despite age gaps, gender, sex, status, time since the wrong has been done or even intellectual capabilities always be willing to apologize and at least attempt to correct any and every wrong.

Without a doubt, there have been countless times that you've been so uncomfortable doing something and you had the choice to change the situation it but you didn't. Maybe it was because you were settling or because you didn't believe that you deserved better. Whatever it was, we sometimes drag ourselves through hard situations only to realise that we could have and should have just been bold enough to let go of that thing so that we could be better. It's not too late. In future, Don't sell yourself short. Let it go! Something better awaits you.

In the hardest of situations our first response is worrying. We think long and hard of the situation before, during and even after it has ended and then we stress about it even when there is nothing we can do about it. Sometimes it is our fear that makes the situation more intense and depression is usually only a step away. However, hope still exists and in these situations if we exercise that hope and a little faith we can and will have a more fruitful life. So no matter what, for this year and the next, instead of worrying let us hope for better. It wont be easy but I hope you will realize it is worth it.

It is not unusual for us to feel sad when we experience hardships and take some time alone to feel better. During this period some friends are chastised because to us they are inconsiderate for not checking up on us.

However, when the roles are reversed so easily it is said that they are "Avoiding you" and you decide to give them they same energy they give... You do know they too might be having a bad day, right??

They may not be avoiding you...