HONEST HINTS

Too often our hopes get stuck in the word phase. Too often it's just something we've thought about. We have to change that for us. Work at ensuring your will power becomes want power so that you will pursue your goals without losing motivation or growning tired. It's really great to power through something and reap the reward, but imagine what will happens when the task requires a longterm commitment and the burnout is upon you. In your speech, thoughts and actions be intentional so that your excellence attracts your success.

The thought of transitioning may be stressing & hard to deal with, but you have to trust that the process is necessary and the change will be good. "Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman." -- Maya Angelou. We shouldn't settle. We are meant to break down barriers, be better than our past & embrace situations that nuture the whole human. The fear of settling should be greater than that of transitioning into your next phase.

It is never good to compare yourself to anyone other than yourself. For one you don't know what advantages they might have or what their life experiences have taught them. Some of them will be more equipped than you are and that's okay. At the end of the day none of that matters to you because you are not them and their journey is not yours. Endeavor to focus on you and you'll be surprised how much more you'll accomplish as you repurpose the time once spent minding other people's businesses and comparing yourself to some of their impossible ideals and standards. Do it for you. Remember comparison is the thief of joy so get rid of the comparison and make it your aspiration to be an inspiration. You've got this.

Time constraints are not that bad. Meeting deadlines are not that bad either. Sure, it takes courage, determination and a strong will but at the end of the day you can do it. Though some persons are racing, life is not a race, all the actions done in whatever way eventually adds up. So make them slow and steady if necessary, progressing day by day, with your scheduled rest, goal and will power to keep you going. Skip the pile ups that are hard to work through. Skip the snooze. You can do it.

Sometimes in the name of finding closure we drag ourselves through some trying situations and it is not worth it. At times we just have to accept the fact that the conversation time has long gone and we don't need to talk it over anymore. Rarely if ever does the conversation impact on our healing but we convince ourselves we need it and so we end up hurting for extended periods. The 'closure' we seek is not always what we get and it can destroys us, so for your own sake after hurting endeavor to find peace, it's all in you, and remember closure is not peace.

Sometimes you just have to unplug. Whether it is the messages or the location or the friends it's ok to take a break from it every once in a while. Indeed that's one of the best way to keep your mental health in check but the pandemic has not afforded us the opportunity. As borders slowly reopen and spending more time outdoors become possible take the opportunity to go out and see a new place and unwind. Respect the safety precautions of course and live in the moment. Enjoy every second and even then remember the best is yet to come.

Sometimes in life things come at us unexpectedly. Most often it is nothing that we could control or could even change but it affects us nonetheless. The fact that it is so unexpected is what gives the most pain as internally it can destroy us while externally it shows what we've been through and not everyone wants that to be seen. In all honesty though, what really matters is how we react to it all. So take it boldly, face it head on and stand to the test. Live unapologetically and face the unexpected with a strength that is in no way expected.

It probably started at 'oops I'm so sorry and I won't do it again' or 'this is the last time, I really didn't mean to', until it become nothing really to do whatever it is that is being done. It becomes just another thing without much thought to it and while it seems ok it really isn't. A popular phrase is to let your conscience be your guide, but how can you activate and utilize the compass if you aren't aware of it. Assess the situation and choose wisely whether wrong or right, good or bad, fair or unfair. Be conscious of your conscience.

It's about time we stop holding on to things that no longer matter. You see those things that no longer serve you, let them go. Stop convincing yourself that you need to hold on to it for it to get better, that's not necessary. Work on the things that are affecting you to create a positive impact always and remove those things that are just keeping up space. It's ok to clear the clutter so you can grow.

We are sometimes too busy chasing the next goal or thing, that we forget the hardwork we invested into getting to where we are now. You probably prayed really hard for it or deprived yourself of something to get it, so why not celebrate it? For all that you've invested, it's worth taking a moment to bask in it. After all, you'll probably only achieve this once. Savour it. Don't forget how much you wanted it and use the same energy of want, when you celebrate the success. Don't be so busy chasing the next milestone that you forget to live in the now. Small or big wins celebrate them.