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In this episode of the Fighting Matters podcast, hosts Steve Kwan, Stephan Kesting, and Jesse Walker break down how bad BJJ coaches trap students with rank. They explore how belt pressure becomes a tool for fear and control, why some gyms drift into cult-like behavior, and how to spot red flags before you get stuck.
đź”— Links Mentioned:
• Grapplearts Black Friday Sale — https://www.grapplearts.com
• BJJ Mental Models Premium — https://bjjmentalmodels.com
• Rough Hands BJJ — https://roughhandsbjj.com
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👥 Featuring:
Steve Kwan — @bjjmentalmodelsÂ
Stephan Kesting — @StephanKestingÂ
Jesse Walker — @roughhandsbjjÂ
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đź§ Topics Discussed:
• How bad coaches use rank as leverage
• Why students feel trapped in toxic gyms
• How cult dynamics show up in BJJ
• When to leave and how to stay safe
• Why character matters more than belts
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đź“– Chapters:
00:00 Intro
02:10 Why rank becomes a trap
10:45 When coaches cross the line
22:30 Cult signs inside BJJ gyms
35:40 How to get out safely
47:20 Why character matters most
59:00 Final thoughts and deals
By Fighting Matters5
1818 ratings
In this episode of the Fighting Matters podcast, hosts Steve Kwan, Stephan Kesting, and Jesse Walker break down how bad BJJ coaches trap students with rank. They explore how belt pressure becomes a tool for fear and control, why some gyms drift into cult-like behavior, and how to spot red flags before you get stuck.
đź”— Links Mentioned:
• Grapplearts Black Friday Sale — https://www.grapplearts.com
• BJJ Mental Models Premium — https://bjjmentalmodels.com
• Rough Hands BJJ — https://roughhandsbjj.com
⸻
👥 Featuring:
Steve Kwan — @bjjmentalmodelsÂ
Stephan Kesting — @StephanKestingÂ
Jesse Walker — @roughhandsbjjÂ
⸻
đź§ Topics Discussed:
• How bad coaches use rank as leverage
• Why students feel trapped in toxic gyms
• How cult dynamics show up in BJJ
• When to leave and how to stay safe
• Why character matters more than belts
⸻
đź“– Chapters:
00:00 Intro
02:10 Why rank becomes a trap
10:45 When coaches cross the line
22:30 Cult signs inside BJJ gyms
35:40 How to get out safely
47:20 Why character matters most
59:00 Final thoughts and deals

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