We've all been there. Your kids are fighting AGAIN—this time over something even more frustrating than earlier today. The noise and sour feelings leave you wondering if there will ever be peace in your home. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about the understandable reasons kids fail to get along and pitch ideas to fix it.

Why This Matters
Kids who get along now are more likely to stay friends as adults. 

Kids Don’t Get Along Because…

·      They both want the same thing

·      They think it's not fair

·      They have different personalities

·      They're at different ages

·      They haven't learned how to share or solve problems

Practical Tips for Dads

1: Get proactive.

Model how to act during conflict, celebrate their strengths, make sure everyone gets “dad time,” talk about how to get along during calm moments, compliment them when they are getting along, and beware of how life events can impact behavior. 

2: Get involved.

Inject yourself when you need to, but stay calm, take breaks to avoid saying things you don’t mean, attack them problem (not them), and find solutions together. 

3: Know when it is time to seek help.

Sometimes, constant conflict requires professional help. Seek counsel if there is physical abuse in your home. 

Important Episode Timestamps
00:00 – 01:13 | Why Sibling Relationships Matter So Much

01:13 – 02:35 | When “Horseplay” Crosses the Line

02:35 – 03:09 | Every Family Deals With It

03:09 – 05:04 | Why Kids Don’t Get Along

05:04 – 07:15 | The Age Gap Struggle

07:15 – 08:46 | Rejection Hurts Most at Home

08:46 – 10:06 | Step 1: Model Healthy Conflict

10:06 – 12:04 | Step 2: Create “Me and Dad” Time

12:04 – 16:10 | Step 3: Teach Through Calm Moments

16:10 – End | Step 4: Know When to Get Help

APD Pro Move:
Create a family rule or motto for how you plan to treat each other.

All Pro Dad Resources

10 Ways to Curb Sibling Rivalry

How to Stop Backseat Bickering

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